Hitting Home

I do not believe that I have ever seen a woman emote her pain and frustration in a perfect fashion. The tendency thereafter is for the man to focus on her imperfect mode of communication rather than striving to answer the question, “What can I now do to address the original action or lack thereof that encouraged this disturbance?”

We have an entire chapter on this called The Bridge that deals with this paradigm, and it is always one of our more powerful moments in our conferences.

To be honest, it is getting more and more difficult to get men to see long in these situations and to take the focus off of themselves. They often panic, thus making their fear a greater motivator than her pain. In this way, the man is not a rock. He is a black hole sucking the life right out of the marriage.

A man in this situation is often hypocritical in that he wants the age old norm and biblical command of respect from his wife, but he fails to be the head in the marriage in that he is weak at being a rock for his wife.

I deal with this day in and day out.

I’ve been there early in marriage. There is a way forward.

- Dr. Raymond Force III

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Martyrdom In Marriage

A woman sometimes contributes to her own martyrdom by retreating behind a battle line of emotion and then tragically falling on her own sword of negativity. Oddly enough, she can often then be heard crying foul when her husband fails to come to her rescue.

Women become their own martyr by simply responding negatively toward their husband’s faults and failures. With some, their resentment is painstakingly overt, while with others it is more subtle in nature. There are even those whose negativity is shrouded with a cloak of religion, in that they quote the sweet scriptures, yet with a spirit of bitterness.

Nonetheless, if a woman continues to respond to the negative behavior of her husband with a contentious spirit, she will eventually find herself injured by the very sword that she holds as a means of defense.

In our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, I take the time in chapter 9 to talk about the futility of a woman using anger to combat her husband’s dysfunctional or unloving behavior:

“The woman that ridicules her husband by making sarcastic remarks and subtle inferences to his lack of leadership and abilities is not only hurting her husband, but also herself. She is not only ensuring that he will have a tough time rising above her low view of him, but she will also end up despising him for not being half the man that she has discouraged him to be.

Deep within, she will struggle with feelings of contempt, since she longs for a man to look up to, but not a man that will look down on her. The problem is that by displaying her inner frustrations toward him, she has become her own archenemy. With her cross looks and her deep sighs, she helps to dig a pit for him that will eventually cause her to become more and more disgusted at his lack of ability to crawl out of it.”

- Dr Raymond Force III

Our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, presents a biblical and refreshing approach to strengthening your marriage. Order at Amazon at https://a.co/d/05Sp4QY8

Our Marriage Bundle is our most comprehensive package for the couple looking for serious help. Order at our resource page by going to https://bit.ly/marriage-bundle

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We would like to invite you to The Barn for a day of refreshment, relaxation, and learning at our 4th annual 2026 Hitting Home – Ocala Marriage Conference. Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples how to fight for their marriage without fighting with one another using our biblical and refreshing approach.

The Barn is, by far, our favorite venue for hosting our marriage events. It provides a nostalgic setting for couples struggling to find their way in our fast-paced, technologically-driven world.

After over 10,000 counseling and coaching sessions, Dr. Force has learned the pressure points of couples that fail to connect and feel stuck. Couples find our material refreshing, thought-provoking, and devoid of many of our modern day labels that seem to further entrench couples into their issues.

This year, we are limiting the number of couples to 25. We have found that approximately 50 attendees is almost a perfect number for a marriage event. This allows us to enjoy more personal time with couples and conversate in a more relaxed setting between sessions.

This year, our 2026 Hitting Home – Ocala Marriage Conference will be on Saturday, February 21st, 2026, from 9 am – 1 pm.

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2026 Hitting Home - Ocala Marriage Conference We would like to invite you to The Barn for a day of refreshment, relaxation, and learning for our 4th annual 2026 Hitting Home - Ocala Marriage Conference. Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples how to fight for their marriage without fighting with one anot...

We would like to invite you to The Barn at Fly Away Farm for a day of refreshment, relaxation, and learning at our 4th annual 2026 Hitting Home – Ocala Marriage Conference. Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples how to fight for their marriage without fighting with one another using our biblical and refreshing approach.

The Barn is, by far, our favorite venue for hosting our marriage events. It provides a nostalgic setting for couples struggling to find their way in our fast-paced, technologically-driven world.

After over 10,000 counseling and coaching sessions, Dr. Force has learned the pressure points of couples that fail to connect and feel stuck. Couples find our material refreshing, thought-provoking, and devoid of many of our modern day labels that seem to further entrench couples into their issues.

This year, we are limiting the number of couples to 25. We have found that approximately 50 attendees is almost a perfect number for a marriage event. This allows us to enjoy more personal time with couples and conversate in a more relaxed setting between sessions. As of now, we have about 20 spots left for couples.

This year, our 2026 Hitting Home – Ocala Marriage Conference will be on Saturday, February 21st, 2026, from 9 am – 1 pm.

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On purpose, we live a 1950's lifestyle. This means little tv, lots of reading, no debt, playing in the dirt, sandlot baseball, playing musical instruments, working family businesses together, and enjoying family activities devoid of screens and modern technological advancements.

Many couples having issues have lost before they can even begin to fight. The battleground seems set up for failure. Truthfully, for all of our inventions that are supposed to save us time, time is the last thing we have at the end of the day. For all of our devices that allow us to communicate with people at a distance, we have utterly lost the ability to communicate with the person sitting next to us.

After 10,000 counseling and coaching sessions, I believe I have a good pulse on the heartbeat of our modern homes. Something has to change. Maybe instead of fighting one another, couples should fight against the rat race that gives us speed, but no viable destination.

This February, at The Barn at Fly Away Farm, we would love to invite you for a day of refreshment, relaxation, and learning at our 4th annual 2026 Hitting Home – Ocala Marriage Conference.

To be honest, The Barn is, by far, our favorite venue for hosting our marriage events. It provides a nostalgic setting for couples struggling to find their way in our fast-paced, technologically-driven world.

My bride will be serving her amazing farm to table refreshments as you relax and learn our forward-focused approach that is devoid of many of the common terms and labels that seem to confine couples to their problems.

So, if you have missed some of our last few events, make a weekend out of coming in February to our 2026 Ocala Marriage Conference. It's always a great time!

This event will be limited to 25 couples so as to allow more personal attention to our attendees. So be sure to grab your spot.

See you in February!

- Dr. Raymond Force

2026 Hitting Home - Ocala Marriage Conference We would like to invite you to The Barn for a day of refreshment, relaxation, and learning for our 4th annual 2026 Hitting Home - Ocala Marriage Conference. Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples how to fight for their marriage without fighting with one anot...

As lust is to men, discontentment is to women. One is vile in its nature, the other in its consequence. Both are equally destructive and have led to the breakdown of many a home.

As stated in our marriage book:

A wife will do well to understand that Eve’s struggle may very well be hers. And, if Eve in her perfection was grappling with being unthankful, how much more will women with wayward flesh and an imperfect husband do the same?

To be honest, a great deal of our talks, posts, and counseling today seems to fan the flame of discontentment for women. Though there are certainly many cases where women need to show strength in the face of dysfunction, there are many women that would do well to recognize that an unthankful heart is a bottomless pit. As Spurgeon said, “To whom enough is never plenty, plenty will never be enough.”

In normative situations, a woman has a choice: love the man she has or chase after the mirage of what she wants him to be. In such cases, a woman will often find that the lenses of thankfulness have a way of beautifying her marriage.

- Dr. Raymond Force III

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To be honest, The Barn is, by far, our favorite venue for hosting our marriage events. It provides a nostalgic setting for couples struggling to find their way in our fast-paced, technologically-driven world.

My bride will be serving her amazing farm to table snacks as you relax and learn our forward-focused approach that is devoid of many of the common terms and labels that seem to confine couples to their problems.

So, if you have missed some of our last few events, grab one of those el-cheapo flights and make a weekend out of coming in February to our 2026 Ocala Marriage Conference. It's always a great time!

By the way, we are literally minutes from the beautiful Silver Springs, the World Equestrian Center, as well as an hour from either coast!

This event will be limited to 25 couples so as to allow more personal attention to our attendees.

See you in February!
Dr. Raymond Force

2026 Hitting Home - Ocala Marriage Conference We would like to invite you to The Barn for a day of refreshment, relaxation, and learning for our 4th annual 2026 Hitting Home - Ocala Marriage Conference. Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples how to fight for their marriage without fighting with one anot...