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All kidding aside, this is pretty accurate. Not in a way of being unkind or rude or uncaring.

But four years of inner work has taught me that I spent way too many decades giving a f*ck about:

What others told me was true
What others thought of me
What others’ needs were and not my own
Saying yes to everybody every time
Caretaking everyone else’s experience
Making sure everyone liked me
Not rocking the boat
Apologizing for taking up space

Oof. I’m sure I could come up with more if I took more time to think about it.

Coming home to myself and meeting my shadow side (inner beast) has been one of the most important areas of growth for me.

I learned that I can still be kind, caring, and loving and not give a f*ck about the things that don’t serve me anymore.

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In 2020, I began a journey of healing with . While I was originally there to figure my own s**t out after a 24-year marriage, and a two-year relationship that ended abruptly, I soon realized there was much more in store for me. I stayed another year and trained with my mentor to become a relationship coach for individuals. When that ended, I felt like there was more training I needed to do, so I spent another year training to become certified to coach couples. Wow, what an education. I wasn’t expecting to become a better partner myself during this training. But it makes sense that when we learn new skills, and we implement them into our respective lives, that everyone that we are in relationship with benefits from this new version of ourselves. I am grateful for the education I’ve received. I now see relationships vastly different from the conditioning I received since I was young. They are challenging for sure and they require daily care and tending to. But damn, are they a container for connection, growth, and healing. I would love to help you with any relationship challenges you may be facing currently. You can schedule a connection call with me at the link in my bio.

Who’s in? 💙

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My biological mother tried to take her own life when I was two years old.

Two years ago, my brother and I traveled to North Dakota to reconnect with kin who we hadn’t seen in decades. We both got to hear stories about how on our respective birthdays, our mother would call her siblings and lament over the guilt she had giving us up for adoption to the mother that raised us. I got to hear firsthand stories about her demons, her struggles with addiction, and her mental health that plagued much of her life. But I also got to hear about the LOVE and care that she had for her two boys. Needless to say, I came home with a s**t-ton of empathy for the wounded woman from whom I inherited my Mother Wound.

That sacrifice—as hard as it was on everyone—came from a place of LOVE.

And I believe that ultimately, the experiences we have that come from a place of pure LOVE, are the most beneficial to our growth and development.

This book has been a huge gift to my healing of childhood wounds. Thank you for bringing it into the world. ✨🙏

Coaching. Connection. Cats.
Three things I love.

Healing is intentional action plus time.
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Wise words from

As SENTIENT beings, of course we’re all sensitive. As nobody is ever “too” anything. We just are. And that’s perfectly ok. ✨

As SENTIENT beings, of course we’re all sensitive. And nobody is ever “too” anything. Have a lovely day.

Too sensitive? Hmmmm (-an excerpt from my new book, ‘Humanifestations’)

I was on a Virtual Happy Hour yesterday with several other coaches. We discussed the notion that at our age, there was a shared desire to be of service to others. I mentioned that one of the reasons I am doing this work is because I want to live on a planet with less as****es. Less people who refuse to take a hard look at how they are relating to others. Less people who blame others for instigating the way they react.

came in with some synchronicity in his daily text. When we do the work, it ripples out into the world and has a much greater impact than we realize.

Something that I’m still working on as a new skill.

Much-needed Alone Time to ponder the difference of Dressing wounds vs. Addressing wounds. Nothing like a tiny tool shed to get really intimate with myself, my thoughts, my feelings, and my desires.