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When an abuser regularly denies something they had said or done, they cause you to question your own recollection of events and worse make you believe that your emotions are invalid. Your feelings are 100% valid, understand abuse so that you can protect yourself against it 💜

When an abuser is practicing their goal is to make you feel guilty so that you'd be obligated to do something for them in return. Watch our for phrases like: "After all I've done for you, don't you think you owe me?"

Abusers will intentionally create problems, just so they can solve them and appear helpful. This is a manipulation tactic they use to gain more power in the relationship

When the abuser will typically redirect blame for household and/or relationship troubles onto one of their own children in order to remove the responsibility from themselves

We're back with more abuser tactics this week 💜 The best way to protect yourself from an abuser is to understand the abuse. is used to warp your reality, keeping you confused and therefore weak against the abuser

New video released tomorrow evening 5pm (PST) on our Thriving Together YouTube channel! Video description reads: "Protect yourself against parental alienation, claims of harassment, and being painted in a negative light. Here's our #1 tip for co parenting with a high conflict personality." (Link to our channel below)

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Selective Inattention is when the abuser ignores or acts oblivious towards issues and questions that they don't want to address. To an abuser actively listening and answering these questions is a sign of submission so by ignoring these issues they can maintain their power

Lying by omission is when an abuser intentionally excludes information in order to create a misconception. This gives the abuser the power to manipulate the situation in their favor. Which once again points to the abusers constant fight for control.

Abusers who practice selective attention or have a selective memory never remember the things that they did, but always remember things that you did especially if they are bad. They zero in on a problem and use as a way to shift the blame and create a bigger situation

Abusers use rationalization to reduce feelings of their own guilt and allows them to pass blame onto others. By saying things like "I had no other choice" the abuser can continue the behavior without accepting responsibility for their actions