Jessica Mowforth, RNT, CNP

We don’t turn our femininity on and off like a light switch.

Being masculine in our work and feminine when we’re at home is a myth.

You may be cyclical and have ever changing desires and needs, but you’re not a ping pong ball going back and fourth needing multiple personalities dependant on what you’re doing.

If you feel like you do, I encourage you to get curious about what’s driving this way of living because it sounds exhausting!

Take a swipe to read the truth on embodying your true feminine essence so you no longer need to carry the weight of a masculine shield that you know longer need.

I’d love to hear your thoughts and comments 🤍

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If you’re interested in more details l, DM me or click the coaching link in my bio. xo

Metaphorical Mask #1 - The Mask of Masculinity and the ways in which women utilize it to keep themselves hidden.

Is this you?

All week I’ve broken down some of the ways in which this mask shows up, what’s underneath it, why you’d want to take it off and how you can do just that.

Take a SWIPE to get the Coles notes here and don’t forget to SAVE for a cheeky little reminder later 💕

Stay tuned for mask #2 (The Chameleon) coming atcha Monday!

Happy Saturday ya’ll!
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Who are YOU underneath all the conditioning?

Are you living from your truth or a narrative that you’ve been taught?

If you’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed or like you’re just “going through the motions”, chances are there is a disconnection between you and your true authentic self.

If this feels disheartening, stay with me!

This is a really good thing to know. It means that you now get to connect to the you that is true.

Which also means there is so much energy, excitement and love on the other side.

Freedom to be you and to be seen, heard and accepted for everything that you are. Does that not sound amazing?

I’ve created a course that will teach you how to understand who you truly are so that you can access your power and create
the love and success you desire.

I have not launched the course yet, so stay tuned - it’s coming 🔥

If you want more details, let me know in my DM’s or jump to the link in my bio and get your cute butt on the waitlist for special pricing and added bonuses.

Am I speaking to you with any of the above?

It’s been a bit of a rollercoaster these days, amirite? You have every reason in the world to be feeling the way you do.

I have good news, there’s a way out!

First, take a deep breath! You’re here, you’re alive and this is a great thing.

Second, now that you recognize there’s a disconnection, regardless of what’s going on around you you get to choose YOU! This is the only way to take your power back and break those chains.

People and disruptive circumstances will never go away. You will experience challenges for the rest of your life. *don’t shoot the messenger 😜

What if I told you it’s not about avoiding these challenges but learning the tools to become a better version of yourself throughout them?

You deserve to be happy, you deserve to love and be loved and feel excited about your life.

Yes there will be ebbs and flows, but when you know how to connect to yourself in both, you’ll experience more freedom and peace of mind because you’ll have the self trust and clarity knowing how to show up and what to do next.

If you struggle to get out of your head and connect to yourself, CLICK THE LINK in my bio to join the waitlist as I’ve got one heck of a course coming your way.

It would be impossible for you to walk away from this course without the tools to love, trust and connect to the most important person in your life, yourself.

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Intimacy, connection and closeness is literally IMPOSSIBLE without vulnerability.

Sharing yourself and being seen by another for everything that you are and everything that you’re not are some of the most incredible and exhilarating moments of life.

The build up to these moments are also some of the most terrifying, and for that reason some people avoid vulnerability like the plague or get caught up in the “word-vomit” style just so they can get it out.

Regulating your nervous system and peeling back the layers to explore what’s really happening under your feelings and emotions is essential for true vulnerability.

If you don’t understand what’s creating the discomfort or you get overwhelmed by your emotions, it’s going to be quite challenging to clearly articulate how you’re experiencing something and ask for what you need.

DM me the word “LOVE” if you want to learn how to communicate like a Queen and really step into your true vulnerability.

Happy Hump Day Beauty!!
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Intimacy, connection and closeness is literally IMPOSSIBLE without vulnerability.

Sharing yourself and being seen by another for everything that you are and everything that you’re not are some of the most incredible and exhilarating moments of life.

The build up to these moments are also some of the most terrifying, and for that reason some people avoid vulnerability like the plague or get caught up in the “word-vomit” style just so they can get it out.

Regulating your nervous system and peeling back the layers to explore what’s really happening under your feelings and emotions is essential for true vulnerability.

If you don’t understand what’s creating the discomfort or you get overwhelmed by your emotions, it’s going to be quite challenging to clearly articulate how you’re experiencing something and ask for what you need.

Vulnerability is something so special and understanding the fears behind giving the compliment, initiating physical affection, owning up to a mistake or speaking up for how you feel takes courage

Communication not your strong suit?

Based on last weeks poll, you’re not alone girlfriend! 46% of you voted for communication as your biggest challenge, especially in your relationships.

Give these “swaps” a go and if you’d like to learn more, drop the words “COMMUNICATION WOES” in my DM’s and we can get super specific to you.

Happy Monday, I dare you to keep your heart open this week 😉

Communication is your #1 tool to having truly intimate connections and feeling seen and heard.

I usually hear “chemistry” from people when they tell me what they want in their relationship.

The bad news - the chemistry you feel in the beginning will not last the duration of the partnership. The good news - new chemistry can be created and it has nothing to do with physicalities and everything to do with compatibility and communication.

Here are 6 common mistakes people make when communicating.

I want to point out that these are all protection strategies and not because you’re simply a “bad communicator”.

This is why it’s so important to get intimately connected with yourself first so you can let go of the need to control, prove a point or defend yourself.

Drop some 💕 emojis in the comment section below if you also believe communication is a power tool for connection.

The term “self love” grosses me out and here’s why…

I do not believe that you can learn how to love yourself from anything outside of yourself.

As much as bubble baths, pedicures, fancy treatments and trendy clothes are great and can support your self-care and expression, it’s all external and it can NOT be the source or the catalyst to you loving yourself.

You can’t eat the best foods, wear the most stylish outfits and have the cutest nails and go home and tell yourself “I look fat”, “I talked too much on that date” or “why am I so stupid” and pretend to love yourself.

What matters more is what you’re saying, thinking or believing about yourself over any of the rest. The dialog between you and YOU. How you communicate to yourself is the key ingredient to self love.

Self-soothing, self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-kindness, self-forgiveness ⬅️ THIS IS SELF LOVE!

Just like the saying “you can’t outwork a bad diet” …botox, injections, red light therapy, weight lifting, green juice or red bottom shoes will never override destructive self-dialog.

I am not bashing any of the above (trust me, I love my red light, lifting weights and I could easily get down with a red bottom 😉), I just want to be clear on what I believe is the reason so many people struggle to love themselves outside of what’s trending on social media.

Comment “Yes” or you agree 💕

Have you ever heard of your strategic self?

If you’re human, it comes with the territory so I encourage you to keep reading ;)

Your strategic self is the version of you that creates strategies (knowingly and unknowingly), to protect yourself and to use to gain acceptance, love and belonging.

These strategies start developing real young (like when you were a baby type young 🍼) You would learn from your parents what you needed to do to get their attention and get your needs met.

You then learned from extended family, friends, crushes, media and school peers what you needed to do in order to fit in, get chosen and be “cool”.

Over the years these strategies become subconscious conditioning and you take them on as personal traits with the belief it’s what you need in order to be loved, accepted and safe.

3 of the most common strategies I hear are:

A) Perfectionism

B) Overachieving

C) Excessive need to look a certain way

The thing is, these traits are not who you are at your core. They are just strategies used to protect yourself, get love or to cope with uncomfortable experiences.

I could definitely relate to all 3 and they still pop up from time to time depending on what’s going on in my world.

Which one are you… A, B, C, D (all of the above) or E (other)?

Let me know in the comments below 👇

Connecting to others is going to be really hard if you’re not connected to yourself first 💕

Take a swipe ➡️ to see if you resonate with any of the signs that indicate you need to be focusing a little more attention on self-intimacy.

Interested in learning HOW TO create more intimacy and connection with yourself?

Apply to work with me by clicking the link in my bio✨

Have you ever said “remember that Tuesday 7 years ago when…”?

Probably not, right?!

Memories are experiences that have evoked emotions which create imprints on your brain and nervous system.

It’s the moments we remember, not the day itself.

The reason I bring this up is because you have moment after moment after moment on any given day to get up and try again.

Today doesn’t matter that it’s Monday. Who do you choose to be today, right now in this moment and the next?

Be intentional, slow down and presence yourself with what you’re doing, who you’re with and why it is you’re doing whatever it is you’re doing.

The things that aren’t working in your life the way you’d like them to are because you’re passing over moments with rapid speed planning for the next or protecting from the last.

Who do you choose to be in THIS moment?

I choose to be: courageous, kind and peaceful.

Drop some ♥️’s in the comments if this resonates with you.