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Mistake

n.

1. An opportunity life gives us to know better.

2. An opportunity life gives us to earn trust.

It’s interesting how often we grow terrified of making mistakes, when there’s no greater vehicle for gaining knowledge and trust.

Think about it:

When a mistake is made, we’re granted deeper awareness of what’s working and what isn’t. And there’s nothing more valuable than knowing better—because once we know better, we get to do better.

It’s also when trust (with another or with ourselves) actually gets forged.

Because trust doesn’t happen in perfection when there are no errors. It happens when a mistake happens, accountability is taken and amends are made with new behavior.

But it’s not entirely a mystery to me why we are often scared of making mistakes.

If we’re being honest, we’re not really afraid of making a mistake as much as we’re afraid of how we treat ourselves when we do.

It’s dealing with the shame, guilt, negative self-talk (emotional abuse) that we tend to collapse into.

It's having to reconcile the version we want to be with the version we currently are.

It’s having to forgive ourselves, time and time again, for not meeting our own standards.

And that’s a beautiful process, if and when we let it.

—Jovanny Varela

Artwork by Growth by Visuals

Many of us were raised in rooms where keeping up appearances mattered infinitely more than handling what was actually happening beneath the surface. When things got heavy, uncomfortable, or messy, the unspoken rule was always to swallow the feeling, change the subject, and pretend everything was perfectly fine.

But hiding the tension never actually made it disappear. It just forced a whole generation to grow up walking on eggshells inside their own skin.

Lifting that carpet and naming the hard things isn’t a soft choice; it’s a labour of love. It means having the maturity to look at old family chapters and deciding that the silence stops with us. When our own kids have a rough day, throw a massive tantrum, or push a boundary, we don't treat their big emotions like an emergency that needs to be crushed or hidden away just to keep the peace.

This isn't about letting the rules slide or turning the living room into a chaotic free-for-all. Boundaries still matter.

But real authority means being secure enough to let the truth land in the room without letting it break our composure. When we provide a predictable climate where feelings can be spoken, handled, and safely put away, we are handing our children the raw materials for a deep, lifelong self-trust.

We prove to them that messy realities can be handled out in the open, ensuring we are leaving behind a clean, honest room where everyone can finally just take a straight breath. ❤️

Biggest sign of childhood🍃

🏠 The Anger House

Most people think anger is the problem.

But anger is often just the roof.

Underneath anger there may be:
💔 Unmet needs
😔 Hurt
😢 Grief
😨 Fear
🚫 Boundaries that were ignored
🧒 Childhood experiences that never felt safe

When we only focus on the anger, we miss the story underneath it.

Healing begins when we become curious about our emotions instead of judging them.

Ask yourself:

✨ Where did I learn anger from?
✨ What triggers it?
✨ What emotions sit underneath it?
✨ What helps me feel calm and safe?

Anger is not the enemy.

It is often a messenger carrying information about pain that needs attention.

The goal is not to suppress anger.

The goal is to understand it.

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