Sharna Langlais

So many of you have been so kind to check in with me over the last several months. It has been the most intense rebirth, and I feel happier and more myself than ever. 🙌🏼❤️

I’ve spent so many years of my life feeling like I had to go it on my own. So when my ex showed up for me so significantly, and 9 months later broke it off entirely out of the blue, it felt as though the universe was just reinforcing that same old pattern: I had finally trusted someone after years of being fiercely independent, and yup, I got burned.  

Yet in the midst of feeling so defeated by this old story, each one of you showed up. Each one of you reached out. You all showed me that support could (and should) look like more than just one person. It could rightfully look like an entire community. 

And so now I'm building this house! And because my ex had agreed to be the General Contractor, there was no money in the budget to replace his expertise, let alone his sweat equity that we’d factored in. Not only did I not have a GC, but I was in the negative in terms of funds needed. Yet in the midst of the worst heartbreak and betrayal, so many men stepped up and said, if this is your dream, you can do it and we will help you. 

So somehow — somehow you guys — I am being my own GC, in the Santa Fe market, which is known to be ruthless, expensive and unforgiving. I’m managing a team of the most supportive subs, along with figuring out draw requests and budgets, and overseeing the majority of it in Spanish - which is probably my favorite part. It has shown me that if the universe wants something to happen, nothing can stop it. And if it doesn’t, no matter how hard you try to make it work, it just won’t. 

I am truly happier than I’ve ever been. We can do hard things, y’all! And it is so worth it - especially when a person like me, has a community like you. 

Surrender can be so victorious when you realize you can take ownership of the lighter, match and the flame. You can light it all up and walk away, with a hip swish and a hair toss, watching how the future glows in the embers of burning and releasing the past. #surrender #release #motivationalquotes

So many of you have been so kind to check in with me over the last several months. It has been the most intense rebirth, and I feel happier and more myself than ever. 🙌🏼❤️

I’ve spent so many years of my life feeling like I had to go it on my own. So when my ex showed up for me so significantly, and 9 months later broke it off entirely out of the blue, it felt as though the universe was just reinforcing that same old pattern: I had finally trusted someone after years of being fiercely independent, and yup, I got burned.  

Yet in the midst of feeling so defeated by this old story, each one of you showed up. Each one of you reached out. You all showed me that support could (and should) look like more than just one person. It could rightfully look like an entire community. 

And so now I'm building this house! And because my ex had agreed to be the General Contractor, there was no money in the budget to replace his expertise, let alone his sweat equity that we’d factored in. Not only did I not have a GC, but I was in the negative in terms of funds needed. Yet in the midst of the worst heartbreak and betrayal, so many men stepped up and said, if this is your dream, you can do it and we will help you. 

So somehow — somehow you guys — I am being my own GC, in the Santa Fe market, which is known to be ruthless, expensive and unforgiving. I’m managing a team of the most supportive subs, along with figuring out draw requests and budgets, and overseeing the majority of it in Spanish - which is probably my favorite part. It has shown me that if the universe wants something to happen, nothing can stop it. And if it doesn’t, no matter how hard you try to make it work, it just won’t. 

I am truly happier than I’ve ever been. We can do hard things, y’all! And it is so worth it - especially when a person like me, has a community like you. 

Surrender can be so victorious when you realize you can take ownership of the lighter, match and the flame. You can light it all up and walk away, with a hip swish and a hair toss, watching how the future glows in the embers of burning and releasing the past. #surrender #release #motivationalquotes

Loneliness is a funny thing. I haven’t felt it for so many years. I’ve been alone probably more than I’ve been in relationship, and I’d learned to love my own company. Yet finding someone I wanted to spend so much time with, who also wanted to spend it with me, reminded me of how amazing intimacy can be.

I’ve just moved into a furnished house after 2 months of bouncing around and living out of a suitcase. The first two days of grounding were amazing and yet, as I adjust, I feel that unfamiliar feeling of loneliness. My ex had five kids who I became extremely bonded to. There was rarely a time we had them when someone wasn’t right up next to me. Sometimes we had 3 kids with us in our queen sized bed, all snuggled up watching Netflix on my laptop at 6am so we could get a few more zzzs.

I’ve never been loved the way he loved me. I’ve never offered so much of myself to someone else. The shock of the break up still sends ripples through my being, and I wonder how it is that suddenly now I am alone.

I don’t write this for expressions of advice. I write this because I think within the human condition we all struggle with feeling lonely. It’s as if we can’t allow emptiness and vacancy to live within us. We load ourselves up with so many distractions that we don’t allow the void to just be sometimes. Feeling lonely is so difficult, and yet it is where we find the space to dream of something new. It’s where we hollow out all that was, so we can step into what might be.

Without the liminal, in between space of not knowing, which includes feeling loneliness sometimes, we can never imagine what might come next.

PC: @jbrock50th

#loneliness #breakupquotes #movingon #surrender #relationships #trust #uncertainty #growth #love

Loneliness is a funny thing. I haven’t felt it for so many years. I’ve been alone probably more than I’ve been in relationship, and I’d learned to love my own company. Yet finding someone I wanted to spend so much time with, who also wanted to spend it with me, reminded me of how amazing intimacy can be.

I’ve just moved into a furnished house after 2 months of bouncing around and living out of a suitcase. The first two days of grounding were amazing and yet, as I adjust, I feel that unfamiliar feeling of loneliness. My ex had five kids who I became extremely bonded to. There was rarely a time we had them when someone wasn’t right up next to me. Sometimes we had 3 kids with us in our queen sized bed, all snuggled up watching Netflix on my laptop at 6am so we could get a few more zzzs.

I’ve never been loved the way he loved me. I’ve never offered so much of myself to someone else. The shock of the break up still sends ripples through my being, and I wonder how it is that suddenly now I am alone.

I don’t write this for expressions of advice. I write this because I think within the human condition we all struggle with feeling lonely. It’s as if we can’t allow emptiness and vacancy to live within us. We load ourselves up with so many distractions that we don’t allow the void to just be sometimes. Feeling lonely is so difficult, and yet it is where we find the space to dream of something new. It’s where we hollow out all that was, so we can step into what might be.

Without the liminal, in between space of not knowing, which includes feeling loneliness sometimes, we can never imagine what might come next.

PC: @jbrock50th

#loneliness #breakupquotes #movingon #surrender #relationships #trust #uncertainty #growth #love

A lot of what we see about romantic love in our culture is based on dependency. It’s predicated on the idea that we only really love someone if we think we can never live without them. I had someone say to me recently, “if I’m not afraid of losing someone, does it mean I don’t love them?” It’s an interesting question.

Each relationship is unique, but I do know that when we focus on not wanting to lose someone as a primary, driving factor for loving them and keeping them, we only end up over-compromising and over-giving, relinquishing our boundaries, wants and needs to appease the other person. A fear-driven kind of love means we sacrifice when it may not be healthy. We also forfeit what we want in our lives, because the relationship or the other person becomes the end all be all.

This type of “I can’t live without you love” also deifies the other person; it puts them on a pedestal that doesn’t allow for errors or mistakes. Accepting and loving the shadow of one’s partner is one of the elements of true and lasting intimacy.

The kind of love that chooses someone each day, whether it’s a bad day or a good day, even when you might not particularly like that person in that moment - that’s a love that is driven out of empowerment, because choice is empowering. When we feel we can’t live without the other, our choice-making becomes extremely jeopardized.

Love that is based on choice allows more than enough space for each person to choose themselves, at the same time that they choose each other. It welcomes boundaries and space, communication and reflection, shadow and light. #love #relationships #quotes #motivationalquotes #endings #beginnings #awareness

A lot of what we see about romantic love in our culture is based on dependency. It’s predicated on the idea that we only really love someone if we think we can never live without them. I had someone say to me recently, “if I’m not afraid of losing someone, does it mean I don’t love them?” It’s an interesting question.

Each relationship is unique, but I do know that when we focus on not wanting to lose someone as a primary, driving factor for loving them and keeping them, we only end up over-compromising and over-giving, relinquishing our boundaries, wants and needs to appease the other person. A fear-driven kind of love means we sacrifice when it may not be healthy. We also forfeit what we want in our lives, because the relationship or the other person becomes the end all be all.

This type of “I can’t live without you love” also deifies the other person; it puts them on a pedestal that doesn’t allow for errors or mistakes. Accepting and loving the shadow of one’s partner is one of the elements of true and lasting intimacy.

The kind of love that chooses someone each day, whether it’s a bad day or a good day, even when you might not particularly like that person in that moment - that’s a love that is driven out of empowerment, because choice is empowering. When we feel we can’t live without the other, our choice-making becomes extremely jeopardized.

Love that is based on choice allows more than enough space for each person to choose themselves, at the same time that they choose each other. It welcomes boundaries and space, communication and reflection, shadow and light. #love #relationships #quotes #motivationalquotes #endings #beginnings #awareness

💩 has been real lately people. My relationship ended, I’m finding a new place to live and the port a potty arrived out at my land. Construction officially started today - I guess the port a potty is the sign it’s really happening. 😂-
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I’ve just been displaced in about every way I can think of. And blindsided by a break up I truly didn’t see coming. The universe decided it was time for it all to burn to the ground so a rebirth could happen. And most days I am learning to embrace it while processing an incredible amount of grief and disbelief.-
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It also means I’m building my house without a project manager or GC. I’m stepping in to it all, and so many amazing earth angels have come out of the woodwork to support me. I know I’m being redirected and I’m working to embrace it as I heal my heart. I keep yelling “plot twist!” out loud and trying to remember that makes this life that much more exciting and enriching. Plus, I got to take on another new endeavor of which I know just about nothing. I remind myself each day the opportunities for growth and strength are astounding. -
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It also means you’ll probably be seeing me more on here again. I’m regrounded in a sense of purpose I think I lost to the feeling of being in love.-
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Life changes even if you don’t want it to. And then, that shift changes you. Sending so many shout outs and gratitude to everyone who has been there for me through this shift. Onward and upward! ❤️ #breakingground #breakingup #onward

💩 has been real lately people. My relationship ended, I’m finding a new place to live and the port a potty arrived out at my land. Construction officially started today - I guess the port a potty is the sign it’s really happening. 😂-
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I’ve just been displaced in about every way I can think of. And blindsided by a break up I truly didn’t see coming. The universe decided it was time for it all to burn to the ground so a rebirth could happen. And most days I am learning to embrace it while processing an incredible amount of grief and disbelief.-
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It also means I’m building my house without a project manager or GC. I’m stepping in to it all, and so many amazing earth angels have come out of the woodwork to support me. I know I’m being redirected and I’m working to embrace it as I heal my heart. I keep yelling “plot twist!” out loud and trying to remember that makes this life that much more exciting and enriching. Plus, I got to take on another new endeavor of which I know just about nothing. I remind myself each day the opportunities for growth and strength are astounding. -
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It also means you’ll probably be seeing me more on here again. I’m regrounded in a sense of purpose I think I lost to the feeling of being in love.-
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Life changes even if you don’t want it to. And then, that shift changes you. Sending so many shout outs and gratitude to everyone who has been there for me through this shift. Onward and upward! ❤️ #breakingground #breakingup #onward

I signed my construction loan documents today! It’s been almost a year of trying to work out the best way to build this house...and I never anticipated that part of the delay was waiting for Marshall to come in to my life. Toward the end of last year we decided it would make more sense to build the house ourselves...and it is more than perfect that Marshall’s background is in construction project management. 😍🙌🏼 So I kicked off a new loan process at the beginning of the year so we could build it ourselves, and today, just two days before my birthday, I signed the loan documents to make it so.

Throughout this process I am reminded of divine timing - and that sometimes when we experience delays, it’s because the universe is lining up something even better for us. Marshall has been one of the greatest gifts in my life in so many ways, and that we are building this house together is a gift for which I am beyond grateful.

Thank you, baby, for making this possible. And thank you to everyone who has already been an integral part of this process, especially Keith @lachappelle_85 who took us this far.

I can’t wait to share more as we get started in a couple of weeks. Until then, a big thanks to everyone who has sent their love and support toward making this possible!

#building #construction #home #love #blessings #grateful #happy #simplysantafe #newmexicotrue #santafe

Do you remember those moments we connected? It felt so alive and beyond reproach. Could we connect again that way? If not, let me just say: I adore you. I adore your beauty and your strength. Those difficult things you did that no one saw? I see them, and I honor you endlessly for your grace. ❤️

Do you remember those moments we connected? It felt so alive and beyond reproach. Could we connect again that way? If not, let me just say: I adore you. I adore your beauty and your strength. Those difficult things you did that no one saw? I see them, and I honor you endlessly for your grace. ❤️

It’s love that heals. I feel like I’ve always known this, and certainly I’ve taught it, practiced it and it’s what I channel through my work. But it seems that in all my romantic relationships to date, it has been pain, shadow, and challenges that have shown up as my teachers.

I would often look at other people, many of them my clients, and wonder what they were doing so differently that they were able to actualize love in a romantic and healing way. If I’m being honest, I’ve often felt like an imposter in my professional healing work around relationships for not having been able to figure out how to reach that summit of partnership in my personal life that was supportive, loving, generous, mutual, and kind.

You all have been so incredibly supportive over the last several months as I’ve shared my journey. And many have asked what it was that called in this incredible person. And I seriously wish I knew!

Many of you have also heard me talk over the years about how important timing is as we actualize the most important aspects of our lives. So often it has nothing to do with what we are doing or not doing, but more to do with a divine plan.

This experience has solidified my belief that timing is a tremendous part of reaping the benefits of our healing work. And while the universe manages the timing, we are meant to continue on our personal journeys until whatever it is we are striving for is finally ready to meet us. And in the process, we keep learning and growing and transforming so that we are also ready to meet it when it shows up.

There’s certainly more intricacies that I’ll share as I find the words to put to them. For now, I continue to revel in the incredible way that I am finally experiencing just how deeply love heals.

PC: Ryan Begay Photography #love #inlove #relationshipgoals #healing #growth #santafe #photoshoot #happy #blessed #myguy #sograteful