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Are you dealing with overly controlling parents?

I spoke to a journalist who wants to interview couples whose parents or in-laws have offered to pay for some of the wedding but in exchange, are being VERY insistent on getting their way. (For example, a mother-in-law insisting on inviting her entire friend group or a father pushing a fancy venue that doesn’t suit your low-key tastes.) She said "Obviously all anecdotes can stay anonymous!"

Interested in sharing? Leave a message and we'll get you in touch with the writer at New York Magazine!

Wedding money, family control, and why The New York Times keeps calling us: https://offbeatwed.com/nytimes-wedding-money/

Dirt on the hem, Scotch in the flask, and a 10-year-old promise kept on the edge of a volcano!! 🌋🥃 Cindy and Jay skipped the wedding performance and opted for pure, understated partnership... complete with a bride in North Face boots and a canoe canoodle. This AAPI Heritage Month, we are screaming from the rooftops (and the crater rims) for couples who do it entirely their own way.

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Wedding vendors spend so much time talking about how well they see their clients... but when was the last time YOU felt truly seen?

The 1:1 consulting sessions I do with Offbeat Wed vendor members are designed for exactly that. I review your website and messaging, tell you what your brand is currently communicating (not just what you meant to say, but what a stranger actually reads), and we figure out together what to sharpen.

Every new and renewing vendor membership includes a free session. Lemme know if you've got questions, or DM me if you want in.

Angelica & Arnold’s Los Angeles wedding was a celestial celebration inspired by Mona Megistus from the video game Genshin Impact... if this is your brand of nerdy, you are going to be OBSESSED: https://offbeatwed.com/mona-megistus-wedding/

VENDORS:
Wedding Planner/Designer: Fantastical Adventures
Ceremony Venue: St. John Eudes Church
Reception Venue / Catering & Bar: The Odyssey Restaurant & Special Events Center
Cake: Manda Bakes .bakes
Photographer: Rico Saturn Photography
Photobooth: Boho Booth Photobooth Co. .booth
Entertainment: DJ Peace Piano
Hair & Makeup: Kristie Beaute .beaute

David's Bridal is the wedding industry's deadbeat ex who just got an MFA in machine learning.

This is a $50 vintage gown that the bride "dresscued" for her wedding day. David's Bridal blamed brides exactly like this (couples opting for "less traditional wedding attire, including thrift wedding dresses") for the company's collapse in its 2023 bankruptcy filing. 😤 (Keep in mind, that was their SECOND TIME declaring bankruptcy.)

Now, two years and one fire-sale bankruptcy buyout later, David's Bridal has rebranded itself as a "tech-powered multihyphenate" with an AI-powered wedding planning platform. The pitch? It will match brides like this with independent vendors, who pay David's Bridal for the privilege... Keep in mind, this is the same company that left independent seamstresses unpaid for thousands of dollars in completed work in 2023!!

And now they want to be your indie vendor's new AI-supported lead-gen platform in 2026!?? Wrote about why this is some bu****it on the blog today. 🤬 I don't normally rant like this, but this is some piping hot vendor tea!

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Friends, I have receipts. David's Bridal (yes, the one that has filed for bankruptcy TWICE since 2018, laid off 9,000+ workers, voided customers' gift cards, and left independent seamstresses unpaid for thousands of dollars in completed work) has just announced it's pivoting to AI.

They want to be your wedding planner. They want indie vendors to pay them for "AI-matched leads." After everything they've done to couples AND small businesses in this industry!?

I wrote about why this won't work, and why the wedding industry's actual immune system has always been independent vendors and the couples who hire them.

Link in comments. Share if you're tired of watching extractive companies eat small businesses alive.

Can you guess what year this wedding happened? Sometimes it's easy to forget that we've been doing our thang for almost 20 years, and then I'm doing some work in the archives and I stumble across these two cuties and just so dang ADORABLE.

6 ways for autistic wedding photographers to avoid burnout, from autistic wedding photographers who know: https://offbeatwed.com/autistic-wedding-photographers/

Photo by Emily Paris Photography
Article also featuring wisdom from Dutcher Photography and A+K Photography