Pleasure Pollinator

Omg hi I felt inspired to make a post after a coaching session I held this morning and look how yummy these slides look yum!!!

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Hope this inspires you sweet lovers out there 💕

Quality over quantity babyyyy. Not gonna lie though I like quantity too! 😉

But, I’ve learned over the years that great s*x can leave me satisfied for dayyysss AND make me more excited to enjoy MORE s*x.

While s*x that’s less quality just leaves me wanting more in the not so fun ways.

S*x is an art form. An infinite playground of possibilities. And one of the most nourishing forms of connection for me.

Let’s make sure it’s good!!!

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I am a lover.
I just want to love.
And be loved.
It’s so simple.
Yet, feels so complicated, sometimes

I don’t want to play games.
I don’t want to feel lonely while laying next to a lover.

I want to hold your heart.
I want to feel your soul.
Can you trust me?
Can you let me see the parts you’re afraid to be?

Can I show you mine, too?

Can we play and laugh and love and f**k and play some more?

Can we be like children, laying in the grass and whispering secrets to the fairies in our minds?

Can we play pretend but remember that this love is real?

That’s it’s here for us to drink, to fill us up and remind us that we are whole and perfect just as we are and there’s no need for us to pretend that we are anything we are not.

We just get to be who we really are.

Open hearts.
Open bodies.
Chest to chest.
Heart to heart.
Lovers being lovers.

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A piece of writing I found in my notes paired with some portraits that feel like some of the most authentic photos of me I’ve ever had 🖤🤍

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The journey home to oneself is a spiral 🌀

It’s cyclical.

We venture away from ourselves, lose ourselves, only to find ourselves again and again and again.

We discover who we truly are, only to uncover more we didn’t know.

We forget, and remember.
Forget and remember.
Forget and remember.

Become and unbecome.
Become and unbecome.
Become and unbecome.

The journey home to yourself can be wild and delicious.

It can be painful and full of grief.

It’s most likely both.

Just a reminder… if you’ve strayed away from yourself… you’ll return home.

Part of the journey is getting lost, only to discover what stays the same, again and again and again. 💗✨

Feeling deeeeply cleansed after an emotional liberation coaching session with a fellow peer.

Current practice: don’t play it cool. Connect with your heart on a daily basis and give it space to express itself.

There’s a part of me who is deeply afraid of abandonment. I’ve never felt this on a visceral level until today. It was heart wrenching and literally felt like it was cracking me open from the inside.

I got to witness and embody this part of myself, and I also got to experience what my life would be like if I refuse to open my heart.

I’d be cold, “too cool,” and deeply alone.

That ain’t meeee babyyy. 🙅🏼‍♀️

So, my current growth edge: express my heart’s truth, day in and day out. 💗

Current desire: to call in connection without bypassing my needs. To experience heart-bursting, juicy love. To feel empowered to express my needs fully 💗💦✨

Idk about you, but my heart melts a little when I read this passage from Sheri Winston’s book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal.

My first read through of this book brought some beautiful new learnings and realizations about women’s pleasure and arousal that I had never heard before.

Sometimes, the experience of not knowing something can bring a sense of shame. Ever been there?

I know I have.

Can you imagine a world where everyone is taught all the wonderful things about s-x and pleasure?

Can you imagine a world where we are celebrated in our s-xuality?

Can you imagine a world where we aren’t taught to fear our s-xual nature and instead we’re encouraged to fully embrace it?

I’m workin’ on it, y’all. 💗

Share and comment below if you needed to hear this 🙏

What could I say to you now that would embody the person I want to be in 5, 10, 20 years from now..

Life has so much tenderness. Remember to tap into it.

Life is short. Spend less time on bs and more time on bliss.

One of the best things you can do in this life is learn how to love yourself.

All of you is welcome here.

Strength is not always shown through brute force and powering through. Some of my most profound moments of strength were found in utter grief, letting myself crumble and moments of surrender.

Do what you love. No one else will do it for you.

We truly do create our reality. This sounds so simple, but I’ve felt it on such a deep level lately. Everything you see is a result of we.

Your connection to your emotions is your connection to life. Never apologize for feeling.

Do it scared.

There’s a few for now…

I pulled the 8 of Swords from my (new) Elemental Power Tarot deck by this morning and was posed this question.

I meditated on it while the song “For Elena,” by East Forest () streamed in the background.

Slowly moving myself away from the tension in my mind, and returning back to the soft, groundedness of my body.

Yum.

Also, my kitchen is clean, and I friggin love that s**t. Calms me right down. 😂

If you’re struggling to make a decision right now…

Try this mantra on for size:

“There is no right or wrong. There is only forward.”

This is a mantra I return to when I feel bogged down by big decisions.

I hope it supports you too 💗

Walkin’ into the next level of who I be like… 😉

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Wanna have better orgɐsms?

Wanna be able to tap into orgɐsm as an energy? A state of being, rather than an action?

Tap into your sensuality.

Sensitize your body to the orgɐsmic state that is available to you at all times.
Open yourself to the well of beautiful, warm, or****ic energy that’s living in your own body.
Feel the frequency of orgɐsm in your fingertips, all the way to your toes.

We’ve been conditioned to believe that orgɐsm is something you do rather than orgɐsm being a state of being.

Well, Alia, that sounds exhausting! Orgɐsming all the time?

Again, we’ve been conditioned to believe that orgɐsm is a pinnacle–a peak experience–only achieved when there’s a climax and a release.

That’s not necessarily all there is to it. In fact, there’s so much more.

Orgɐsm is a state of mind. A frequency we can rest in. Not something we constantly have to be working, pushing and straining toward.

The frequency of orgɐsm can feel like surrender.
It can feel like warm honey coursing through your body.
It can feel like complete embodiment; a release from the confines of your mind.

All you have to do is learn how to sense it in your own body.
Sense it as an energy in the universe that’s available to you, or rather, an energy that’s waiting for you to tap in.

And how do you do that? Cultivate your sensuality; your sensitivity.

In this month’s women’s circle, we’ll be talking about and exploring sensuality. It’s gonna be yummy.

Then, next month, we’ll talk about orgɐsm. These two months are going to be revolutionary for you and your experience of pleɐsure & orgɐsm.

Join the exploration through the link in my bio.
Recordings are available. Calls are held online on the 3rd Tuesday of every month.

What I want you to know about sensuality…

Sensuality fills the gap between just living and feeling vibrantly alive.
She’s the bridge between numbness and aliveness.
She contains the totality of our emotions. From rage to ecstasy. From grief to joy. From contraction to expansion.

Sensuality can be a resource for you in times of stress, anxiety, sadness, rage, depression…

She can soothe your nervous system… bring you back home to yourself. She can take you higher than yourself. She can bring you out of a stuck place, loosen up your stagnancy, juice you up and get you your flow back.

Sensuality comes in many flavors.
She can be hot, cold, slow, fast, erotic or unerotic.

She can add zest to the simplest things…
Doing the dishes
Walking through the grocery store
Your breath
Your salad (anyone else struggle to eat a salad?)

Sensuality is *not* innately s*xual, but she can certainly enhance your s*xual experiences.

Sensuality *is* innately erotic, in the sense that she connects you to the pulse of life.

Ahhh, sensuality.

Sensuality brings you back to your own rhythm.

She’s such a gentle informant of what you need (and what you don’t).

Sensuality can help you drop out of your mind and into your body.

She can help you access more pleasure, more feeling in general.

Sensuality can feel like electricity on your skin (in a good way).
A buzzing in your bones. A strong yes and a strong no.

She’ll remind you of how gorgeous your soft, beautiful curves are.
She’ll remind you that it’s not about how you look, but about how you feel.

Sensuality is a gateway to transcendence. Transcending thought, time, judgment, fear, anxiety…

Sensuality is a gateway into the underworld. Not necessarily a tool to bypass the grit and grime of the world, but a way to dive in and navigate it.

Your sensual nature is a gateway to your deepest inner knowing. Your trustworthy intuition. That part of you that is unshakable. Un-f**k-with-able.

I feel there’s so much I want you to know about sensuality…

I can tell you all about her through my own lens… or you can join me inside The Honey Hive this month where we’ll dive deep into explorations around our own sensuality.