Correlation

Three toddlers. Three sets of big feelings.
One mommy-and-me hour that ended with me fried before the workday even started.

So after drop off (and before returning with outfit changes as a concession to the tantrums), I took a 15-minute nap.

The nap was 15 minutes.
The guilt lasted about the same.

Which raises a question — why do we demonize something our body is actively telling us it needs?

Here’s the part nobody tells postpartum moms: your performance — at work, with your kids, in your own head — is downstream of your recovery.

And your recovery has been outsourced to “whenever you can.”
That’s not a system. That’s a hope.

The Shift opens this September. Waitlist is live — link in bio.
↓ Send this to the mom who needs the permission.

Save this. Send it to the friend who needs it.

Burnout in motherhood doesn’t look like collapsing.

It looks like THIS.
Subtle.
Cumulative.
Invisible to everyone but you.

The 60-second self-audit is in my DMs — DM me CHECK and I’ll send it.

(And yes — this is exactly what “The Shift” starts with. We’re going live June 2. More to come tomorrow.)

If you’ve felt invisible in your transition to motherhood — this isn’t personal. It’s structural.

For 4 months, I surveyed and spoke with 80+ women navigating/who have navigated maternal transition.

Pregnant. Postpartum. Returning to work. Five, ten years in. Different industries. Different career stages.

The patterns were the same.

→ The energy that doesn’t return.
→ The expectations that don’t ramp.
→ The manager who treats your return like a checkbox.
→ The quiet calculation of whether you can keep doing this.

Here’s what I found, and what most workplaces miss:

Performance doesn’t decline during maternal transition because women are less capable. It declines because the operating conditions that support performance become unreliable — all at once.

That’s not a ‘you’ problem. That’s a system gap.

The Maternal Transition Performance Brief is live today 🤓.

It’s free. It names what’s happening. It explains why. And it offers the language to talk about this — at home, at work, with HR, with yourself.

→ Link in bio
→ Or comment ‘BRIEF’ and I’ll DM it to you

This is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself.

Would love to hear what you think.

On May 9th, we’re creating a morning designed for you to slow down, take space, and reconnect—with yourself, your body, and your energy.

This is your invitation to step out of the usual pace…
and into something more intentional.

A space to move, breathe, reset, and enjoy a thoughtfully curated wellness experience—without needing to commit to a full retreat.

With Mother’s Day right around the corner, it’s also a moment to reflect, recharge, and pour back into yourself in a way that actually feels good.

Come alone, bring a friend, or make it something you share with the women in your life.

We’ll be around the boardwalk—fresh air, ocean energy, and a morning that’s truly for you, followed by a little shopping at the Bazaar.

Tickets + details in the link. We’d love to have you there 🤍

Nine years ago we nothing
but hope, dreams, and time—
late-night talks of the future
and promises to always choose each other first.

Since then, our world has grown—
thirty more fingers and toes,
more noise, more needs,
and less quiet than we once knew.

And although the nights may not come
with the spontaneity it once did,
it’s been replaced with something deeper—
a fuller, more meaningful kind of love.

He continues to amaze me—
lifting me at my lowest,
celebrating me at my best,
bringing calm where there is fear
and confidence where there is doubt.

He doesn’t just dream of the future—
he builds it,
grounded in the quiet certainty
that it is rooted in a strong foundation - our love.

And more than anything,
he is a remarkable father—
in ways I couldn’t have fully understood before,
but now know
is one of the most important parts
of choosing a soulmate.

As life begins to find its rhythm again,
we find ourselves and each other too—
in the chaos, in the calm,
in the beautiful life we’ve built.

We’re sure to laugh everyday
Find joy and humor in the chaos
Cry and be vulnerable when needed
And above all, know that we are in it together
As one.

I wouldn’t change any of it
for the world.

We keep prescribing “wellness”
for what is actually a structural problem.

Breathwork.
Yoga.
Another app.

Because it’s easier to offer perks
than it is to fix how work actually functions
during high-demand moments.

But the real issue?
The demands increased…
and nothing was put in place to support them.

So people don’t recover.
They just try to keep up.

Until they can’t.

And by the time it shows up as burnout,
the cost is already built in.

If this feels familiar, it’s not personal.
It’s a system gap.

And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.