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I used to be the most giving person in any room.
And sometimes the loneliest. Living in a constant masculine energy.

Not because people didn't care about me.
But because I had spent so long hiding parts of me that nobody actually knew. Because I was scared and shameful.
I didn't ask for what I needed and I didn't always let people in when I was struggling.

I performed capability and composure and low maintenance — and then quietly fell apart because I wanted what others had but didn’t think I deserved it.

And resented the people who weren't there.

This is the pattern I see most in the women I work with and one I lived for the longest time.

It doesn't come from nowhere. It comes from learning early that certain parts of you were too much, so you tucked them away and showed the world the version that felt safe to love.

The work isn't about becoming more confident or more vulnerable overnight.
It's about understanding why you hid in the first place.
And making it safe — slowly, gently — to be seen.

💜Here’s what the past month reminded me about patterns💜

When my nervous system hit the floor, the sleep deprivation, the postpartum depletion, the rage, the dissociation — I didn’t just experience it. I watched it.

I watched the old patterns come rushing back in. The not good enough, the I’m failing, the what’s the point.

The shame spiral disguised as self awareness.
And here’s what I know to be true about that:
A dysregulated nervous system doesn’t create new patterns.

It resurrects the old ones.
The ones that have been waiting quietly for the moment you were depleted enough that your defences came down.

That’s not weakness, it’s biology.

When we are exhausted, overwhelmed, running on empty — the nervous system reverts to its oldest programming. The survival responses that kept us safe once upon a time come back online.

Not because we haven’t healed. But because healing isn’t linear and the body will always default to familiar when it’s under enough stress.

What I also know?

The work I teach and do is the reason I came through it.

Asking for help. Emotional release work. Nervous system regulation. Awareness without judgment. Meeting the pattern with curiosity instead of shame.

These aren’t things I teach because they sound good.
They’re things I teach because they are the difference between being consumed by the pattern and being able to watch it, even from inside it. It’s learning when to accept help you may not have thought you would have needed, because you’re aware enough to know you need it. With compassion.

That’s what The Cycle Reset™ is built on.

Not the idea that you’ll never struggle again.
But that when you do, you’ll have the tools to come back to yourself.

If you’ve been in it lately, you’re not broken. Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was programmed to do.

2 spots remaining in The Cycle Reset™. Starting soon.

Drop RESET in the comments or send me a DM. 🤍

I’ve been silently plummeting into a dark place

Now more than ever, practicing what I preach is paramount.

The honest truth is that I have been struggling for the past month. Questioning everything. What’s the point in it all? Am I living out my life’s purpose? and the big one- I’m a s**t mother, I should never have brought an innocent baby into this world.

Chronic sleep deprivation and post partum depletion. My body has nothing left..nothing. And there is literally no where to hide.

I’ve been snapping at Kaiden, dissociating in group settings, feeling rage I’ve never experienced before, and finding most days a battle. The thought of getting in the car- forget it, going somewhere public- too stressful, exercising- I’ll probably get half way through and my son will find a way to stop it. What a negative, s**t way to be- who am I to be a coach?

I am coming out of it and I feel so positive for what’s to come. Deeper understanding of others’ experiences, deeper awareness of the brain and how at times in life, we need the extra help. More empathy for what mothers with non sleeping children go through, and another chapter to my story that I can say I survived.

I debated posting this. But showing up as anything less than honest would go against everything I stand for. I refuse to perform a highlight reel when that’s the very thing that makes us feel so alone

So if you’re in it right now👇🏽

💜 You probably aren’t seeing the full picture online
💜 It’s okay to need extra help
💜 You aren’t a failure- keep going
💜 Your kids love you and chose you.
💜 It’s ok to struggle- it doesn’t need to define you

Ways I have managed moving through this and will continue to prioritize 👇🏽

💜What’s getting me through: emotional release work, connection, daily joy, gratitude, and nourishing my body.💜

And this is what I know to be true — when we fall this deeply, it’s always a prerequisite for the next version of ourselves. The one we need to become to create what we truly desire. So take the fall with an open heart. ♥️
Watch this space. The deepest falls always precede the next version of yourself. 🔥

This one has been a long time coming.

Not just in the building of it — but in the living of it.
Every pattern I’ve worked through. Every cycle I’ve broken. Every moment I sat across from a woman and watched something finally shift after years of it not shifting.

This is where it all lives.

The Cycle Reset™ is open.

Eight weeks. Trauma informed. Going to the root of the unconscious patterns running your relationships, your emotions and your sense of self.

Not the surface.
Not another program that names the problem without reaching it.

The actual work.

If you’ve been following along and something has been landing — this is what it’s been leading to.

If you’re new here and this stopped you — trust that.
Either way, you’ll know if this is for you.

Drop RESET in the comments or send me a DM and I’ll send you everything you need to know. 🤍

↓ Save this. Share it with the woman who needs it. You’ll know who she is.

I’ve been quiet for a little while. Life with a one year old who doesn’t sleep will do that to you.

But I’ve been building something in the background — and it’s almost ready.

If you’ve been following along, you’ll know exactly what it is.

Tomorrow. 🤍

I spent years talking about my patterns.

With psychologists, with counsellors, and with anyone who would listen to be fair. All in desperate hope someone might finally have answers for me

And I understood them, I really did. I had the language, the context, the awareness and I still couldn’t stop repeating them.

For a long time I thought that meant something was wrong with me. That I was too far gone... and that even understanding it wasn’t enough, so what hope did I have?

But here’s what nobody told me:
Talking about a pattern and shifting a pattern are two completely different things.
Traditional counselling works at the level of conscious thought. The thinking, talking, understanding part of your brain.

But your patterns don’t live there.
They live in your nervous system and in your body. They live in the part of your brain that controls your safety responses and emotional reactions. The part that is wired for survival.

And talking doesn’t always reach that place.

To shift the pattern, you have to go to where it was created.

In the body and subconscious. And in the nervous system that learned a long time ago that this is what safety feels like.

That’s what changed everything for me.

And that’s exactly what we do inside The Cycle Reset™.

If you’ve done the talking and something is still in the way — that’s not a sign you’re beyond help.
It’s a sign you haven’t yet found the work that goes deep enough.

Drop RESET in the comments or send me a DM.
I’ll tell you everything you need to know.

↓ Save this for the woman in your life who has tried everything and still feels stuck.