Surving Absence

You can learn something from Mabrijo

Dear Younger Self,

You're going to be okay. Your parents being away doesn't define your worth. You're loved, even when it feels like you're not. You're strong, and you're doing the best you can, and that's enough.

You might feel scared, lonely, or like you're not good enough. That's okay. Those feelings are valid. But know that better days are coming. You'll find people who care about you, who'll show you love and support.

Keep holding on to hope. Keep being brave. You're not alone, even when it feels like you are.

You're going to grow into an amazing person, and it's okay to stumble along the way.

Sending you love and patience,
Me...

😔 Mama haana kundida,
Ndakasara ndega,
Ndakachema ndega,
Pasina wandinomama.

Ndinotadza chii,
Ndinoshaya chokudya,
Ndinotadza chii,
Wakandisiya ndiri mudoko

Translation:
My mom didn't love me,
I was left alone,
I cried alone,
Without anyone to comfort me.

What did I do wrong?
I lack food,
What did I do wrong?
You left me when I was young.

A man who truly loves his children will protect the heart of their mother.

Because the emotional health of the mother affects the emotional health of the home.

When she is constantly wounded,
she becomes tired.
When she is tired,
the atmosphere shifts.
When the atmosphere shifts,
the children carry that weight.

Valuing the mother is not about romance.
It is about leadership.

It says,
In this house, we honor each other.
In this house, we protect each other.
In this house, love is safe.

And that becomes the blueprint your children carry into adulthood.

So yes, children need a father figure.

But more than just a father who stays,
they need a father who loves their mother in a way that teaches them what healthy love truly is.

My kids,my life

*"Welcome to this space.*
Here, we talk about something many live with but few openly discuss — the effects of growing up without a present mother or father.

Whether the absence was due to death, abandonment, divorce, distance, or silence — the impact is real. Emotionally, mentally, even spiritually.

This platform is a place for:
- *Sharing stories*
- *Raising awareness*
- *Offering support and healing*
- *Helping children and adults find their voice again*

If you’ve lived this or know someone who has — you’re not alone. 💔💪
Let’s start the conversation."