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09/07/2024
I got to fangirl over Davina and The Vagabonds this past week at the Minnesota State Fair. You can see how my little girl is looking at her...
not because SHE loves the band, but because MY energy told her how special this moment was.
Don't overlook the power of the energy you are putting into the world. People feel it, pick up on it, and are influenced by it.
If you don't believe me, you are thinking too lowly of yourself.
You are powerful and influential, and the way you show up in your relationships matters BECAUSE of how incredible you are.
What is it Dumbledore says? With great power comes great responsibility...
Sending you all love as you navigate this early fall weekend and whatever this season of change is bringing to your family. š
Stop SHOULD-ing yourself; itās never going to help you create the life or the relationship you want.
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Instead:
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The life you WANT comes from TRUST:
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Trusting yourself to have the hard conversation
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Trusting your partnership to work through the conflict that came from that conversation
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Trusting a mentor to walk you through a new way of relating
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ā¦because this is YOUR LIFE. This is YOUR PARTNERSHIP.
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And if this is the one chance you get here on Earthā¦
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Do you want to waste it on how you SHOULD do things?
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Or do you want to create the life you long forā¦
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If youāre going to create it, youāre going to have to start trusting yourself.
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Because youāre the architectā¦
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You donāt have to do it alone. Iām on your team,
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if you let me.
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thats why Iāve created a (free) group to give weekly trainings and provide you the relationship advice you need @
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Learn to love yourself and your people. The world is a better place for it
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Your relationship cheerleader,
āLinnea
07/11/2024
A partner who you can count on to be there when you need themā¦
Feel safe aroundā¦
And be connected withā¦ (even when youāre not together)
Is a āsecure attachmentā š.
Meaningā¦
You and your partner are SO aligned with each other,
That when one of you reaches out for support,
You KNOW the other will always be there to answer and help.
And because of this security that you shareā¦
You both feel the calmness needed to enjoy your life outside of the relationshipā¦ no problem.
Sounds wonderful, right?
This is the way it can be for youā¦
Because your relationship should ALWAYS be your safe-haven,
And the one place that you can go to for instant love and comfortā¦
While knowing your āpersonā is going to be there with open arms once you return.
The two of you need this level of relief,
So you can fully embrace your own individualityā¦
And the world outsideā¦
As you have funā¦ create new experiencesā¦ and connect with others.
And as a resultā¦
Become more well-rounded outside (not just inside) of your relationship,
To create a stronger connection to your partner.
If you would like to make your connection together secure,
Comment āMEā below.
07/10/2024
Close your eyes and imagine a situation where you feel seen, heard, and respected.
It would be such an incredible feeling to know that your partner honors you in this wayā¦
And calls out all of the effort youāve been putting into the relationship.
Now, open your eyesā¦
While realizing one thingā¦
This doesnāt have to be part of your imagination anymore.
You can live this type of relationship,
And have your partner come running to give you a hug and kissā¦
Just by you verbally appreciating all their efforts.
And you can also receive the same gratitude from your partnerā¦
All it takes is showing how much you appreciate themā¦
And put a smile on their face as much as you canā¦
For them to return the favor x2 š
07/09/2024
Happy, healthy, and peaceful relationships are a lot like planting seeds.
You would handle it with care and tend to it,
To make sure it grows into what you desire.
In factā¦
The growth of seeds and relationships do not happen overnight.
It can be a long process,
But if you pay attention closelyā¦
You will notice a little bit of improvement every day,
And thatās all that really matters.
You donāt sit and stare at the ground where you planted some seeds,
And wait for it to blossom with every second that passes by.
Insteadā¦
You have the trust and faith in the process,
And you know it will grow into a beautiful plant or tree.
Why?
Because you know you did everything to properly care for it.
You watered itā¦
Gave it sunlightā¦
And gave it soil.
And nowā¦
You need to give your relationship the same level of love,
Through consistency and good habitsā¦
So you can live your life together with the same confidence that it will go exactly as you envisioned.
07/08/2024
Have you ever heard of the phrase āpressure makes diamonds?ā
Itās an old saying thatās relatable to many different situations in lifeā¦
Such asā¦
š A tough football practice leading up to a big game
š§āš Studying practice material before an important exam
š¼ Doing mock interviews for job preparation
AND this is also true when it comes to relationships.
Why?
As a couple,
You have to go through the tough times and strugglesā¦
Before you are finally prepared to live a peaceful life together.
I like to call it growing pains.
BUT the only small problem with that isā¦
You need to make sure that the times of conflict donāt last too long.
What do I mean?
If you truly want to put all of the rough patches of your relationship in the rearview mirrorā¦
You need a š½š¹š®š» š¶š» š½š¹š®š°š² to do so,
Such as a systemā¦ guidelineā¦ or resourceā¦
That actually outlines the steps and methods needed,
For eliminating conflicts for good.
Otherwise.
This will just be a dream that never comes true,
And you will never break free from the ābadā experiences.
But thankfullyā¦
I understand the importance of sharing this tip with you.
After allā¦
Iām a huge advocate of sharing personal experiences,
To help others avoid the same struggles I once had to go through on my own.
Thereās a saying about picking your battlesā¦
It goes like this:
āChoose your battles wisely because if you fight them all youāll be too tired to win the really important onesā.
And I could not disagree with this moreā¦ when it comes to relationships.
Why?
You and your partner should never see each other as enemies on a battlefield (no matter the size of the argument or conflict).
Insteadā¦
All battles and conflicts should be and can be avoided completely.
Instead of being in a āme vs. youā situationā¦
Couples need to practice being on the same team
And normalizing no conflicts occurring at all.
Nadaā¦ Nilā¦ Zero.
Nowā¦ I know this might sound like a fairytale dreamā¦
But what if I told you that this is possibleā¦
By simply having the proper system in place?
This is what a self-guided system like Connection Reset Method (CRM) offers to couples.
It grants the skills needed to prevent future conflicts from happeningā¦
Any timeā¦ anywhereā¦ and any place.
Couples start by identifying the negative feelings they are projecting on their partnerā¦
From a diagram of emotions to choose from.
This helps acknowledge their OWN thoughts and words as unproductiveā¦
Thenā¦ they reset their OWN feelingsā¦
And trust that their partner will do the same,
So they both can align to a center of connection together again.
If you would like to learn more about how this system can save your own relationshipā¦
Comment āCRMā below.
Happy 4th of July to all of my friends! š
Wishing you all a great and safe holiday.
Before I get into todayās quick lessonā¦
And in case you didnāt knowā¦
I wanted to tell you that our relationships are a lot like the fireworks that will be set off in the sky tonight š§Ø
Yesā¦ fireworks.
As you excitedly light the wick of a firework,
You wait a few seconds for it to explode up into the sky with a bright and colorful display of enjoymentā¦
As your face lights up with a smile from ear to ear and youāre filled with instant happiness.
And this is a metaphor for relationships as well.
When you enter into a relationshipā¦ youāre ālighting the wickā of your own fireworkā¦ for the first time.
And from that moment on,
Your life together and love was made to be a harmony of fireworks igniting into the skyā¦
Feelings of cheerfulnessā¦
Blissā¦
And pure delightā¦
These āfireworksā can explode just by you both having a night out togetherā¦ acts of kindnessā¦ caring thoughts or wordsā¦ the list goes on.
Itās all about feeling the āfireworksā š§Ø
And the only difference from a real firework,
Is that when it comes to loveā¦ there's always an infinite amount of them.
Butā¦ I get it.
Life's relationship problems get into the way sometimes.
And not all of us understand that a huge majority of conflicts between partners are caused by misunderstandings.
We wrongly believe our partner feels one thingā¦
But in reality it is something entirely different (and in most cases itās something positive).
So how do these particular problems happen?
We draw on negative interactions from our previous or current relationshipā¦
And use these to control our emotionsā¦
Instead of looking at the current situation with a clear mind or heart.
As a resultā¦
We may get angryā¦
Upsetā¦
Or annoyed at our partner.
And then they become confused at you,
Because it was not their intent to make you feel this way.
And trust me,
Iāve been thereā¦ done thatā¦
And Iām sure you have as well.
Nowā¦ youāre probably wondering āwell how do I prevent this, Linnea?!ā
There is a simple one-word answer to this:
C O M M U N I C A T I O N.
And by expressing and explaining your feelings and thoughtsā¦
You leave ZERO room for misunderstandings and more room for fireworks š
When youāre in a conflict with your partner,
Are you controlling what you can control?
Most people focus on their partner's emotions insteadā¦
And do everything in their power to get them to change from how THEY feelā¦
In hopes that this will rebalance the relationship back to where it once was.
The only problem with this approach?
You remove all the power that you haveā¦
And give it your partner.
They are in the driver seat and they are now in control of where the relationship goes from here.
You are stuckā¦ only hoping.
So it can either get worseā¦
Or your partner can disarm the conflict,
And it gets better.
But why take the risk of not āsteering that shipā in the right direction together? š¢
If you focus on shifting your negative feelings back to positive ones,
And trust that your partner will do the sameā¦
You are handling your relationship as a teamā¦ at last.
Want to learn more about the team skills you are missing as a couple to live the life you deserve?
Comment āMEā below and I will DM you with more info.
07/03/2024
Hi friends! I am inviting you to a live training I'm doing tomorrow (wed) @11 central on the powerful conflict skill most couples overlook, to the detriment of their relationship, and I'll be joined by Paul Sterling, bestselling author of Argue Less Love More. Would love to see you there! Just be in the group Connected & Respected tomorrow @11!
07/02/2024
As human-beingsā¦ we are creatures of habitā¦
Both good and bad ones.
And when it comes to relationships that are going through conflictā¦
There are lots of bad habits that can be cleaned up,
Such asā¦
š« Taking things personally
š« Silent treatments
š« Withdrawing from each other
And I get itā¦
When there are no other options available to usā¦
We resort to doing these things.
But Iām so overjoyed to tell you that itās now a thing of the pastā¦
Starting today.
The reason whyā¦ is because of a new system inside my program,
Called the Connection Reset Method.
Itās designed to help couples with identifying the negative feelings they have toward their partnerā¦
From a diagram of emotions to choose from.
And once they recognize their OWN thoughts and words as unproductiveā¦
They reset their OWN feelingsā¦
While trusting that their partner will do the same,
So they can return to a center of connection without conflictsā¦
While benefiting from:
š„° Living a truly happy life together every day
š„° Arguments and conflict are prevented
š„° Feeling seen, heard, and respected
This same system not only worked for my own relationship,
But for hundreds of my clients.
And today I am sharing the results from one of themā¦ with youā¦
So you can get a better feel for just how powerful it is.
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