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AITA For telling my half sister she doesn’t deserve my mom’s necklace?

Hello everyone, I'm coming on reddit to seek advice because I think I'm in the wrong. I 21F have 2 full siblings Michael, 23M and Damien 25M. We have a half sister Elsie 18F who is a result of an affair.

Our mother 50M is unfortunately terminally ill, the doctors have told us she doesn't have much time left. SHe called us all in to talk about her will and what we would each be getting. My mother was a banker and amassed quite the portfolio.

Shortly after Elise was born, her mother wasn't very active in her life, leaving her to move in with us and live with us. I could always tell mom held some sort of resentment to her, my mom wasn't strong enough to leave after the affair and she regrets it everyday. Mom raised Elsie like her own for so long, but all Elsie could do was be snarky towards her and always say 'but you're not my real mom' of course she'd only say that when mom was trying to discipline her.

But as soon as she needed something expensive she'd be as sweet as sugar towards mom. I avoided elsie growing up because I always felt like she ruined our picture perfect family. Back to the day this happened, mom was reading out her will on her bed, my mother owns a beautiful emerald necklace; a family heirloom.

She looks directly at Elsie and tells her she can keep it. I started crying immediately, it doesn't even make sense she's not entirely part of our family, her and mom share NO blood. I began to scream and yell at Elsie, I told her I wished she never walked into our lives, and that she should just leave because no one wanted her here.

Damien tried to calm me down and reminded me we were in a hospital. Michael left the room with Elsie to avoid escalation. I saw mom crying and it kind of hurt but she hurt me worse.

I grabbed my bag and left. It's been 3 days and I've gotten non stop messages from extending family saying I hurt my mom and she didn't mean any harm. AITA?

Minor Update: Hi all, I have received some very well worded and thought out comments/dms. Just to answer some questions, the heirloom comes from my mom's side not dads. My father passed 2 years ago.

Elsie's mom is a deadbeat to put it nicely. My brothers rarely speak to Elsie mainly due to them living 3 states away. I will be talking to my mom asap, she wants to talk and I want too as well because at the end of the day I love her and would never change that.

UPDATE: I visited mom and we had a really long talk about my life and growing up. I apologised to her and she accepted with a smile, she told me she'd always forgive me no matter what. That's why I love my mom she's a kind soul.

I expressed to her that I felt I should have the necklace because we are blood and my grandma had it before, before her was my great grandma the x4. My mom started to tear up and explained that she thought I didn't want it and may as well pass it on to Elsie. She said she knows Elsie isn't her real daughter, but over the years her resentment turned to pity cause she really didn't have anyone, especially after I moved out to live with my boyfriend.

Mom said we could call Elsie and come to an agreement. Mom called elsie and she actually came over to the hospital instead. She sat with us and I asked her what her plans are with the necklace.

She told me she was gonna take really good care of it and wear it. I asked her if I could give her a portion of my current inheritance money as a way to buy it off her. E.g we both get $300,000 but I give her 25k, then she gets $325,0000 and I get $275,000 and the necklace.

She said that was a good idea because I clearly have a connection to this necklace and she would benefit from liquid anyways. Mom reassured her she would get other pieces of jewellery, my mom really loved bling. I feel happier knowing I could come to some sort of an agreement, but what's most important to me is that my mom and I are good and we are.

I cried, told her I loved her and gave her a really big hug before I left. I said goodbye to Elsie and was on my way. I called Damien and Michael when I got home to explain what had happened, they said they were proud of me for reaching an agreement everyone was happy with.

We talked a little more of the course of 2 hours and we agreed that whilst we don't want Elsie actively in our lives, we were gonna make sure she was set and Michael said we should check in on her when we can.

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AITA for calling my DIL a petty b__ch and taking the whole family to my place for thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is tomorrow, I have a broken leg and use crutches. Now my DIL is suppose to host this year. For some background, we don’t get along that well. Personally she annoys me due to her blowing things up for no reason. She is a drama queen, any small slight towards her will make her go on and on.

For example, I got her the wrong size of jeans one year and I have heard about for ages. I was one size off and she took it I was calling her fat. I wasn’t that’s why I kept the receipt in the gift in case it didn’t fit and I even asked my son her size so I would be close. I have more but I think that example makes the point.

They own two properties, a house in the suburbs and a mountain cabin. I got a text a few days ago asking me to bring my homemade pie. I told her I can’t really cook due to my leg and I can bring a premade one. That wasn’t good enough and we got into a text argument until she told me it was fine. Soon after she informed the family group chat that thanksgiving will be at the mountain cabin. I can’t get up there, it’s not crutches safe at all.

I sent the argument we had about the pie and called her a petty b__ch for trying to exclude me from thanksgiving. This caused a huge argument and the whole family is coming to my place tomorrow ( my daughter will cook). I’m still getting calls and texts for stealing the family for thanksgiving.

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AITAH for not punishing my daughter for attacking a boy in her school?

My husband has a daughter, Ellie (12), from a previous relationship. We did not know about Ellie until last year, before that she was with her bio mom, who was very abusive. Ellie is tiny (shares clothes with our 7 year old) and is closer to 6-7 years old developmentally. She's the sweetest little girl, is always making little presents for me, my husband, and her siblings, and loves hugs. She's never been violent before this.

Ellie goes to a special needs school. There's a boy 2 years older than her that has a history of being violent, especially towards younger/smaller kids like Ellie and her friends. He's never done anything to Ellie until recently but she's told me about him hurting her friends and it was bad. Ellie is terrified of this boy.

Her school's picnic was last week. They had games for all of the kids and while Ellie was playing with her friends, he pushed her down and kicked her head. Ellie lost it. She tackled him, knocked him over, slammed his head into the ground, and was on top of him hitting and scratching him. It took both me and my husband to get her off of him.

Both kids ended up in urgent care because of this. Ellie had a mild concussion, 2 broken teeth, and a couple scratches and bruises and he had a broken nose and some scratches and bruises. Ellie is not being punished by her school but the boy is being expelled.

We saw the boy's mom when we were getting Ellie some new toys and some ice cream and she started saying she can't believe we're rewarding our kid for breaking her son's nose and that we need to get our kid under control. I told her that her son is the one that started it but she insists that it's different and he can't help it.

AITAH for not punishing her for attacking the boy?

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AITA for telling my sister that she is as bad as our father?

I(28F) have an older sister(33F). Our parents divorced when we were 4 and 9. Our mother got full custody because our father was not a good person. Then our father kidnapped us. From 4 to 16 I lived with her and our father in a cult.

It was your run of the mill Christian cult. Homeschooled, forced to dress modestly, any type of independence is seen as sinning....etc. when I was 16, the cops finally arrested him and we were reunited with our mom.

The first few years of freedom were wild, we finally got to grow as individuals, experience normal life and face our traumas in therapy. My sister became a tattooed, pink haired career woman. I went to college, worked for a couple of years, met a good man and decided that being a SAHM is what I really want.

Looking at me, you would think that I am embodying what we were taught as kids in the cult, but that's not true. I just find myself in dressing in feminine clothes, taking care of my home, my husband and my kid. I am an equal in my relationship, I know how to assert myself and am as far from what I used to be as my sister is.

My sister on the other hand doesn't think so. She takes every opportunity we meet to try and "save" me. She tries to convince me to leave my husband and my kid, pushes me to get a job, tries to force me to go clubbing with her, tried to force me to get "makeovers"...etc.

I finally had enough yesterday, she made a dating profile for me on Tinder, and she has been chatting with a guy and had set a date already. I was furious. So we got into a screaming match that ended up with me telling her: you are exactly like dad, you are both trying to change me to fit the idea of what you think I should be.

She was shocked, didn't say anything and just left. Her partner told me that she had an anxiety attack and is ramping up her therapy sessions. And now I am feeling like an AH.

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Aita for disowning my sister for dating my assaulter?

I don't want to get into the details but I was SAd by a man I've known since I was a kid. We grew up as neighbors and would play together all the time. He's 35 and I'm 32 and my sister is 29.

My sister is the first person I went to after the a__ault. She held me while I balled my eyes out.

A week ago I saw them waiting in line holding hands at Starbucks. I was going in to get me a cake pop. They didn't notice me so I quickly turned around and walked back out. I went home and was in a full blown panic attack. I was hyperventilating and I couldn't see through the tears.

Later in the day I called my sister and asked her why she was holding hands with my ra**st. She tried gaslighting me but eventually she admitted to it. She told me they had been together for a few months.

I asked her why. And she said that she and him had talked about it and he told her that he never assaulted me and that I must of lied because I came onto him and he shot me down. She had the audacity to ask me if I was jealous. I was fuming so I hung up on her.

Our parents don't know that he assaulted me. But my sister told them that I haven't been talking to her because I'm jealous that she is with him and he turned me down in the past.

I don't want to tell them because they are really good friends with his parents and I don't want to ruin they're friendship. But my parents are calling me immature and petty. And that it's breaking their heart that I would disown my sister over something so trivial.

I feel like I'm the a__hole because I can't bring myself to tell my parents the truth so maybe I'm being the a__hole to myself more than anything. Any advice would be appreciated.

Edit: I'm o__rwhelmed by how many replies I have recieved but I know what I have to do now. I will be telling my parents. I'm going to write out my thoughts and read it to them. Thank you all for encouragement. I'm nervous of how it will go. Again thank you all.