Grieving the Child

Grieving the Child


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My birthday is quickly approaching. I will be 46 years young and I lost my only child 20 months ago, he was just 27 years old. I have created a fundraiser through Facebook, for grieve the child. I hope I get some donations and people to support this cause. 💜💛😇
Anything helps. Please share.

Does anyone else look at photos and think.... I should have 1 in between them. He would be 6, would he be a superhero this year? Something scary like his siblings. Always on my mind, love you Nixion Leo 💕 Happy Halloween
Hi followers of Grieving the Child!

Your Founder knows infant loss with her Allyssa. We were able to collaborate and I was privileged to be able to interview her online!! I can't wait until I can interview her in person. I will be posting that in my child loss group. If you have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss, asked to join our private, faith-based Baby Loss Connection group so you can see the interview!


Jenn Founder of Spark Joy Ministries
The Ghost of Me.

Have you seen me lately?
With my emotions so deep and raw?
I must inform you immediately
That it was the ghost of me you saw.

My faked smile. My eyes glazed over.
The conversation forced.
My expression dull and troubled.
Through my veins anxiety coursed.

The spirit of me, with her hollow laugh,
Is but a shadow of who I am.
My body going through the motions,
Led to the slaughter like a lamb.

I care for none, myself the least.
My depression knows no bounds.
I think not of the future,
But of the past and of its sounds.

The phantom of me, she stays inside.
She hides from all the world.
She wants no one to see her,
And the sorrow that around her swirled.

My spector tries to be so strong,
But always turns out weak.
Wishing she could climb out of the quagmire, and to the angels speak.

The h'aint that's me hovers overhead,
A fog of grief and tears.
As I weep aloud and call her name,
It's clear that no one hears.

The apparition of me hears no music,
No laughter from her life that was.
Now in her ears, all that's left
Is a loud and deafening buzz.

Though the ghost of me is all that's left,
Fear not, I am not dead.
I'm not who I used to be at all,
I am the ghost of me instead.

But deep inside that ghost
There's a tiny spark within.
It's the old me from before the pain,
Trying to learn to live again.

The ghost of me will never leave.
That part is here to stay.
But the alive me is also here,
To emerge anew some day.

- Amber Hamilton

I also have a Facebook blog called The Memoirs of a Blue-eyed Briar where I discuss my grief over my mother's death and my life in general. Stop by and like my page to be notified of the latest posts.
I'm so grateful for this group. I'm the author of the book, Grieving the Child I Never Knew and look forward to being with your support group in November. I'm praying for all of you!
Nixon Leo Valles born still 9-3-13 2lb 9oz 15 in.
Chris Bracamontes 9-16-2011
Ashlynn Jane Reardon
Born into heaven January 17, 2013

Grieving the Child is here to offer counseling for men and women. We offer Christian Counseling when requested. We specialize in infertility, parenting with no living children, and survivors of miscarriage, infant death, stillbirth and/or abortion.

Grieving the Child provides counseling wherever you are in your life. This includes the perinatal period (infertility, miscarriage, abortions, medical terminations, early infant loss, parenting with or without children), perinatal depression and anxiety, eating disorders, trauma, grief, and loss, and helping men and women build a life when they do not have children. The perinatal period has many a

Operating as usual


I journey beside you on this International Bereaved Mother’s Day.

You are a mother every day

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Yes it is


Dads we need you!

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Noble Prints and Jonathan Fero are able to create these amazing mementos!

Anyone can purchase and your pictures are not limited only to your child you lost.

This was created using my daughter’s photo who died when she was 18 days old.


We need hats for losses under 20 weeks.

Kylie Bourland and I can be your point of contact to donate them to our local hospital.

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Photos from Undefining Motherhood's post 04/01/2022

Please remember...


Ready to help others through loss? Here is a great starting point

The world needs more doulas.
The stillbirthday Birth & Bereavement Doula® program is on sale, from $250 standard, now at $40 tuition until this weekend.

Become the neighbor who can really offer tangible support. Build a ministry in your community. Explore parts of your own journey in a fresh new way. Establish an entrepreneurial business. Add to your already earned credentials or services in birth or in bereavement. Earn nursing contact hours if you need them.

Wherever this opportunity meets you - you're needed, and I hope this is the invitation you've been waiting for.

--> EDIT to update on timeline. We've posted in the original thread and on the registration link, so sharing here, too. We'll be adjusting to a different tuition total in an hour. Our standard tuition is $250 and we often offer a discount, though this current special is our greatest. Please know that if the time is not quite right for you now, our hearts are to offer a fair opportunity for you to then serve fair opportunities as doulas in your communities, because we're all in this together.

Photos from Grieving the Child's post 03/30/2022

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Did you know this?

Repost from Pregnancy After Loss Support

Did you know that those pregnant and postpartum after loss are at increased risk for perinatal and postpartum mood and anxiety disorders? Did you feel supported and monitored during your pregnancy after loss and postpartum periods?

Be gentle with yourselves, and reach out if you need extra support.


Learn more about Pregnancy After Loss Awareness Month and how you can help spread awareness:

Adam Angel, LCSW, LICSW - Clinical Social Worker at The Healing Instinct 03/21/2022

Adam Angel, LCSW, LICSW - Clinical Social Worker at The Healing Instinct

Dads who have experienced loss. Here is a support group

Our next 6 week men's perinatal loss group will begin on 5/2. This group is for men that have experienced stillbirth/early infancy loss up to 3 months after birth. This group meets for 6 sessions on a weekly basis. The group has no residency requirements. It is facilitated as a structured psycho education and peer support group to help men cope and find a way forward.

When: 830pm EST

Where: Virtual on zoom

Cost: Sliding scale $180-$390 for 6 sessions, if cost is an issue please email me, cost will not be a barrier. Payment can be utilized through venmo, paypal and stripe for credit card.

Group size: 6 people per group, this is a closed group once it is full.

Contact: [email protected]

Thank you!


Adam Angel, LCSW, LICSW - Clinical Social Worker at The Healing Instinct Mental health therapist with offering telehealth appointments for people in Maryland and DC and perinatal loss groups for men nationally/internationally. Paperwork and scheduling can be filled out online. 15 min free consultations are available. Contact us at (410) 216-0747. For clients seeking fath...


We have an opening on our Board of Directors.

Know someone that can help connect with our mission? Send them our way


You. Are. Loved.

Great advice for our clients as well as ourselves. We need to take care of ourselves to help others. Thank you everyone for all you do to help the community. 😍🙏


Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything. Use whatever lotion you like. Unscented? Dollar store lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.

Put on your favorite underwear. Cute black lacy panties? Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water. Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music. Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food. Don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s ramen. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something. Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.

Go outside. Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

Call someone. Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today I Love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!!

***People don’t fake depression.. they fake being ok.

Find something to be grateful for!
National Su***de Prevention Lifeline
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish.

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Support for you in pregnancy after loss

March is Pregnancy After Loss Awareness Month 🌈 Know that PSI is here for you and has a virtual support group that meets weekly on Mondays (time varies based on the leader).

The Pregnancy After Loss: Support for Parents support group provides connection for parents riding the emotional waves of pregnancy after a loss. Led by PSI-trained facilitators with lived experience, this group helps parents find support, as well as provides useful information and resources to help them navigate pregnancy after loss. Joy, fear, sadness and grieving are common during this time. In this group, you will meet others who can relate and support you during your new pregnancy. We are here to help.

Check the schedule and register here:

Timeline photos 03/09/2022

You were not meant to mother your child who died alone.

Suicidal After The Loss Of My Child: And I Survived - Still Standing Magazine 03/07/2022

Suicidal After The Loss Of My Child: And I Survived - Still Standing Magazine

I did die that day. Who I am now is not the same person. What about you?

Suicidal After The Loss Of My Child: And I Survived - Still Standing Magazine I survived the desire to die by su***de after the loss of my child. That doesn't make me weak, and it surely doesn't make me strong.


Such good information.

Have you ever thought this?

People may think that postpartum anxiety (or PPA) is just worrying a lot. Or they may not even realize that PPA is a disorder!

Here's what postpartum anxiety actually is ⬇️
🟣 Constant worry
🟣 Feeling that something bad is going to happen
🟣 Racing thoughts
🟣 Appetite and sleep disturbances
🟣 Inability to sit still
🟣 Physical symptoms such as nausea, hot flashes, and dizziness

If you are experiencing postpartum anxiety, you are not alone, and you are not to blame. You can feel better. Call or text HELP to 800-944-4773 at any time to reach a PSI HelpLine volunteer 💜

Inspired by Maternal Mental Health Utah


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It is birth.

Birth is birth.

Whether it happens in your own home.

At the office.

In a gas station bathroom.

At a birthing center.

In a hospital.

Birth is birth.

No matter the gestation.

Regardless of the outcome.

Whether you’re alone or you have support.

Birth is birth.

And all birthing people deserve support and care.

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Photos from Grieving the Child's post 02/01/2022

February and March are always the hardest emotionally for me. I sometimes wish I could just disappear knowing how the wave of emotions hit me as the holidays come around knowing that my sweet girls birthday will be here before I know it. I prepare for February trying to celebrate the sweet day of her birth. I try to be kind to myself knowing that day was the best. I got to hear her cry.

I got to hold her and nurse her. I got to do many things.

BUT then. day 18 comes. that day always lingers in the back of my mind.

Knowing the day of her death will come and I will be reminded of the worst part of my life.

Waking up to her lifeless body in my arms. Giving her cpr. Praying that there was a God. One I did not know or if there was really even one who existed.

in 12 days I get to celebrate her 12th birthday.

12 years old my sweet Allyssa Marie.

I am Allyssa's Mom.

Today I am planning on how we will celebrate this year. What would she be wanting for a present. What kind of cake will we get?

How will the kids celebrate her?

All I know is that I have had 12 years of being her mom and so many more to go. Although this has been the hardest parenting I have ever known. Parenting a child in heaven is not easy or kind or anything I ever wanted but I do love being Allyssa's mom.

I love her sweet face. I miss her so much. I wish she was here to celebrate this momentous occasion of her day.

Allyssa's Mom
Jennifer, Founder and President of Grieving the Child
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Thank you for your support tonight!


Pizza time!

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My Mom is a survivor,
Or so I've heard it said.
But I can hear her crying at night
When all others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her
to help her understand.
But like the sands on the beach
That never washes away...
I watch over my surviving mom,
Who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others...
A smile of disguise!
But through Heaven's door I see
Tears flowing from her eyes.
My mom tries to cope with death
To keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows
It is her way to survive.
As I watch over my surviving mom
Through Heaven's open door...
I try to tell her those angels
Protect me forever more.
I know that doesn't help her...
Or ease the burden she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her...
And show her that you care.
For no matter what she says...
No matter what she feels.
My surviving mom has a broken heart
That time won't ever heal.

Wonderfully written by Kaye Des'Ormeaux, October 15, 1998 and dedicated to all the moms who have lost a precious child and somehow managed to survive ❤️


Pizza Monday 5pm to close

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Dont forget Pizza Monday

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January 31st come support us

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We are here for you.

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Please hold on to this as a reminder

Sometimes, we need reminding.


Be honest.

💗 Let's listen to & support one another.


How big is your cup today? Mine gets bigger as my daughters birthday gets closer.

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Today I’m carrying the big cup.

How about you?

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Grieving the Child 01/22/2022

Grieving the Child

I am excited to begin treating client with EMDR treatment. If you have been looking for a local provider (Arizona) who is excepting new patients keep me in mind or pass on my information to anyone you may know who could benefit from trauma informed therapy.


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