Katie Graham-Morning Routine Expert

Here is exactly what I focus on when I feel myself losing it 👇🏼

1. Asking myself what Im focusing on- what is the one thought or question on repeat in my brain. When you are spiraling its usually one or two things. This helps the next part!

2. How Im breathing. When it’s fast and shallow, anxiety and stress are ramped up. Deep and slow allows my fight or flight to stop and Im able to calmly make decisions or communicate with love and grace.

What do you do in moments of high emotion or stress?

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Because I didn’t want to yell. I wanted to communicate effectively.

I didn’t want to be angry, but I wasn’t regulating my own emotions.

Learning how to regulate my emotions, set boundaries, and communicate my needs made all the difference.

Comment ❤️ if you want that too. 🫶🏼

As a former people pleaser and being afraid of fomo…I used to say yes to everyrhing and everyone.

And it quickly lead to overwhelm, exhaustion and so much yelling because I was surviving on fumes. Can you relate?

Learning to be OK with saying no to things so that the things you say yes to gets your best has transformed everything!

The ones that feel the positive impact the most? Your kids who you love more than anything!

Comment YES if you are ready to start creating the pace of life that helps you show up calm and peaceful!

Odd Rules for the summer

1. Making alone/me time a priority- kids home all day means Ill be giving more. Filling your cup up is key. You can’t give what you don’t have.

2. Creating SOME sort of routine. Im all about relaxing but no routine/structure lends itself for arguments and emotions running high. That first week we veg out…then we create a routine that everyone can get on board with.

3. Still having some sort of bedtime. Yes it’s later. But my hubby and I still love connecting and hanging out after the kids are in bed. With no set bedtime that quality time can get easily skipped.

4. Remember that this is JUST a season. It will end. Its a special season. Use this time wisely. I love getting to know my kids more in the summer. They have grown a lot this past year. In the thick of school, sports and all the hustle and bustle, it can be tough sometimes to have the capacity to slow down and connect. Summer time gives an opportunity to do just that.

How are you feeling about the summer with your kids? Drop a 🥰 if you are excited and a 😬 if you already hear the fighting.

3️⃣ Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Losing It With Your Kids 👇🏼

1️⃣ It will be better tomorrow. I used to tell myself that before bed every night…but my life felt a lot like Groundhog’s Day. I woke up already triggered before I crawled out of bed and it seemed I just kept losing even after I promised myself I wouldn’t. Until I discovered my coach and started learning emotional regulation.

2️⃣ My kids are the problem. I was the grown up. But I hadn’t learned how to regulate my own emotions…so my kids were feeding off of me. Once I learned some skills…things started to actually get better in our house!

3️⃣ The negative emotions are bad and avoid them at all costs. Actually all emotions serve a purpose and can communicate things to us if we listen. “Bad emotions” can mean expectations not being met, boundaries not being set or honored, or a hurting heart. Once we can learn how to process our emotions in a healthy way, we can teach our kids to do the same. What a beautiful legacy we can build. ❤️

It’s why I created the Calm Mom Blueprint. Curious if it could help you like it did me? DM CALM and I’ll send you some info!

Two types of moms 👇🏼

1. The mom secretly dreading it because she can already hear the fighting and hours of screen time struggles. She wants her kids home but man its not fun when they are. She desperately wishes it were different.

2. The mom who is authentically excited to create lasting memories with her kids. She knows it wont he perfect, but she has worked really hard to be the cycle breaker and not spend the whole summer yelling and arguing.

If you are one, you aren’t a bad mom. You just need some tools and coaching. I can help you do just that in The Calm Mom Blueprint!

DM CALM and Ill send you some info! Cant wait to connect!

This summer COULD be your best one yet! Let’s make it happen together! ❤️

2 “normal” habits keeping you yelling at your kids

1. Winging it for dinner 👉🏼 If your kids are picky like mine…winging it can lead to someone not wanting/liking what is randomly decided upon. So much frustration and yelling happened around dinner. Taking just 10 minuted to plan this one meal can reduce the tension so much!

2. Not planning for how long your kids take to get ready in the morning. With me taking on this temp sub job…I have to make sure I plan my mornings with enough time for everyone(including me) to get ready and not be running around like chicken with its head cut off. When I get up with my plenty of time for me and the kids…all of our days begin the best way they can. Too many years it started with yelling and tears. Grateful for this shift and calmer mornings.

Which one resonates with you the most?

Because I didn’t want to yell. I wanted to communicate effectively.

I didn’t want to be angry, but I wasn’t regulating my own emotions.

Learning how to regulate my emotions, set boundaries, and communicate my needs made all the difference.

Comment CALM if you want that too. ❤️