Kim Brightness

No Ma’am. I decided NOT to sue for defamation after my 15-month long narcissistic litigation trial in Superior Court ⚖️.

I had all of the receipts (still do 🤪).
But I lost this one thing…

The drive to beat him.
Get payback.
Make sure he was punished.
All at my hands.

Divorce is a trial.
Contempt defense is a trial.
Defamation is a trial.

I waived the white flag 🏳️ and surrendered retribution to God.

I teach this in the Narc Recovery Nest; we don’t focus on revenge, getting our lick back, making them pay… Because any focus in their direction is a DEFICIT to your DESTINY.

I decided to re-direct my focus and energy on bettering Kim—not beating him.

Sometimes you have to fight, but this personal decision paid dividends for me 🏆.

Comment NEST and let’s build your personal strategy for healing, together ❤️‍🩹.

Don’t let what they did to you turn you into someone you don’t recognize.

The lesson is not to become cold 🥶. The lesson is to become clear.

The narcissist may have tried to harden your heart, shrink your softness, and make you question the goodness you bring into the world. But your empathy was never the problem. Your compassion was never weakness. Your kindness was never stupidity.

Keep your heart open, but keep your boundaries strong. Stay loving, stay discerning, and never let someone’s darkness convince you to dim your own light ✨.

Comment NEST if you need support healing without losing yourself.

Ever notice how a narcissist will finally admit they were wrong, only to spend the next 10 mins, days, weeks, YEARS explaining why you’re the real problem?

That’s an accountability bait-and-switch, boo.

They say:

“Yes, I did it, but YOU…”

And just like that, the spotlight moves from their behavior to your reaction or your past.

I call this Counterfeit Accountability.

It looks like ownership.
It sounds like remorse.
But it’s really another form of manipulation.

If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling more confused than when it started, this may be why. AND this may be why you stay 😲.

Comment or DM NEST for help and clarity 🌷.

Maybe it’s not your picker 🧐. Maybe it’s the truth that you can’t control whether someone continues picking God.

God picked Saul—think YOUR picker alone can guarantee someone’s position?

It takes more than choosing a God-fearing man or woman; character, trust, respect, true intentions and the ability to properly manage disappointment and loss are things that matter, too.

If you’re a Kingdom ma’am or sir who’s struggling with the dissonance of church and toxic relationships, shoot me a DM and let’s work together towards your clarity. 🌷🙏🏽

Narcissistic people will try to make you feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries for yourself.

Don’t hand them the key that locks you behind closed doors—crying, distraught, second-guessing your whole life 🤦🏾‍♀️.

See Chapter 5 in Dumb BITCH book for guidance on setting “beautiful boundaries” at DumbBITCHBook.com 🌷.

Ma’ams & Sirs: What ingredients must a man or woman bring to the table?

I like my salad 🥗 like I like my man: Vibrant, layered, nourishing, mature, full of substance and character, not afraid to bring a little zest to the table with his reverence for God 💯🫦🔥🥰.

So what we doin? Bland behavior or well-seasoned intentions? 😉