Mini Babbar

Over 50 and Divorced? Sometimes during the divorce process, when a client starts questioning their attorney about the work being done on their case, the attorney may turn around and send them a form to sign called a “Motion to Withdraw as Attorney of Record.”

Now the client is left with no representation, and scrambling to find another attorney before an important court date, and is also left paying even more money just so the new attorney can get up to speed.

Divorce can take a toll on you emotionally, financially, mentally, and legally. With no help in sight.
It is a battle for freedom that you will be fighting for all alone.

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Over 50 and Divorced?

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Over 50 and Divorced? Beauty is not just a pretty face, it’s not just having certain features, it’s not just having a certain body size, it’s not just how someone dresses, and it’s not how many procedures or self care routines you have.

On the contrary, true beauty is the spark that lives inside a person.

Some women can light up a room without even trying, other women could be considered beautiful by the whole world.

The difference is in what is felt, the warmth, the kindness, the depth, and the soul. Without these things something will always feel like it’s missing.

We can walk through a museum that is full of beautiful paintings. They may all look to be lovely, but there will be only one that makes you stop. Only one that pulls you in. Only one that seems to glow a little bit more, even if it’s tucked away in the corner and not under the center light. There will be that one that you think about long after you’ve left the museum.

That is the difference. Real beauty does not have to announce itself.
It shines from within.

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Over 50 and Divorced?

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Over 50 and Divorced? There’s something about the older music. 🎶🎼🎵🎻🎺🎹🥁🎸

Have you ever noticed how an old song from the late 70s or 80s can instantly make you feel calmer? Some of us don’t feel the same way with the modern songs, they leave us feeling completely different.

This is not about childhood memories or nostalgia.

The older music sometimes feels softer, warmer, more melodic, and somehow more peaceful in ways.

Research shows that the music we listen to can directly affect our nervous system, heart rate, stress levels, and emotions.

Listening to music can increase dopamine (which is the "feel good" chemical in our bodies ) while it also reduces stress in our hormones.

Certain musical qualities like slower tempos, smoother rhythms, richer melodies, and less aggressive production are often associated with our feelings of calmness and relaxation.

Research analyzing popular music from 1960’s–2010’s found that there have been measurable changes in loudness and musical complexity over time.

The older music carried a softer, more natural energy, often associated with the 432 Hz frequency rather than the 440 Hz frequency standard that is being used today.

Studies have shown that the Human DNA is sensitive to music and its relative frequencies to the point that it can even be reprogrammed through them. In fact, by subjecting stem cells to various frequencies it has been possible to modify their natural organic function.

Nowadays, most of the music we generally listen to is automatically tuned to the 440 Hz frequency

Music has always been perceived as having special healing powers. The whole history of human civilization shows evidence of connections between music and physical and mental healing.

A song that can play for three minutes is able to completely change the energy of a room.

Perhaps that is why so many people still turn to the music of the 70’s and 80’s when they need a little peace in a noisy world.

Some food for thought!

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Over 50 and Divorced? With so much happening right now in the world, it is easy to feel overwhelmed, distracted, anxious, or even emotionally exhausted.

One of the most common grounding techniques that therapists recommend is engaging both the hands and the mind in any kind of creative activity.

Things like coloring, journaling, painting, sewing, knitting, crocheting, scrapbooking, pottery, working with clay, gardening, or any kind of other hands on crafts can help shift the attention away from the constant stream of news, worries, and stress that continuously bombards us on tv and social media.

The goal is not to create anything perfect. The goal is simply to be present in the moment of creating something. It doesn’t matter what it is, what it turns out like, or what you used.

There is something very calming about focusing on a brush stroke, a page in a journal, a sewing project, or any creative idea that takes shape.

Even a few minutes a day spent creating can provide a much needed mental break which can help to restore a sense of balance.

Research has also supported this. A study published in the journal of Art Therapy found that just 45 minutes of creative art making can lower cortisol, which is the body's primary stress hormone, in 75% of participants, regardless of their individual artistic experience.

Sometimes the healthiest thing to do is step away from the noise for a little while and sit quietly while creating something special with your own hands.

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Over 50 and Divorced? When we stand at an ATM, we instantly become self conscious and aware of our surroundings.

We may glance over our shoulders.
We may try to shield the screen with our hands.
We may try to make sure that nobody can see our PIN number.

We worry about a complete stranger learning our private information or knowing how much money we are going to take out of the ATM.

In those few moments, we are Alert. Careful. Protective.

But yet most of us have willingly invited a stranger(s) into our lives.

We carry it in our pockets and handbags.
We sleep with it besides, or even on, our beds.
We take it into the most private spaces that we live in.
We tell it what we think, what we buy, where we go, who we talk to, what we fear, what we desire, and what keeps us awake at night.

And unlike the stranger at the ATM, we never question it.

We don't shield the screen.
We don't look over our shoulders.
We don't wonder who's watching.
In fact, many of us pay for the privilege of having it.
We buy the device.
We pay for the service and extended warranty.
We pay for extra apps.
We pay for additional subscriptions.
We pay for the new upgrades.

And little by little, we give away pieces of ourselves that we would have at one time guarded fiercely.

The stranger at the ATM might learn how much money you have in that moment.

The stranger in your pocket learns who you are and knows everything about you all the time.

Some food for thought!

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Over 50 and Divorced? What if, for just one week, you used your smartphone the way we used to use our phones back in the day?

Not using it for social media. Not endlessly scrolling on it. Not checking notifications every few minutes on it. Not opening apps on it just because you feel bored.

Just using it for calls, important texts, maps if/when needed, and maybe if really needed, a camera.

For only seven days, pay attention to what changes in you. Document it, write it down:

How often did you reach for your phone out of habit?

How much extra time did you suddenly have?

What projects did you get finished?

What books did you get to read?

What conversations did you have that became deeper?

What thoughts did you finally have room to think about?

And be honest with yourself about the hard parts too.
Did you feel disconnected? Anxious?
Alone?
Relieved?
More present?
More productive?
More you?

Write it all down. Document it.

Technology is a wonderful tool when it is used for the purpose of enhancing our lives and our work.
Sometimes the best way to understand how it has impacted us and our lives is to step away from it for a little while.

When we feel stressed so many of us go on spiritual retreats to reset and rebalance ourselves.

How many times have we detoxed from technology/apps since their induction into our lives?

Can you do this for a week, can you go on this kind of retreat?

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