Roman Ivlev

Roman Ivlev

I help people to save and grow money, save on taxes and get prepared for retirement and secure their financial future. Roman Ivlev: CA License #4309378

17/06/2024

"When we learn to give thanks, we are learning to concentrate not on the bad things, but on the good things in our lives."
Amy Vanderbilt

23/12/2023
03/06/2023

What is a basis and signs of personal transformation?🧚‍♂️

Personal transformation is one of most interesting topics. How to change/transform life for the better? ⁉️
At the same time, this is one of the topics where intellectually you can understand things very quick, however it takes time and efforts to implement it ....

I like these words by N.Goddard on this topic.
"Man's chief delusion is his conviction that there are causes other than his own state of consciousness. All that befalls a man-all that is done by him, all that comes from him - happens as a result of his state of consciousness. ‼️

A man's consciousness is all that he thinks and desires and loves, all that he believes is true and consents to. 👈👉
That is why a change of consciousness is necessary before you can change your outer world. 🌎To be transformed, the whole basis of your thoughts must change. 🍀

Your thoughts cannot change unless you have new ideas💥, for you think FROM new ideas. You must want to be different and intend to be different before you can begin to change yourself.🥇

By desiring to be other man what you are, you can create an ideal of the person you want to be and assume that you are already that person."🤺

Most interesting thing here is that there is a difference between knowing about something mentally (intellectually) - "by looking at it from the outside, by comparing it with other things, by analyzing it (by thinking of it)"
and
"knowing something by becoming it (only by thinking FROM it)". "You must be the thing itself and not merely talk about it or look at it". ‼️

To transform yourself is to create a new internal (personal) identity and ACT from this new identity. 🎅

What will be some signs of successful personal transformation?

Positive changes in your outer world, your closest environment, people in your life - will be signs of the transformation. Outer world is changed because of internal transformation.
You moved to a better house/apartments🏠, you noticed yourself surrounded by brilliant/talented people, etc.

Another important sign is that you start to respond differently on external stimuli (events). The same type of event, however, you found yourself not reacting to the event 😡(usually with negativity), but responding with awareness, confidence and thoughtfully. 🤩

Surely, your habitual emotional state (where you live most of the time internally) has been shifted from "lower" states to "higher" (more uplifted ones). ⬆️

Changes of how you perceive the World and place where you live: what does you notice habitually, pay attention to, level of understanding of reality, scale of thinking, what is important/not important in life for you, etc. 🎯

The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown 27/04/2023

Are you still afraid of vulnerability? 👀

I have recently watched a talk “The power of vulnerability” given by Brene Brown. This talk poured more light on the topic of vulnerability.

She had been doing a research on this topic for a few years and she presented her insights in this talk.
She says that connection [with others] is the ability to feel connected, "It is why we are here".

She pointed that shame is a fear of disconnection – if there is something about me that other people can see that I won’t be worthy of connection.

She says that In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen. Brene Brown`s research showed that people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love ❤️ and belonging. They believe they are worthy.

The one part which keeps us out of connection is our fear😲 that we are not worthy of connection.
Who are the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging ? 👀

The research showed that those people are whole-hearted people living from this deep sense of worthiness.

What they have in common was a sense of courage. Brene gives origins of the word courage – "to tell the story who you are with your whole heart". The courage to be imperfect.

Those people have compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others. Those people have a connection as a result of authenticity, they were willing to let go who they thought they should be in order to be who they were.

Another thing about people who have a strong sense of love and belonging [from the research] that they fully embraced vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful.

They can say “I love you ..” 🥰 first, they can do something when there is no guarantees, they are willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.

According to Brene Brown the way to live is with vulnerability and to stop controlling and predicting. Vulnerability is a birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love. 🫶

To let ourselves to be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen, to love with our whole hearts, to practice gratitude and joy is to believe that “we are good enough”. To feel vulnerable means I am alive.

The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown Visit http://TED.com to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.Brené Brown studies human ...

22/02/2023

What is Purpose of Marriage?⁉️

In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don't just "get along" - they also support each other's hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together. 💑

Very often a marriage's failure to do this is what causes husband and wife to find themselves in endless, useless rounds of arguments or to feel isolated and lonely in their marriage. 😞

Most quarrels are really not about whether the toilet lid is up or down or whose turn it is to take out the trash. There are deeper, hidden issues that fuel these superficial conflicts and make them far more intense and hurtful than they would otherwise be. 🫣

Once you understand this, you will be ready to accept one of the most surprising truths about marriage: most marital arguments cannot be resolved. Couples spend year after year trying to change each other's mind - but it can't be done. 😯

This is because most of their disagreements are rooted in fundamental differences of lifestyle, personality, or values. By fighting over these differences, all they succeed in doing is wasting their time and harming their marriage. 👈👉

Instead, they need to understand the bottom-line difference that is causing the conflict - and to learn how to live with it by honoring and respecting each other. ☝️ Only then will they be able to build shared meaning and a sense of purpose into their marriage. 🏆❤️

J.M. Gottman, PH.D

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26/12/2022

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13/09/2022

😀The Rules For Being Human 😀
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1. You will receive a body
You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period of this time around.
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2. You will learn lessons
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.
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3. There are no mistakes, only lessons
Growth is a process of trial and error: Experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works".
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4. A lesson is repeated until learned
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
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5. Learning lessons does not end
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
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6. "There" is not better than "here"
When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here".
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7. Others are merely mirrors of you
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
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8. What you make of your life is up to you
You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
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9. Your answer lie inside you
The answers to Life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
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10. You will forget all this.
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11. You can remember it whenever you want.
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Anonymous

From book "Chicken Soup for the Soul"

03/03/2022

🤔If there was only one thing that affected all areas of your life, including your intimate relationship, what would be it? 👀
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If you felt in love with somebody 💘and really loved that person ❤️ what would you give to that person? 💝
Some people might say "I would give anything". 🦋

The next question ⁉️ is: would you give what you want 🐥or what your partner needs? 🦆 This is a good question to think about, 🦄 right?

What are we giving to our partners? 👩‍❤️‍👨

If we go even further 🙃 what would be the very first thing that your romantic partner needs?

The answer is: 🥰 your love😍. 💕Pure 💖LOVE💖 .
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Is it easy to give love💕 to someone? Yes, it is easy, if you have it. I am speaking about LOVE💖.

The question is ⁉️: do we have LOVE 💖 within ourselves in order to be able to share that LOVE with other people?🤔 HONESTLY?

Lets take an example, to make this point more clear.

Can we give some money 💵 to someone? Yes, we can. If we have enough money💵 for ourselves and have a surplus💵💵.

From this surplus 💵💵 we can give, right? If we have not enough money💵 even for ourselves we cannot give it to someone else (assuming that we don’t sacrifice ourselves).

How we can figure out if we have LOVE 💖 within ourselves? We can do it by realizing whether we love ourselves or not. All love 💖starts with self-love, with love to ourself.

If you LOVE 💖 yourself you will be able to share your love with other people.
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What would you do to/for someone you REALLY LOVE💖💖💖?

What would you say?
How would you treat this person?
How would you care for this person?
Would you love his/her body?

What would you do together?
What do you think about this person?
Which emotions and feeling do you experience towards this person?
Which words do you use to express your feelings?

I think that all the answers 😊 are awesome, inspiring, exciting and empowering. 🥰

When it comes to self-love we can apply all these questions to ourselves and honestly answer them. Then we can compare the answers and decide if we really love 💖 ourselves or not.

The only difference will be that we usually have all our self talks in the form of thoughts 🤔 and when we tell someone about ourselves.

So, we can observe our thoughts 🤔 during a day and what we say to ourselves and to other people about ourselves out loud.👂
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⁉️What do you say about yourself? 👀

⭕️How many disempowering thoughts about yourself do you notice?
❌How often do you notice thoughts/words like: "I am upset", "I am frustrated", etc.

⭕️Do you criticize yourself ?

❌How often do you notice thoughts like "I cannot do …. ", "I always … "

⭕️Do you have self-defeating thoughts?

❌How often do you make things much worse than they are in reality?

⭕️Do you have the habit of entertaining negative scenarios in your head?

❌How often do you blame yourself for anything?

❓Which vocabulary/particular words do you use when you think about yourself? ❓Are they empowering or disempowering?

❓Do you really care for your body? ❓
❓Do you eat healthy food?

❓Do you conduct a healthy life style? ❓
❓Do you have enough sleep/rest?
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We might notice a difference between the way we communicate/behave with a person who we really 💖 LOVE, and how we communicate with ourselves.

In anyway it is important thing to remember that we can only give what we have.

If we have love💖, joy 😊, peace within us, we are able to share that love, joy😊, peace with others. 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦

If we have anger😡, jealousy🥶, possessiveness, worries🤪 we will share these things with other people.

☝️ Love and anger; peace and worries do not live together. ‼️
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☝️We can always stop treating ourselves the way which we would not use for our loved ones. That will bring more LOVE 💖, to ourselves.

☝️To increase self-love you can do something that sincerely acknowledges your efforts and achievements.

Cherish yourself🤗, give yourself more time for rest, for exercises, and more smiles 😀🙂😉when you are looking at yourself in the mirror.





19/02/2022

"Those who believe they can do something and those who believe they can't are both right."
Henry Ford

Do you agree with that quote?

06/02/2022

🤔Which thoughts do you choose to think every day? ⁉️
How do they serve you? 🙆‍♀️

👀Does the quality of your life verify that you have made the right choices?

We all have thoughts 🤔 during a day, day by day. 📆They come into our minds and go away. ❓What are they about? ❓ Did you try to observe 🕵️‍♀️ them regularly?

If you did, you probably would notice 👁 that some of them are more repetitive than others. Some thoughts 🤔 preoccupy our minds on a daily basis.

Depending on the quality of the thoughts we feel ourselves happy,😀 playful, joyous,😊 determined, or lonely, sad,😔 and lost. 😭

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"All your moods are created by your ''cognitions," or thoughts. A cognition refers to the way you look at things - your perceptions, mental attitudes, and beliefs.

It includes the way you interpret things - what you say about something or someone to yourself. 👨

You feel the way you do right now because of the thoughts you are thinking 🤔 at this moment. You create your feelings by the dialogue you have with yourself about something or someone.

The moment you have a certain thought 🤔 and believe it, you will experience an immediate emotional response. Your thought actually creates the emotion.

When you are feeling depressed,😔 your thoughts are dominated by a pervasive negativity. You perceive not only yourself 👨 but the entire world in dark, gloomy terms.

What is even worse - you'll come to believe things really are as bad as you imagine them to be. ☹️

This feeling is absolutely illogical, but it seems so real that you have convinced yourself that your inadequacy will go on forever."

Dr. David D. Burns.
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The quality of our thoughts 🤔 determines our feelings and emotions. The emotions, in turn, determine the quality of our lives.

Imagine yourself feeling happy,😊 joyous, inspired,😀 uplifted, determined, grateful 🙏 during the day, every day. 📆

❓What would your life look like?
What would be possible for you and for your family?
Would you have more opportunities or less? ❓
Would you have better relationships?
Would you have more real friends or less? 👀

It is a known fact that we can choose our thoughts. 🤔We can do it when we consciously observe 👁 the thoughts in our mind.

It is easy to choose them when you are calm and centered, right? It is not so easy to choose the thoughts 🤔 when you are restless, in the middle of life trials, or even hardships, but it is still possible if you keep making efforts to observe them.


To increase ⚜️ the quality of our lives we have to feel positive emotions more and more.
In order to achieve that we need to have the good quality thoughts. 🤔

We can choose or create such good quality thoughts 🤔 about ourselves,👱‍♂️ others, 👨‍👨‍👧‍👦the world, 🌍 our lives, our future. It is possible.

In this case we can experience a wide range of positive emotions 👍even if external circumstances seem gloomy, 😈 grey,👥 or "against us".

24/01/2022

⁉Does your husband/boyfriend 👷 feel satisfied with your relationship? 🤔

There are couples 👫 who seemingly have a good marriage. 😘 It can be that their marriage lasts 5, 10, or even 25 years, there are children, and the husband and wife do not have arguments.

There are some nuances but overall their marriage looks okay.😀 Then suddenly he wants a divorce.😲 He says that he is unhappy in this relationship/marriage and wants to leave without any further explanations.🏃‍♂️ It seems there are no obvious reasons for his behavior. Everything is pretty much the same as it was during the last few years. 😞
His wife/girlfriend starts to wonder if he is cheating and has another woman? 👀

I have received questions about similar situations. Why do such things happen ❓❓ in families where everything seems okay? Let`s try to find a root cause.

Of course there are plenty of reasons which can end up in such a scenario. Let`s explore some common reasons. Psychologists say that men and women are different "creatures". From the outside we look similar but inside (psychologically) men and women are quite different. 👫

There are some differences in how we perceive life events, situations, and how we think 🤔 about each other. In intimate relationships what is important for the man is not necessarily important for the woman.

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🙄 Does your man feel criticized by you in the relationship? Let's check.

⛔️How often do you make cynical statements about your husband?

⛔️Which of his masculine needs/interests do you neglect/ignore, thinking that they are not necessary or important?

⛔️How often do you tell him the ways in which he should or should not do things? More than two times per week/day?

⛔️You had asked him for help, for example, to do something for the family/children, and he did it slightly different than you had expected. 🤔What would you say to him and how would you phrase it? Would it express appreciation or blame? How would he feel after hearing your words? More empowered or more upset?

⛔️How do you react when he comes up with ideas about family, children, entertainment, vacations, etc. even though they seem like nonsense at the time to you? Does your reaction encourage him to bring creativity to your family and feel appreciated? 😊

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🤭Does your man feel that you are emotionally closed off from him? Let's check.

⭕️How often do you show your husband/boyfriend the vulnerable and emotional sides of you?

⭕️How do you know that you love him from your heart? What feelings do you have for your husband/boyfriend?🤔 What is your predominant feeling?👀 What types of thoughts predominate your mind with regards to your husband? Positive or negative ones?

⭕️Have you really chosen to share your feelings with your husband/boyfriend? In what manner do you share them with him?

⭕️How do you "show" (manifest yourself) your husband that you love him? How often? Do you do it before he does or says something first (taking his hand, give him a hug, share your loving, playful emotions) or afterwards?

⭕️Are your emotions or behaviors very "withdrawn," especially during intimate moments?

⭕️Have you ever cheated on your man? Do you do it regularly?

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🥵Does your man feel controlled in his relationship with you? Let's check.

❌How often do you attempt to control the choices and habits of your husband/boyfriend?

❌Do you keep trying to change everything about your husband/boyfriend, from how he dresses and what he reads to the words he uses when he speaks?

❌What would your thoughts and actions be if your husband came home later than he usually does after work? Would you call him asking "where are you?"?

❌Do you micromanage your husband?

❌Which particular words do you use when you ask him to do something (big or small)? What tone of voice do you use? 🗣Does it sounds like an order rather than a request/question? How pushy does it sound?🌬

❌Are you possessive and jealous regarding your husband?

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These three factors together are considered to be an important ‼️psychological basis for a man to have a sound intimate relationship: 1) it is important for a man not to feel controlled 2) it is important that he does not feel criticized 3) he needs to feel emotionally connected to his woman 🥰 in order to have a continuing, lasting relationship. 👩‍❤️‍👨

The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU 21/01/2022

Self-confidence is a very valuable resource or skill that we use daily.
Lack of self-confidence can cost us too much, while well- developed self-confidence is a great tool to help us achieve our goals and enjoy who we are.

In this video Dr. Joseph explains three ways of building the skill of self-confidence.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-HYZv6HzAs

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19/01/2022

✋"The more we believe about something, the more we will accept other ideas which are similar. 🤷

The more you think about yourself in a certain way, 🤔the more you will think about yourself in that same certain way! 🥰

The more you think about anything in a certain way,🤔 the more you will believe👆 that is how it really is. 🤫

Understanding that makes it easy to understand why it is hard to teach old dogs🐶 new tricks,😎 change our minds, 🙄or unstick us from the ideas we are solidly stuck in.🥱 It also tells us why the longer you believe something, the harder it is to change ☠️that belief."

Shad Helmstetter
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The greatest outcome from this quote is - change the "story" which you talk to yourself 🧑 about you (who you are, what you really can do) every day, add some purposeful actions, and you will change your life.👍

16/01/2022

⁉️Does your wife/girlfriend 👩 feel satisfied with your relationship? 👀

There are couples who seemingly have a good marriage.👆 It can be that their marriage lasts 5, 10, or even 25 years, there are children, and the husband and wife do not have arguments.

There are some nuances but overall their marriage looks okay. 👍Then suddenly she decides to get separated or divorced.😳 She is appreciative to her husband as a provider of money, she says that he is a good husband and a great father but she needs to leave. ☝️

Recently, I received questions about similar such situations. Why do such things happen in families where everything seem okay? Let`s try to find a root cause.🧠

Of course there are plenty of reasons which can end up in such a scenario. Let`s explore some common reasons. ✍️

Psychologists say that men and women are different "creatures". 👻From the outside we look similar but inside (psychologically) men and women are quite different. There are some differences in how we perceive life events, situations, and how we think about each other.🤥

In intimate relationships what is important for the woman is not necessary important for the man.

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Does your woman feel "unseen"☹️in her relationship with you? Let's check.

⛔️Do you, as her partner, in the relationship pay enough attention to her needs and emotions regularly?
⛔️How do you know if that is "enough"?
⛔️Is she, at least, aware that you actively pay attention to her real needs?
⛔️Does she feel bored regularly because of a lack of your attention?
⛔️Do you give your undivided attention to her when you spend time together?

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Does your woman feel "not understood"🤷‍♂️ in her relationship with you? Let's check.

🛑How often do you understand what your woman wants, what she needs, and the difference between these two?
🛑What are your emotions and actions when she asks you for something, for example, for your help?
🛑How often do you say "no" to such requests?
🛑Do you really understand her underlying worries and concerns when her behavior is different from the behavior which you expected from her?
🛑How does she know that you understand her?
🛑Do your actions, which are based upon your understanding, help her to overcome these underlying worries and concerns?

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Does your woman feel "unsafe" 😱in the relationship with you? Let's check.

⭕️Where do you live? Is it a good place for your family to live (ecologically, space for all family members)?
⭕️Are you good and reliable as a provider of resources (money) for your family?
⭕️Is the source of your income sustainable?
⭕️Is the amount of your income enough to cover your family's current expenses while having additional resources for future family projects (buying house, vacation, travelling)?
⭕️Which emotions do you bring to your family on a regular basis? Are they peaceful and playful or angry and fearsome?
⭕️Do you have any bad habits which could potentially harm your woman and/or your children?
⭕️Does your behavior have any of signs of aggression, or even abuse?
⭕️Do you have any strong addictions (drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc)?
⭕️Have you ever cheated on your woman? Do you do it regularly?

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These three factors together ♨️ are considered to be an important⚠️ psychological basis for women to have a sound intimate relationship: it is important for a woman to be seen, to be understood, and to feel safe 🆘 on a regular basis in order to have a continuing, lasting relationship. ‼️

10/01/2022

"The happiness of your life 🙂depends upon the quality of your thoughts🌞: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature." ☘

Marcus Aurelius

Do you agree with this statement? ⁉ It sounds reasonable to me. If I find myself unhappy ⚠ I have to check my thoughts first. 🧒What am I thinking about right now? 🧐What was I thinking about 5, 10, 30 minutes ago? What were those thoughts about? 🙃

Were those thoughts about events and things which were happening against my expectations/ideals assuming that there was no way to change the events? ⛔️

Or were the thoughts about what was missing in my life but I wanted to have?🌚 Instead of thoughts about what I had in my life and what I could be grateful for? 👩‍❤️‍👨

Was I asking myself any disempowering questions, questions like "why are all of these bad things happening to me?" or "what did I do wrong?" 🤪

Did I have many thoughts and emotions about past events of my life that brought me pain and sense of loss? Physical or emotional pain? Loss of something, someone or just the loss of an opportunity? 😥

Was I mentally judging or even blaming other people, circumstances, events or myself? 😡

Thinking about your current emotional state, can we say "Is it possible to experience any degree of happiness by having any of these low energy thoughts or questions in your head?"👀

Is our current emotional state a result of our thoughts? How often did I have this or similar emotional states during the past month? Which of your thoughts triggered those emotions? 🥶

Is it reasonable to continue thinking such thoughts throughout the day, day after day? What would the consequences be in 1 year, in 5 years? 🧩

On the other hand, what are the thoughts which will get me closer to happiness? 🌞Is there something to think about right now that brings me better quality emotions? 🍁

Which particular thought patterns should be learned and adopted to make positive changes permanent? 👆

29/12/2021

Do you have any ideas about how to live an inspired life in the next year? ⁉💥

2022 is coming closer and closer. 👣 At the same time, the year 2021 is about to disappear.🎄 What did 2021 bring to you and your family? 👀😃
Do you remember anything outstanding, anything you are grateful for? 👀
What are some of your personal achievements that you are proud of? 👀
Did you really take advantage of all the opportunities which this year brought to you or are you still making excuses? 🎖

Were you inspired by the life you lived in 2021? What was your inspiration? 😊

How can we live a more inspired life in the next year? ⚜️

One way is by doing what we want to do, and making progress towards our designed future. ☀️

Do you have goals for the next year, next 3, or even 5 years? 🔱

If you don’t have any clear goals yet we can develop them together; I will share with you a simple method of goal creation that make it easier to achieve them.✨

Let`s take a sheet of paper or open a page of a notebook and write down five categories:
1) What do I want to do? 🧒
2) What do I want to be? 🧑‍🦱
3) What do I want to see? 👩‍🦱
4) What do I want to have? 👨
5) Where do I want to go? 🧑

Let's write down several possible goals under each of these categories. 🌟 What would be your goals if you had no limitations? Start with your long term goals first (5 - 10 years) and then create short term goals (1-3 years). ‼️

At this point we are brainstorming - whatever inspiration comes to our mind, we write them down in order to have a list of goals under each category. We will write the goals as if they were being achieved. ⚜️

After the list is ready let's think about the goals in terms of time - when do we think we will achieve each of them? ⭐️ Let's write a number of years next to each of the goals.

For example, we might choose "I visited a country where I had never been in my life for two weeks"⚜️ as a one-year goal, or "I bought a two-story house" as a three-year goal, and so on. 😃

Let's make sure that all our goals are distributed equally during all 10 years in a balanced way. ⚠️

As a next step we can pick just three goals for each category, the goals which inspire us the most. ☀️ Then we are going to think about each goal in more detail.

We are going to start with long-term goals. Let's see (visualize) a goal from the list as if it were being realized (achieved) this very moment and you are ready to write down a detailed description of exactly what you see. 🔱

For example, 👉 we can see the house that we want to buy with more details: where is it located? ⚠️ How many floors? What is around the house? What is within the house? What is color of the stairs? ✅ How many bookshelves are there and what do they look like? Do you invite your friends to have dinner together regularly?‼️ We want to have as much clarity as possible about each of our goals. What is the impact of this goal for you and for others?

After we are done with the details lets think about why we want to achieve each of the goals? ✅
Why do we want to visit the country?
Why do we want to buy the house?
We need to know the reasons ‼️ in order to have motivation - our own reasons to keep making steps towards achieving the goals.

‼️ If we cannot determine the reasons for why we have a goal, we will need to re-evaluate the goal and pick another one. ✅

Pick one of your one-year goals and start to break it down into the smaller tasks/steps ✅ that are needed to achieve this particular goal. Repeat this process for all of your one-year goal.

During this process we want to be able visualize ourselves at the end of 2022 year as if the goals were achieved. 🎄

After breaking the goals down into smaller steps we just simply schedule them and take the necessary actions to get these tasks/steps done in time. 👉

Regularly, one time per week/month, we will track how close we are getting towards each of the goals,☘️ along with what is getting in the our way.

Did you create compelling goals which would make you happier?👉 Are you looking forward to achieving your goals and becoming even more inspired by your progress?

How do you feel now that you have established your goals and purpose for living the next year 🎄 of your life? Are you more inspired? 👇

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