Clea-Rose Cellie is Perfecting Inner-Balance

Nope, they didn’t.... what they gained in return was a lesson well learnt, their dignity, their ability to step up to their accountability & gain massive respect from those around them.

We are all human.... making mistakes/doing things wrong is how we learn....

The lessons ONLY come when we can step up & let go of our ego.

We are not here to be perfect.... we are here to learn to become better people from our imperfections

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It’s such an important time to recognise that men were once little boys who suffered or witnessed abuse as children too.

I am very blessed to be a woman who has benefited from society’s recognition that woman deserve equality & healing from trauma or domestic violent relationships

IT’S HIGH TIME WE GIVE MEN THE SAME EQUAL RECOGNITION THAT THEY TOO SUFFERED.

When I was running seminars on promoting the awareness of child abuse, the stats were 1 in 3-4 girls, & 1 in 5-7 boys.

Berating men, & generalising that abuse is predominantly men is ABSOLUTELY WRONG!

There are HEAPS of abusive woman too!! I know many guys that have suffered at the hands of toxic narcissistic & abusive woman.

It’s time to acknowledge that ABUSE IS ABUSE... regardless who is instilling it.

I can tell you.... that behind every single man that abused me was a woman feeding fuelling or driving his behaviour based on HER desires!

Through my own journey I have worked hard on becoming a person of integrity with healthy moral/core values.

Because I have dug so deep within myself to understand the whys/how’s & why I kept experiencing re-triggers & abusive people in my life I have developed the skills to unpack & understand what lies deep beneath the surface of our emotions & why they are there.
Through this I was able to let go of the frustration, anger, resentment and hatred....
What has replaced it is an extremely deep understanding & compassion for humanity at just how far we have strayed from our soul purpose of love.

We cannot fix ANYTHING from a place of anger..... that is why we are at epidemic levels of domestic violence & abuse now.... we NEED to think differently & we need to start listening to our men & accept that to be masculine has nothing to do with power or control

Woman need to embrace that if you have a voice now & more power....what comes with that is more ACCOUNTABILITY & RESPONSIBILITY.

You cannot have power & point the finger & put all the blame on others....

We ALL need to remember.... that the values we want for ourselves WE MUST give back to others...

Remember girls.... how do you want your sons to be treated & perceived in the future??

I know that I want my son to be seen for the kind hearted great man that he is growing into.... not seen as someone who is a bad or abusive person because he is a man.

It’s high time we all gave to others, that which we want for ourselves ...... so

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I’m back peeps
Stepped back from everything to find myself amongst the chaos that life delivered.... it was such a powerful choice that has helped me find not just myself but clarity in my purpose & what life has taught me from each experience
So much more to give & share 💜

In a world where you can be anything you choose

Choose to be kind

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People come into our lives, win over our hearts & say they love us.

Then over time.... sometimes in only a few months when they are comfortable..... they allow other traits of their personality to be revealed.

But what really happens is because as the relationship continues, they feel more vulnerable which makes them feel unsafe. Then they begin to project their insecurities, their pain & their internal suffering onto their partner.

Now what I am saying is not to justify their behaviour
IT DEFINITELY DOES NOT !

WE ARE ALL ACCOUNTABLE FOR OUR WORDS ACTIONS & BEHAVIOURS

MY aim here is to help others understand what is really going on ..... when we understand the dynamics,
it empowers us to make choices that are right for ourselves eliminating the guilt/shame/ blame that accompanies the abuse that so often we seem to internalise.

It’s important to understand also that it’s not just woman who experience this abuse in relationships....

MEN SUFFER TOO & deserve the right of passage to speak up, be acknowledged & heal their pain.

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Absolutely spot on.....

It’s about understanding that your ALWAYS accountable to your actions & words....

It’s about understanding how you affect another when you speak your words or how you behave towards them makes them feel...

It’s understanding that it’s more IMPORTANT to be KIND than it is to be right

How you treat another reflects solely on YOU!

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Looking at these stages I now gave a clear understanding of exactly where I am at.....

So much personal growth spiritually but almost there...

Each stage has provided me with an incredible understanding of us as a species & how we are created from the time we come into our world...

So much to give back, to share, to help & guide others through

Every experience shapes us .... the key is to become awake enough to start learning from each circumstance, experience or pain we are challenged with.

An incredible journey back to oneself & our unique authenticity of who we were actually born to be.

A place where incredible trust in the universe,
personal happiness, inner peace and harmony resides regardless of what is happening around us.

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For those of us that have connected too & felt our pain at a depth, that we consciously cannot re-create that pain for another living human or animal

I SALUTE YOU ....

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We are created from the Webb of life that gets woven from the moment of our birth!

Even as little babies we absorb experiences through all our senses, so from early life if we experience a difficult childhood it can create fears, behaviours & feelings within us that we struggle to understand.

Woman have so graciously been given within our society the right of passage to heal.

As woman we can speak up & be heard, if & when we speak up we are supported and told of our bravery in taking a stand for ourselves, our self-worth & our dignity.

IT IS TIME WE GAVE MEN THE SAME ......

Men deserve the “RIGHT OF PASSAGE TO HEAL!”

Unless we help our men understand that healing from our past pain is THE ULTIMATE COURAGEOUS ACT OF STRENGTH, then many more men will remain stuck in their pain & repeat patterns or (like me) get into relationships with abusive narcissistic woman, as I have with men, and the abuse cycle will continue to the next generation of children growing up & learning toxic behaviour through their eyes & experiences.

And so the cycle of abuse continues

It is time every single Woman & man chose to be accountable.... giving to others the values that they want for themselves.

It all starts with OURSELVES....

When we have the COURAGE & STRENGTH to understand & heal OURSELVES....

We give others the same permission to do the same for themselves

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In a world where so many are focused on everything outside of themselves to make them happy .... only to discover that the happiness is temporary, so they search for the next best thing to satisfy their need....

Be the person who knows how to go within & seek happiness from inside your soul....

Connect to your heart 💜 & love it unconditionally

If it’s a broken heart 💔 .... love it back to wholeness again.....

It’s upon this journey you will start to meet your tribe!

Those that will love you for who you are while others fall away

Those that fall away were never your tribe, they were people playing a part that kept you stuck in your pain.... keeping you small.
They do this because they themselves are stuck & they fear being alone

Life has taught me that in those moments of solitude that we hear our own heart calling us back home to live with a peaceful love that we were born to live.

Your tribe are those AMAZING people that believe in you ..... your journey, your gifts & your heart & soul.

Your tribe grows you, supports you, challenges you
But most importantly....

THEY CONSCIOUSLY & CONSISTENTLY DROP THEIR LOVE & SUPPORT ON YOU 💖

The fuel the fire 🔥 that drives your determination to be a better person everyday....

No matter how long it takes or how scary it can seem.... find your tribe & watch the beauty of life unfold....

Happiness peace & harmony is there for us all

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We all hold magic within us.... the trick is to go within & dig deep, overcoming any fear or past hurts that bury our gifts deep down inside.

Children are incredible & we can learn so much from them, BUT we have an incredible responsibility to nurture their hearts & souls so they can discover the beauty of our world & make it a better place.

No one has the right to create fear or sadness in anyone’s life..... especially a child.

We all want to be loved, cherished, respected & have compassion, understanding empathy support & honesty....

Everything we want we MUST give it to others in order to receive.... it is the law of balance

So have integrity, have honour & be accountable to your own moral values &

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Certificate of qualifications

So many have tried to break me .... at times it used to send me backwards but NOW it’s very different

My past gave me many unique gifts that now enable me to light the path for others....

The difference between me & those that have tried to bring me down is .....I have had the courage to face my fears from that pain to grow & move forward

Them on the other hand try to bring me down because they themselves don’t understand why they feel the way they do....

Working on oneself is the greatest gift we can give ourselves to face our fears & move forward

But to the naysayers out there it’s their greatest fear because as we grow it’s facing an unknown.... & that is for the courageous

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Encouragement Compassion Kindness Understanding

When we are able to bless another life with love & give them the ability to see life in a new perspective

We are giving a gift that can create amazing change...

Be part of the ripple effect of love & kindness today &

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In a world where masks are worn, characters are created & personalities are worn like costumes of characters in a movie

I choose ALWAYS to just be me

Real, raw, authentic & always kind

When I hold myself in this space, I give permission for others to do the same....

Setting the example and BEING the change is my goal.....

We can always be kind & empowered.....

It’s a choice

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So privileged over the last 6 weeks to participate in several workshops that are now creating amazing change in my life!

Firstly attending Runn Wild’s workshop for facilitating groups....
An amazing experience of souls coming together who have passions to create a humanity of harmony & unity

Today I just finished 2 1/2 days with Gerry Roberts of Black Card Books .....

Met some absolute amazing souls in this workshop... connections, future opportunities & best of all a format to write my books.....
And my future publisher ....

It’s just amazing when you set the intention to serve humanity.... opportunities & doors open

Looking forward to creating so many amazing new chapters to my story

Bring it on 💜💪💜💪💜💪💜

Strength comes in many forms.....

Kindness also comes in many different variations....

Sometimes we find ourselves in situations whether it be in our relationships, friendships, at work..... or even down the street where situations can arise that can lead to conflict, abuse, hurtful words or even acts of cruelty & violence.

Why does this happen? Why are people so quick to anger?

We live in an existence that is energetic.....
We are & everything around us is a vibrational waves of existence.

How we feel about ourselves will depend upon how high we are vibrating at and the levels of love we feel for ourselves & everything & everyone around us.

Confrontation happens because of those in pain seeking to fill their energy up from those around them by the way they conduct themselves....

When we have the ability to stand strong in our own integrity & not be drawn in another’s anger/ drama, even if it’s directed at us... we not only protect our energy, we give the gift of kindness by not compacting their pain to a greater degree

So to walk away with no response is not just a beautiful gift you give yourself..... it’s a gift of kindness you give back to that person in pain.

When we feel deeply connected to ourselves & truly understand who we are, what we stand for & why we ourselves feel what we feel on a deep emotional level

We begin to understand others & what lies beneath the surface.....

We ALL want love, respect, honesty, understanding & empathy.... but to receive this purely we must learn to give it also to everyone we meet

When we encounter those that are hurtful....
Give them the gift of no response & walk away

The gift you give yourself is peace & not living with regret!

Very powerful!

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Walking beside those we love & care about & supporting them is

THE GREATEST GIFT WE CAN GIVE

Yes.... walk beside them with empathy love kindness & understanding....

You NEVER have to understand their pain, but do not increase their pain with comments that compact their suffering because YOU don’t understand it, or can’t handle it....

Take a deep breath & understand that allowing them to feel their pain in your silent presence.... is THE MOST precious gift you can give!

We cannot fix anyone... nor is it our responsibility....
But what we can do is just be there so they know they are not alone...

This will enable them to take the necessary steps to heal themselves 💜

So much love is given when we can sit silently with those we love who are in pain .... knowing that we are not alone

That would have been the greatest gift I could have received on my journey!

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As a woman who has suffered at the hands of my paternal father for abuse sexually, emotionally, physically & spiritually..... I was filled with so much anger blame & hate....

When I became a young woman & met my first partner... I ended up in an abusive relationship.... why??
Because I didn’t know any better... I was from the time I was born surrounded by toxicity.

As I left each toxic relationship & become accountable to my own healing.... I began to ask myself the right questions.... which has led me on an incredible journey of healing.... but opening up my heart & soul to be able to see beyond the surface & have an incredible understanding of what is really going on in toxic or abusive situations.

Men feel pain too..... just as much as us woman do... but for women it is socially acceptable to speak up & seek help.... for men it’s still not quite there.

Every person feels pain at some stage in life.... it’s a given. But we always need to step up and be accountable to whatever part we play (even if it means we didn’t speak up because of fear) ... iv lived this...

Once we accept the part we play... we can learn & heal

Men & woman need to have the ability to speak up & step up....

To reduce domestic violence drastically against women means we as a collective need to stop finger pointing at men & understand in depth of what they are feeling too & enable them to heal their wounds....

When they are provided with a safe space to feel vulnerable & speak up about their feelings & pain is when change & transformation can occur....

This WILL tame the frustrations & anger that leads to abuse .... because it’s in the space of vulnerability that we have the courage to look at ourselves, ask the right questions & be accountable to our own moral values & behaviours & work at changing them.

Consistently blaming & condemning the men of our society just breeds more anger, frustration & abuse!

So much can be seen when you come from a place of healing.... understanding ourselves allows us to deeply understand others...

So to all the guys out there in pain... know that to acknowledge it, feel it, understand it & heal from it takes incredible strength & courage....

I support you upon this journey 🙏

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Life is a mirror
What is reflecting back at you today
Embrace it & learn from it 💜💜

We all travel different paths ....

We all experience different life defining events.... some are incredibly happy.... & some are horrifically tragic & traumatic.

The most important aspect of life is that our experiences... whatever they maybe
(especially in childhood) create our belief systems our pattens & behaviours....these can be positive from a stable childhood or extremely toxic from an abusive childhood.

BUT... we can choose who we become & change our negatives into positives 💜

The most important thing to remember here ....

We are all equal, we are all imperfect we are all important & have lessons to learn in life to enable us to continue to grow learn & become better versions of ourselves.

Remain humble & never forget your struggles as they are the building blocks of our character to teach us love compassion understanding & empathy.
Those that support you & guide you at times of difficulty are earth angels placed on your path to guide you...
Never take them for granted....

We are all connected through humanity....
When we hurt or judge each other.... we really hurting & judging ourselves .....

Be humble be kind & see yourself in the face of the person/s that stand before you....

As you wish to be loved, respected, spoken too, understood & seen without judgment.....

Give this without condition & live from your heart 💓

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My daughter just shared this.... so I had to share it 💜

In life we can be hurt, betrayed, beaten, lied to, cheated on
& abused (in every unimaginable way) .....
That’s just to name a few....

Hate though is an emotional experience that no matter how much or how deep within your bones you feel it.....
It does not affect the person you carry it for.....
IT AFFECTS YOU! It creates stress responses within your body & plays with your mind so much that it can tangle you in a Webb that can keep you stuck in that pain....

To let go of the hate, the pain, torment that has encased your soul.... go within and ask yourself why this person came into your life, ask what is this teaching me, why do I feel this way.....

You see the answers we seek will never come from our abusers or tormentors........
(they themselves are torchered souls....

All your answers are within you.....
All your strength to get through your pain is within you...
All the love you seek is within you
All the kindness & support you wish to receive from others is deep within ourselves

Letting go of the hate, the anger & the blame DOES NOT condone the actions of that person who perpetrated the abuse against you....

What it does do is release you from the pain & stress attached to it....

It won’t happen overnight either .... it’s a conscious choice to learn, to understand oneself, to grow & most importantly
It’s a conscious choice to heal & not let your past poison your future....

I know this.... because it’s a journey iv traveled....

Living in a place within myself daily where inner-peace is a gift, my personal happiness is a blessing & the deep love & respect I have for myself allows me to listen to understand & have an empathy & empowering affect to help others...

The absolute first step I had to take though in this journey was to forgive myself.....
For hating myself, for belittling myself, for believing I was worthless, no good, dumb, stupid, fat, ugly, for hating my body & for having all these horrible beliefs about myself that were created by those that abused me....

This journey is one that has been the most rewarding....

The most important relationship we will ever have is the one we have with ourselves....

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We are raising adults..... NOT children.
How we behave & treat others when they are watching us who our children will become!

What we allow our children to get away with as poor behaviour is how they will learn to not be accountable.

How we handle challenges, confrontation or even how we interact with our friends & family in conversation........ is how our children are learning to handle life & speak to others.

We are all a product of our environment each .....

Unless we choose to look at our past, be absolutely honest with ourselves, acknowledge our pain & how others have treated us & how those around us (parents/family) behaved around us & towards us, can we ask ourselves where has my feelings come from, where have I learnt to behave in this manner, is my behaviour a result of pain, trauma or internal conflict of how I feel about myself.

When you have the STRENGTH it takes to take this journey & ask these questions of yourself....
Your journey open up to let in the light of healing that will awaken your soul to a new road that will lead you to your journey of self discovery, accountability & ultimately self love & inner peace

A journey well worth it!

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This is why I refuse to step out of my own integrity!

Even when I rise above.... or don’t even say a word....
these narcissistic people still manage to fool those that are gullible enough to believe them & get sucked into their drama.

This happened to me with someone extremely close, who knew my heart & soul...... but yo the degree that he used to question them because he would say “That is not how she speaks”
Unfortunately unable to stand in his power he was eventually manipulated....

Yes that lead me on a very sad journey because of the immense betrayal of what he then did

BUT..... I have NEVER had to live with any regret of my own actions.....

When we have the capacity to stand strong & regardless of circumstances stay true to our authentic selves
(Which is s journey of actually choosing who we want to be & becoming accountable to our own moral values)

We then have the understanding that how another behaves towards us is about them & how they feel about themselves..... it actually has nothing to do with us....

The battle is their own.....unfortunately they choose to treat others poorly because THEY have unresolved pain & conflicts.

So STEP UP..... each & everyone of us

We ALL want love, respect, kindness, honesty & understanding .......

The question to ask oneself is.....

DO YOU GIVE IT BACK TO EVERYONE REGARDLESS OF CIRCUMSTANCES???

Integrity is ALWAYS doing the right thing.... even when no one is looking...

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Haters will always be haters....
But it’s really pathetic when your stalking ex-husband leaves nasty comments full of lies under a fake account name of Mary Miller....
Such a sign of ultimate weakness
It’s been over 10 years MOVE ON!

If every person could master these skills.... we would have an amazing world to live in.....

So many judgements..... so many people want to be right!

Once we grasp the concept that each opinion is RIGHT to the person expressing it, because of THEIR belief system & experiences in life.....

We then come to a place of peace & understanding knowing that their opinions are JUST DIFFERENT from our own.

Unless we face our inner demons, our fears & our pains & what they have created within us.....

Our opinions will always come from a place of PAIN....

When we can sit with our pain, unpack it, understand the belief system created around it, actually really connect & feel the it ..... we will remain stuck.....

Pain is our teacher.... it presents life lessons in each one...the trick is to be open to the learning

When we can do this we re-connect with our heart....
Our soul & our eyes start to see the world from a different view....

COURAGE & STRENGTH is in our ability to be real, to be accountable to every action, to every word we speak

A difficult conversation can always be a peaceful one when we NO LONGER come from a place of pain.

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This is spot on!

It’s about time woman were made accountable for their narcissistic abusive behaviours towards the men in their lives!

It ok for woman to come forward & say they were abused & get support from many resources....

Men need THE SAME SUPPORT AS WOMEN!

It’s HIGH TIME WOMAN WERE MADE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ABUSIVE ACTIONS!

Men are made to suck it up.... be tough don’t show your emotions

Our GOVERNMENT is absolutely RESPONSIBLE for their campaigns consistently finger pointing at men saying they are responsible & need to change their behaviours!

I am not DENYING that their are men out there that are horribly abusive.....
God knows EVERY guy that’s been in my life (except my son & my cat) have NOT abused me.....

BUT behind EVERY man that has abused me was a NARCISSISTIC WOMAN DRIVING THE AGENDA!

My final straw was what a guy put me through 18 months ago.... MAN THAT OPENED MY EYES!

The intimidation, control & abuse that he instilled to change his perception of me was huge....

Like a very weak & scared man he fell for their tactics & ended our relationship.... So much betrayal yet so many
LESSONS LEARNT!

That is what I am grateful for..... & it has put me on a path now to stand strong & make women accountable to THEIR BEHAVIOUR ALSO!

Woman want to step into their power & be equal to our men....

Well NEWSFLASH..... you cannot step into your power & then be a victim blaming men consistently!

STEP UP.... be ACCOUNTABLE you also play a part in the events that you cry victim too.....

You can hate on me..... that’s ok....,

But TRUTH HURTS..... being honest with ourselves is where our strength lies....

Be accountable BE KIND & treat EVERYONE how YOU wish to be treated YOURSELF

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Cannot express enough the STRENGTH that is displayed in kindness humility integrity & love

People have a perception that being kind means you are a doormat.....

DO NOT confuse kindness as a weakness.... & DO NOT think that if someone has the ability to walk away silently because YOU display unsavoury behaviour that THEY are weak!

TRUE GRIT STRENGTH comes from deep within....

It comes from a place of UNDERSTANDING ONESELF & who you are at soul level & ABSOLUTELY NEVER allowing another persons hurtful words change you or lower yourself to THEIR standards!

TRUE GRIT STRENGTH comes from ACCOUNTABILITY to our own moral values .... it is in INTEGRITY, HONESTY & the understanding that we learn from our mistakes by owning up to them & being honest with not just those around us, BUT WITH OURSELVES!

So before you judge another.... look within & ask yourself

What are my own moral values..... & do I hold MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE TO THEM......

If you realise your answer is no..... it is NEVER EVER to late to start

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We are responsible for every single word we speak & how we speak them......

This means we are ACCOUNTABLE to the intention that is behind our words

If your words are hurtful, blaming or nasty......

Then YOU need to ask yourself why......

Where is it coming from? What pain am I feeling in this situation?

Once we have the COURAGE OURSELVES to look within and face our OWN DARKNESS can we step back & see a situation differently

Then & ONLY THEN do we understand that ANY PERSON that is speaking hurtful words to us is ACTUALLY REFLECTING HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES ONTO US!

So before you speak ..... Let your words pass through these gates..... & ASK YOURSELF

IS IT TRUE

IS IT HELPFUL

IS IT NECESSARY

IS IT KIND. &

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