Grief Support

Looking for shadows 👀 🤔

1. Emotional triggers

Shadows often show up as strong reactions (anger, jealousy, shame, irritation, fear) that feels bigger than the situation calls for.

Example: You feel rage when someone brags possible shadow around feeling “unworthy” or “not enough.”

2. Pay attention to projections

What you judge harshly in others often mirrors something you haven’t accepted in yourself.

Example: If you hate when people are lazy, you might have a shadow around rest, ease, or “not being productive enough.”

3. Look at recurring patterns

Situations or relationships that repeat in your life often point toward an unintegrated shadow.

Example: Constantly attracting unavailable partners shadow around abandonment or unworthiness of love.

4. Examine what you hide

Shadows live in the parts of yourself you try to cover up or deny.

Ask: What do I not want people to see about me?

5. Check for envy or longing

Sometimes your shadow is not the “dark” trait, but a suppressed gift.

If you envy someone’s confidence, freedom, or creativity, it may be a hidden part of you craving expression.

6. Explore your childhood wounds

Shadows often form when you were shamed, punished, or ignored for certain traits as a child.

Example: If you were told “don’t cry,” your shadow may include sensitivity, vulnerability, or emotional depth.

7. Journal prompts to uncover them

“The traits I can’t stand in others are…”

“The parts of myself I try to hide are…”

“I feel most ashamed when…”

“I secretly wish I could…”

The shadow self that holds you back from developing into a medium/psychic.

Many people engaged with spirits as a child though ‼️💯

1. Fear of Judgment

Shadow expression: “People will think I’m crazy."

"I'm making this up."

This fear comes from childhood experiences of being dismissed, mocked, or punished.

It blocks development because the person won’t practice or trust what they are receiving.

2. Fear of Spirits / the Unknown

“What if something dark comes through?”

Religious conditioning, and the fear of spirits can create a shadow barrier blocking 🚫 you from opening up.

3. Unworthiness

Shadow expression: “I’m not special enough,” “I don’t deserve,” or “Only certain chosen people can do this.”

The shadow uses self-doubt to keep things locked away.

4. Control and Ego

Shadow expression: Wanting to control when and how spirit communicates, or needing validation and accuracy at all times.

This prevents natural, which are key to developing mediumship.

5. Past Life Wounds

The shadow may carry fear of being harmed for using spiritual abilities.

6. Avoidance of Healing

Shadow expression: Refusing to look at unresolved grief, trauma, or fears.

Since mediumship amplifies your sensitivity, unhealed parts of yourself can create distortion, projection, or energetic exhaustion.

7. Comparison and Jealousy

Shadow expression: “They’re a better medium than me,” or resentment toward others.

This blocks development by keeping the focus on others you deem "Better than you" instead of focusing on your own connection with spirit.

Write down the fears or doubts that come up when you think about mediumship.

Ask yourself, “What am I trying to protect myself from?”

The shadow guards you from past pain, ridicule, trauma, or danger. (Over protective friend like anxiety)

Once you acknowledge it it'll relax.

2. Fear

When you feel fear of spirit or the unknown, instead of shutting down,

Say, “Fear, thank you for warning me, but I want to be curious."

3. Inner Child Healing

Many blocks come from childhood moments when your connection to spirit was dismissed or your parents thought you were crazy. 🤪

Close your eyes and imagine your younger self who felt misunderstood.

This heals the root of judgment.

4. Past Life healing.

If you sense persecution wounds, set the intention before meditation:

“I release all fear of being harmed for using these abilities across all timelines.”

Visualize cords being cut ✂️ from all lives where you may have been persecuted. Just set the intention to cut all cords.

5. Mirror 🪞 therapy

Look into a mirror and say

“I am worthy to tap into what I am naturally born with."

“It is safe for me to be a medium or a psychic”

This reprograms shadow voices of unworthiness.

6. Shadow Gratitude

Instead of fighting the shadow, say, “Thank you for trying to keep me safe, you are not ahead of me, or behind me, we are whole."

This transforms resistance into partnership.

(Of course a warning ⚠️ for anyone going through psychosis or schizophrenia I don't want to recommend anyone to venture off into something where it could cause more harm than good)

You can have fun and create your own shadow work around this topic.

The Bible condemning Mediumship.

Deuteronomy 18:10-12 or Leviticus 19:31, you’ll see warnings against "consulting mediums, necromancers, or familiar spirits."

But let's look at these things better.

These scriptures were written during a time when people believed gods and spirits could easily be misused to gain power, curse enemies, or manipulate outcomes. It wasn’t written for compassionate, love based mediumship it was responding to fear based ritual practices and superstition. There was plenty of that back in this time.

The early religious institutions had to maintain authority. If people realized they could connect, they wouldn’t need priests, sacrifices, or fear based obedience.

Ancient Hebrew words like 'ob' or 'yiddeoni' have been mistranslated as "medium" or "spiritist." Some scholars argue they more accurately refer to people who used divination for manipulation, not a loving connection with spirits.

Mediumship is love 💓, not fear, connection, not control, healing, not exploitation, consent, clarity, and compassion.

People like Ezekiel, Elijah, Daniel, John of Patmos (Revelation) they had visions, heard voices, even spoke directly with beings not on Earth.

That’s literally clairaudience, clairvoyance, and channeling.

Back to Leviticus 19:31 and Deuteronomy 18:10-12

The distortion:

Those verses were aimed at manipulative spirit practices, people who used fear, sacrifice, or control, not love based communication. The Hebrew word “ob” (translated as "medium") was often used for people doing divination from animal organs, which is not the same as spiritually connecting with passed loved ones.

The witch story 1 Samuel 28

This is the one where King Saul goes to a medium (the “witch”) to contact the prophet Samuel.

The distortion:

Some people claim that this was a demon pretending to be Samuel… But nowhere in the text does it say that.

By the 4th century, when the Roman Empire adopted Christianity, the Church needed tight control over spiritual access. They outlawed personal divination and mediumship, not because it was evil, but because it made priests obsolete.

Mediumship became associated with witchcraft, heresy, and devil worship because it gave individuals power.

“Necromancy”

This term gets thrown around harshly. But in the ancient world, necromancy often referred to ritualistic sacrifice, summoning spirits for power or revenge.

The distortion:

That definition got tangled up with loving spirit communication.

Jesus himself said, “You will do even greater things than I.”

He communed with the dead as well.

You’re not breaking God’s law.

You’re God. ✨️🙌💪

You as the God self that you are aren't ever forced to reincarnate or do anything else against your own will. Don't listen to some of these people out here, and don't listen to the whole karmic debt s**t either.

You don't owe anyone anything at all. 💯 But, of course if you've done wrong morally we want to reconcile, and not leave anyone on a bad note but even if things can't be resolved you still don't have to pay some piper in the afterlife.

In the afterlife we will all feel our feelings, and we'll get to understand situations from different perspectives. We can also interact with people we need closure from, so it's all good!

Don't let these people scare you. You have a choice and free will once you go back home 🏡 to the afterlife. Force isn't in alignment to love. ❤️

Learn how to connect to your husband, wife, and any other loved ones because nobody else can connect on such a deep level the way you can with your own loved one.

A lot of mediums out there say the craziest s**t, and won't spare your feelings because of their own ego. Which is why it's important for you to connect on your own, get your own proof, and know the truth that your spirit feels coming from your loved one.

Not all mediums are bad apples, I've had beginner (Just started getting into mediumship) mediums blow my mind, and give me accuracy of my connections more than professional mediums who have been doing mediumship for years. Unfortunately, many of the the beginners get sucked into mediumship training classes, where there they are taught what to believe, and what to say to people.

Which is why some believe that if you have a relationship with your spirit loved one, it's all this crazy s**t that they spew, and they don't understand you.

Nobody can connect the way you can to your loved one. 💯

Why do people not believe in spirits, mediumship, and spirit communication?

Society teaches you to doubt what you feel, see, sense, know within your own heart, and worship what you can't prove. Such as believing the stories of the Bible, knowing that the biggest author of the book is Paul, and the rest nobody really knows for sure.

But, that's just how good society can condition people to believe whatever someone says right?

The conditionings have heen going on for centuries ✂️it cuts people off from the deepest part of themselves, their soul senses... The part that knows when a loved one is near. The part that feels truth from their own heart ❤️ and soul.

Spirit communication isn’t “woo woo” It’s remembering what’s real, before the world made you forget about it, and not believe in it.

Most people don’t understand they were trained to doubt spirit. But they were. Very its been drilled into many people. Even if someone knows it's real, but because of their upbringing they run 🏃‍♂️ from it, they are suffering from cognitive dissonance, and they need your patience.

1. “It’s just your imagination.”

As kids, when we saw someone unseen by others, adults would shut it down: “Stop making things up.” "It's not real." "It's your imagination."

They learned at an early age that the topic of spirit communication wasn’t safe to talk about.

2. “If you can’t prove it, it’s not real.”

School & Science has drilled into us that it's all about evidence, logic, and results. But spirits don't follow rules. So everything gets labeled

“unreliable.”

3. For some, they were told only priests or prophets could talk to the divine. That they weren’t worthy, or worse that talking to spirits directly was evil or dangerous.

4. Movies and media made it spooky.

Spirit was shown as scary ghosts, hauntings, horror. So even if someone did feel something, fear kicked in. They were taught to associate the unseen with darkness, not love.

6. “Don’t be weird.”

Social pressure shut down the conversation. If you said you felt someone who died, saw something, heard something you risked being mocked or isolated.

But here's the truth:

Every single person is born with the ability to connect. It gets buried, not broken. Conditioned out, not lost. And when people start to feel again, open themselves up, and stop being what everyone else wants them to be they'll be free to go back to their original state of innocence where they can experience what others aren’t experiencing, because they are shut down to the truth.

People are just brainwashed and they suffer from cognitive dissonance, and maybe even Stockholm syndrome by religious groups.

We were sold an illusion.

WE ALL NEED TO WAKE UP ‼️

Colonization didn’t just take land it rewired minds. It taught people, especially white people, to trade their natural instincts for obedience, comfort, and control.

1. Colonization created a “safety in silence” mindset.

Generations of Caucasian people were taught: “As long as you follow the rules, stay in line, and don’t question power you’ll be safe.”

They were promised comfort in exchange for compliance. So over time, the fire to challenge injustice got buried under a blanket of:

“It’s not my place. I don’t want to cause trouble. I’m not affected.”

2. Whiteness became a system, not just a skin tone.

It created an identity rooted in separation from the Earth, from indigenous roots, from inner truth.

White folks were taught to identify with the system, not question it, because questioning it felt like pulling down the very thing that gave them status or security.

3. Shame and guilt created silence.

Many white people see the injustice but they freeze. Why? Because they’re carrying unspoken generational guilt or confusion like:

“What can I do?

Will I say the wrong thing? Is it even my place?”

So instead of acting, they retreat. That silence becomes complicity even when their heart is screaming otherwise.

4. The education system erased rebellion.

Most white people don’t get taught about the revolutionary ancestors who fought back.

They don’t learn about the poor white people who resisted slavery, who stood with Indigenous people, who burned systems down.

Instead, they get fed a sanitized version of history where rebellion is rare, and obedience is “good citizenship.”

5. Spirit got cut out.

When colonization severed spiritual traditions in Europe, white people lost their original soul fire, the connection to Earth, ancestors, and justice.

Without that, the system filled the gap with government, religion, and fear-based loyalty. It taught them to fight for systems, not truth.

We were sold a whole illusion. Wrapped in a pretty bow called “normal,” “civilized,” “successful.” But underneath? It was fear. Control. Disconnection.

You were told:

Obey the system = safety

Work hard, don’t ask questions = good person

Stay comfortable = you’re doing it right

But the truth? That system wasn’t built to free you. It was built to keep everyone especially white people, distracted and disconnected. From their instincts. From their wildness. From their power to say, “This isn’t right.”

It made comfort feel like virtue. It made silence look like peace. It made questioning feel like betrayal. And that’s the trick of the illusion it makes you forget that you were born to challenge what isn’t true. You were meant to feel, rage, cry, rise, not sit quiet in a house that’s burning down.

America talked about freedom, wrote it on paper, put it in songs, built statues for it but the foundation? It was built on control. On stolen land. On stolen labor. On silence.

The idea of “freedom” in America was selective from the start...

Freedom for a few.
Chains for the rest.

They said:

“Land of the free.”

While killing the Indigenous people who were already here...

They said:

“All men are created equal.”

While owning human beings and condoning slavery.

They said:

“Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

But only if you were the right color, class, gender, religion.

America wasn’t built on true freedom. It was built on the illusion of it. And that illusion kept people chasing something they never fully received, while defending the very system that kept them from it.

They know people won't rise up, no bite all bark, people will stay in the illusion, and people won't fight so that's why things don't get better. Everything is designed to keep people trapped in the illusions.