Center for Relational Recovery

You all provided such tremendous feedback about a new cover for THE AFTERMATH OF BETRAYAL. Would you be willing to help one more time?

In anticipation of my new book, THE BETRAYAL BIND, coming February 28, 2023, I am doing a little revamp of my past titles.

This time, I need help choosing a new cover for WHEN IT ALL BREAKS BAD: 10 THINGS TO DO (AND NOT DO) AFTER BETRAYAL

Cast your vote here for OPTION 1 or OPTION 2!

WHEN IT ALL BREAKS BAD...

Cheating changes your world in an instant. Your past, present and future are re-written as the lies and betrayal surface. In the days and weeks that follow, clarity, direction and support are vital.

When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things to Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal is designed to help you navigate the pivotal days following the discovery of betrayal by providing concrete guidance and support. Each chapter outlines the ten steps to take to quickly move you toward healing and the ten pitfalls to avoid that can hijack your progress.

Whether the cheating manifests as an isolated infidelity or a s*xual addiction, this book is your guide to taking positive action on your own behalf after betrayal.

If you do not own When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things to Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal yet, you can grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/When-All-Breaks-Bad-Betrayal/dp/0998843423/

If you’ve already read it, would you leave a review here? https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=0998843423

I need your HELP choosing a new BOOK COVER!

In anticipation of my new book, THE BETRAYAL BIND, coming February 28, 2022, I am doing a little revamp of my past titles.

Let me know WHICH COVER OPTION you prefer: BLUE 💙 or GREEN 💚

THE AFTERMATH OF BETRAYAL
Nothing can prepare you for the moment you discover that the person closest to you, who you count on the most, has betrayed you. If you have experienced s*xual betrayal, you need help navigating the emotional devastation that follows. Making sense of your experience is the first step toward healing.

THE AFTERMATH OF BETRAYAL, is intended to help you identify and articulate your experience. During a time when your mind and body are overwhelmed and a full-size read may feel daunting, this book is designed with short easily digested chapters to point you in the right direction. THE AFTERMATH OF BETRAYAL will give you words, language, and concepts to describe the storm of betrayal and guide you through helpful exercises that move you toward healing.

Even more importantly, this book exists to give you hope. Hope that there is a path through the trauma of betrayal, markers along the way to point you in the right direction, and plenty of help and support available for you.

If you do not own this book yet, you can grab a copy here:
https://www.amazon.com/Aftermath-Betrayal-CSAT-S-Michelle-Mays/dp/0998843415/

If you’ve already read it, I would be so grateful if you would leave a review here: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=0998843415

Let me know WHICH COVER OPTION you prefer: BLUE 💙 or GREEN 💚

How to Avoid Going Blind to Betrayal in Your Relationship

❓ Are you going blind to betrayal in your relationship
❓ Why do people tuck information about what has happened to them out of their awareness?
❓ Why do betrayed partners go blind to the traumas that they endure?

Dr. Jennifer Freyd, one of the seminal researchers on the issue of betrayal trauma, coined the term "betrayal blindness" to describe the tendency to withhold threatening information from our awareness in an effort to protect our primary attachment.

Betrayal blindness is an important topic for betrayed partners to be aware of and has a profound impact on their https://bit.ly/3qLgG14 this video, I'll discuss the patterns of betrayal blindness that I've observed in nearly every betrayed partner I've worked with over the past two decades - and how I've helped them to overcome it!

WATCH HERE: https://bit.ly/3DyvdF6

How to Avoid Going Blind to Betrayal in Your Relationship ● Are you going blind to betrayal in your relationship? ● Why do people tuck information about what has happened to them out of their awareness?● Why do betr...

4 Reasons Your Partner May Be Having S*x With Others But Not With You

WATCH: 4 Reasons Your Partner May Be Having S*x With Others and Not With You

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4 Reasons Your Partner May Be Having S*x With Others But Not With You Many betrayed partners are confused when they find out their significant other has been cheating or dealing with a s*xual addiction. They are confused becaus...

S*x and Attachment, Part 4: Insecure Attachment and the Challenge of Rigidity https://bit.ly/3H1gtgE

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When and How Betrayed Partners Ask Questions in the Disclosure Process

When & How Partners Ask Questions During the Disclosure Process [WATCH]

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When and How Betrayed Partners Ask Questions in the Disclosure Process In this video, Michelle describes the process of therapeutic disclosure follow s*xual betrayal, including the betrayed partner's role and how they can expect...

S*x and Attachment, Part 3: Secure Attachment and the Gift of Flexibility https://bit.ly/33oMnp1

Why Disclosure Can Take So Long and Why It’s Worth the Wait

Why Disclosure Can Take So Long & Why It's Worth the Wait [WATCH]

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Why Disclosure Can Take So Long and Why It’s Worth the Wait Betrayed partners have a very real need for disclosure. In this video, Michelle describes the recovery process and the important stages that must come before...

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Individuals & Couples Thriving After Betrayal: What are they doing right?

Individuals & Couples Thriving in Recovery - What are they doing right? [WATCH]

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Individuals & Couples Thriving After Betrayal: What are they doing right? What separates those individuals and couples who are thriving in recovery from those who are struggling? Michelle shares important insights from the Center f...

S*x and Attachment, Part 2: When S*x Breaks Bad https://bit.ly/3fgpMgl

The Cheating Partner's Competing Attachments

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The Cheating Partner's Competing Attachments Michelle discusses the competing attachments experienced by the cheating partner and how these influence the common behavior that occurs after betrayal is di...

What Betrayed Partners Have a Right to Know About the Cheating Partner's Recovery

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What Betrayed Partners Have a Right to Know About the Cheating Partner's Recovery Betrayed partners often struggle to understand their role in their partner's recovery, including a 12 step program, a sponsor, and communication around bound...

Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within

Only 4 Days Left! Grab your spot for Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child within on Saturday, March 4th. Registrants will also receive 2 weeks of extended recording access following the live event.

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Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within March 5, 2022 • $99 per person Online Workshop Presented by Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S Register Now In childhood, many of us experienced parenting that was at times less than nurturing or perhaps even overtly critical, neglectful, or indulgent. When that happens, we grow up and become a

S*x and Attachment, Part 1: S*x as a Growth Edge https://bit.ly/34eJWFn

Join us on Saturday, March 5th for HEALING & REPARENTING THE WOUNDED CHILD WITHIN (Extended Recording Access Included!)
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Who Should Attend this Workshop?
✅ Individuals who are working to heal the impacts of childhood trauma.
✅ Individuals who want to learn how to change patterns of negative self-talk or self-destructive behaviors.
✅ Individuals who want to understand the way their family of origin may have impacted them, as they work toward healing.
✅ Couples who want to learn to communicate with clarity and purpose.
✅ Therapists, coaches and other helpers who want to learn a model for helping individuals work through the impacts of childhood trauma or neglect.

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The PartnerHope Blog is a treasure-trove of support and resources specifically designed for partners healing from betrayal trauma. Upon signing up, you'll receive several emails to get you started right away down the road to recovery. Subscribe to receive insight, wisdom, inspiration and authentic hope delivered right to your inbox!

https://bit.ly/3bM4dSv

Subscribe The PartnerHope Blog is a treasure-trove of support and resources specifically designed for partners healing from betrayal trauma. Upon signing up, you'll receive several emails to get you started right away down the road to recovery. Subscribe below to receive insight, wisdom, inspiration and auth

I'm Divorcing, So I Don't Need Help

Recently a client decided that the best and healthiest route for her was to end her relationship with her spouse. After all, he had cheated on her and his demeanor after discovery was removed, distant, and often passive aggressive. She came to therapy, told her counselor about her decision, and declared that she was done with treatment. Since she was divorcing, she no longer needed therapy.

Please don't do this. [...]

I'm Divorcing, So I Don't Need Help Recently a client decided that the best and healthiest route for her was to end her relationship with her spouse. After all, he had cheated on her and his demeanor after discovery was removed, distant, and often passive aggressive. She came to therapy, told her counselor about her decision, and decl

The Core Issues that Need to Be Addressed in Order to Heal from Betrayal Trauma

WATCH: The Core Issues that Need to Be Addressed in Order to Heal Betrayal Trauma

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The Core Issues that Need to Be Addressed in Order to Heal from Betrayal Trauma In this video, Michelle reviews the history of treating s*x addiction and betrayal trauma. She then identifies the underlying issues that need to be addresse...

Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within

Register now for Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within!
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In childhood, many of us experienced parenting that was at times less than nurturing or perhaps even overtly critical, neglectful, or indulgent. When that happens, we grow up and become adults who treat ourselves the same way that we were treated, parenting ourselves from the paradigm that we know.

Building on the developmental trauma model developed by Pia Mellody, this workshop is designed to help you to:
✅ Identify the wounded child within and the hurts that are part of your story.
✅ Identify the adaptive child who learned certain ways of relating to the world to cope with the hurts that were happening.
✅ Learn how to re-parent yourself from a functional nurturing adult self — changing your relationship with yourself and how you relate to those you love.

Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within March 5, 2022 • $99 per person Online Workshop Presented by Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S Register Now In childhood, many of us experienced parenting that was at times less than nurturing or perhaps even overtly critical, neglectful, or indulgent. When that happens, we grow up and become a

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Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S will present Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within via live video stream on Saturday, March 5, 2022 from 10 AM to 1 PM Eastern.

Special Note: As an added benefit to those with scheduling conflicts or living in other timezones, registrants will receive private extended access to the recording for a period of 2 weeks following the workshop date.

How the Fear of Loss Can Keep Us Stuck

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How the Fear of Loss Can Keep Us Stuck Michelle discusses the role that fear plays in keeping betrayed partners stuck in pain after betrayal.Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S is the Founder of PartnerHop...

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Join us on Saturday, March 5th for HEALING & REPARENTING THE WOUNDED CHILD WITHIN (Extended Recording Access Included!)
https://bit.ly/3aJ1Obc

Who Should Attend this Workshop?

✅ Individuals who are working to heal the impacts of childhood trauma.
✅ Individuals who want to learn how to change patterns of negative self-talk or self-destructive behaviors.
✅ Individuals who want to understand the way their family of origin may have impacted them, as they work toward healing.
✅ Couples who want to learn to communicate with clarity and purpose.
✅ Therapists, coaches and other helpers who want to learn a model for helping individuals work through the impacts of childhood trauma or neglect.

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The PartnerHope Blog is a treasure-trove of support and resources specifically designed for partners healing from betrayal trauma. Upon signing up, you'll receive several emails to get you started right away down the road to recovery. Subscribe to receive insight, wisdom, inspiration and authentic hope delivered right to your inbox!

https://bit.ly/3bM4dSv

Subscribe The PartnerHope Blog is a treasure-trove of support and resources specifically designed for partners healing from betrayal trauma. Upon signing up, you'll receive several emails to get you started right away down the road to recovery. Subscribe below to receive insight, wisdom, inspiration and auth

Grab your spot for our next online workshop: Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within

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What is Your Partner's Definition of Sobriety? (And Why You Need to Know)

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What is Your Partner's Definition of Sobriety? (And Why You Need to Know) Partners that are working to heal their relationship after betrayal often feel unsure about the path to ahead. In this video, Michelle outlines the important...

Registration is now open for our next online workshop: Healing & Reparenting the Wounded Child Within
Grab your spot here -> https://bit.ly/3aJ1Obc

In childhood, many of us experienced parenting that was at times less than nurturing or perhaps even overtly critical, neglectful, or indulgent. When that happens, we grow up and become adults who treat ourselves the same way that we were treated, parenting ourselves from the paradigm that we know.

Building on the developmental trauma model developed by Pia Mellody, this workshop is designed to help you to:

✅ Identify the wounded child within and the hurts that are part of your story.
✅ Identify the adaptive child who learned certain ways of relating to the world to cope with the hurts that were happening.
✅ Learn how to re-parent yourself from a functional nurturing adult self - changing your relationship with yourself and how you relate to those you love.

S*x and Attachment, Part 5: Relational and S*xual Cycles of Attachment https://bit.ly/3ALJ5by

When You are Both the Problem & the Solution: The Cheating Partner's Dilemma

WATCH: When You Are Both the Problem & the Solution (The Cheating Partner's Dilemma)

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When You are Both the Problem & the Solution: The Cheating Partner's Dilemma The focus of this video is the experience of the cheating partner and their role in healing themselves, their partner, and the relationship as a whole.Michel...

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The PartnerHope Blog is a treasure-trove of support and resources specifically designed for partners healing from betrayal trauma. Upon signing up, you'll receive several emails to get you started right away down the road to recovery. Subscribe to receive insight, wisdom, inspiration and authentic hope delivered right to your inbox!

https://bit.ly/3bM4dSv

Subscribe The PartnerHope Blog is a treasure-trove of support and resources specifically designed for partners healing from betrayal trauma. Upon signing up, you'll receive several emails to get you started right away down the road to recovery. Subscribe below to receive insight, wisdom, inspiration and auth

Betrayal is Dehumanizing https://bit.ly/3l7Ru1c

S*x and Attachment, Part 4: Insecure Attachment and the Challenge of Rigidity https://bit.ly/3H1gtgE

Six Benefits of Disclosure for the Cheating Partner

WATCH: 6 Benefits of Disclosure for the Cheating Partner

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Six Benefits of Disclosure for the Cheating Partner We often discuss the topic of therapeutic disclosure as being invaluable to healing for the betrayed partner and the relationship. In this video, Michelle sh...

Reframing “Codependency”

Based on the ground-breaking work of author Pia Mellody, this workshop will examine the 5 key issues that are central to healthy functioning in relationships. These are:

Being Valuable → which impacts → Self-Esteem
Being Vulnerable → which impacts → Boundaries
Being Imperfect → which impacts → Perfectionism
Being Dependent → which impacts → Wants/Needs
Being Spontaneous → which impacts → Moderation

This workshop will have you thinking about old concepts in new ways AND teach you how to restructure the relationship you have with yourself and others for a healthier, more fulfilling life.

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Reframing “Codependency” Healing the 5 Core Issues at the Heart of Relational Recovery January 22, 2022 • $99 per person Online Workshop Presented by Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S Register Now Based on the ground-breaking work of author Pia Mellody, this workshop will examine the 5 core issues that are central to

S*x and Attachment, Part 3: Secure Attachment and the Gift of Flexibility https://bit.ly/33oMnp1

5 Building Blocks to Understanding the Trauma Response Created by Betrayal, Part 3 https://bit.ly/3HvDt84