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12 Years Sober Today!

When I decided to quit drinking 12.1 years ago, I never really thought what the future would look like. In fact, I didn't even care, all I knew, is if I could make a year, I could go forever.

I love making this yearly post for 2 main reasons:

The amount of people that comment and message on how long they have gone. Whether it is their first time going a week, hitting the 30 day mark... again, or being in triple digit days. It's so awesome to see and hear everyone's success stories.

The second the, the amount of private messages I get, from people struggling, asking how to quit, and the frustrations they face. But at the same time, I love their drive to want to quit. Even if it isn't happening now, they are still trying.

I don't care if you drink or not. (I kind of so) But I really believe that alcohol doesn't solve any problems.

Remember, it's going to be hard and it's going to be a silent journey. And you're going to have to sit on that silence. Which may drive some of you to drink and keep repeating the process. The sooner you can sit in the silence, that uncomfortableness and work through it, the faster you'll get to the other side.

You're allowed to fail, you're just not allowed to quit!

A year ago this weekend, I won my pro card in the WNBF in Calgary. (I guess I should update my IG bio to say pro now eh?)

VS today, Stone said we had to do a not giving up challenge and workout every day.

This kid is the living example of how they watch you and mimic your habits.
I've never made him work out ever; he does it on his own and loves it. He'll even go and do a quick workout and not want me to join.

It was truly amazing last year to have him in the crowd at 3 years old, hearing him say while I was onstage, "That's my Dad!"

I am pretty sure I'll be doing this WNBF show in Calgary again next year, in 52 weeks, and so excited to have this mini me tag along, motivate me, tell me not to give up, on this contest prep journey coming up!

Happy Monday ya'll!

Why do you keep slipping back into old habits, even when things are going well?

It’s not because you’re lazy.
It’s not because the plan is wrong.
It’s because your self-image hasn’t caught up to your actions yet.

Here’s what I mean:

Imagine your self-image is like a thermostat set to 68°F.
You start following your plan, things are heating up, energy’s higher, weight’s coming off, you’re in a groove…

But that progress doesn’t match your internal setting.
So what happens?

The thermostat kicks in.

Not literally, of course, but your subconscious pulls you back to what feels familiar:

Skipping workouts
Forgetting to log
Telling yourself, “I’ve been good lately… one off day won’t matter.”

It feels random… but it’s not.

You’re not failing.
You’re just experiencing the pull of your past identity.

Here’s the good news:
You don’t need to fight harder.
You need to reset your set point.

That means:

Seeing yourself as someone who finishes what they start

Believing you’re capable of lasting change

Acting as if you’re already the version of you you want to become

I’m not here to just give you macros or workouts.
I’m here to help you raise the standard you hold for yourself, from the inside out.

Because the moment you change your identity…
Your results become automatic.

She had tracked every macro.
Hit every workout.
Checked in every week.
And the scale was dropping.

But then, something shifted.

She started skipping check-ins.
Stopped logging.
Told herself she’d “just take a break for a bit.”

And in three weeks, all the momentum she worked so hard to build was gone.

Here’s the part most coaches won’t say out loud:

She didn’t fall off because the plan stopped working.
She fell off because success didn’t match her self-image.

Because deep down, she still believed she was someone who always gains it back.
Someone who can’t be consistent.
Someone who “gets excited, then fades.”

So her subconscious did what it’s designed to do, pull her back to what’s familiar.
Back to her identity set point.

If you see yourself as someone who struggles with food…
You’ll keep struggling, even when you’re eating perfectly.

If you see yourself as someone who never finishes…
You’ll unconsciously start quitting as soon as things start working.

You will never consistently outperform the way you see yourself.

The good news?

Self-image can change.
And it starts the moment you realize:
You’re not broken.
You’re just running an old identity pattern that no longer fits the person you're becoming.

This isn’t about more motivation.
It’s about raising your internal standard.

The day you start believing, “I am someone who follows through,”
…is the day your plan starts working for you, not against you.

Easter eating habits ranged from 'I’ve got a plan' to 'send help, I’ve eaten my weight in chocolate' 🍫🐣

This list may help you navigate and give you a few ideas on handling events if you are new to dieting or want to mitigate the damage.

1️⃣ Eat whatever you want and ride that 5-lb wave into next week.
2️⃣ Binge hard, then punish yourself with cardio and starvation.
3️⃣ Pre-log your food and plan the day so you can enjoy dinner stress-free.
4️⃣ Fast all day, enjoy the big meal, and don’t log a thing, just damage control.
5️⃣ Bank 200-300 kcal/day leading up to Easter so you’ve got a buffer.
6️⃣ Say “screw it” after one chocolate egg and go off the rails all weekend.
7️⃣ Promise to restart on Tuesday… again.
8️⃣ Graze all day, chocolate here, a bite there and somehow hit 3000+ calories.
9️⃣ Tell yourself it’ll be just protein and veggies... then devour dessert.
🔟 Bring your own food and control what you can.

1️⃣1️⃣ Eat what you love, but with boundaries. Portion control, one dessert, done.
1️⃣2️⃣ Go for a long family walk after dinner to help digestion & stay active.
1️⃣3️⃣ Choose your indulgence: either a big meal or dessert, not both.
1️⃣4️⃣ Track like it’s any other day and stick to your plan.
1️⃣5️⃣ Focus more on people, not plates.
1️⃣6️⃣ Eat the damn chocolate. Guilt-free.
1️⃣7️⃣ Mentally estimate your calories and stay aware without logging.
1️⃣8️⃣ Use food to survive family drama... regret it later.
1️⃣9️⃣ Aim for 80%, not perfection.
2️⃣0️⃣ Make a choice, own it, and move on. No guilt. No extremes.

If only results came hidden inside an Easter egg…

You can hunt for Easter eggs.
You can hunt for motivation.
You can even hunt for the “perfect plan.”

But if you’re still stuck…
It’s not because you haven’t found the right thing.
It’s because you haven’t followed through on anything.

📌 You don’t need more inspiration.
📌 You don’t need to feel “ready.”
📌 And no, the problem isn’t chocolate.

What you’re really missing is structure. Clarity. Accountability.
Not another reset. Not another reason to wait.

While most people are falling off after the weekend, I’m in the gym,still moving forward.
Because the secret isn’t hype… it’s consistency.

(And before you ask, no, flexing in short shorts isn’t required in my coaching… but it does help with quad development.)

If you’re tired of starting over after every holiday… DM me “AFTER EASTER” and let’s get this rolling.
Let next Monday be different,for once.

💬 Drop a 🐣 below if you’ve been waiting for a sign and this feels like it.

You’ve had questions about coaching. You just haven’t asked them because that would mean you’re serious.

But you haven’t asked.
Not because you don’t want answers
But because asking means you’re thinking about actually doing it.

And that’s scary.
Because if you’re serious… now you’ve got something to lose.
Now it’s real.
Now you can’t pretend you’re just “researching options.”

I get it.
But here’s your permission slip:
You can ask the question without signing your life away.

You can DM me and say:

“What do you actually do?”

“Is this right for me?”

“Do I even need coaching?”

“What happens if I fail… again?”

📩 DM me “I’ve got a question” and I’ll give you a real answer, no pitch, no pressure.

The Difference Between People Who Succeed & People Who Stay Stuck

Let’s just say it:

The difference between people who get results and people who stay stuck isn’t a better plan.
It’s not better genetics, more free time, or some magical willpower boost.

It’s this:
🔥 People who succeed follow through, even when it’s not convenient.
🔥 People who succeed don’t ghost themselves every time things get uncomfortable.
🔥 People who succeed stop restarting and start adjusting.

And want to know the REAL difference-maker?
👉 They have someone keeping them on track.
👉 They have someone calling them out when they start slipping.
👉 They have structure. Feedback. Accountability.

In other words… they don’t just hope it’ll work this time.
They make sure it does.

That’s what I do.
I’m the reason it stops being a cycle and finally becomes a breakthrough.

📩 DM me “I’M READY” if you’re tired of watching other people succeed while you keep talking yourself out of starting.