Nida Jawed

Yes, others cause us a lot of problems, but they are not the only ones participating in the issue; we are too!

So reflect on what role you have played or continue to play in your problems? I promise you, the solutions you seek are found in your decisions, behaviors, and actions. Let me show you how you can solve the problem.

Where is your path taking you?

May Allah grant us Tawfiq, Ameen 🤲🏼🤲🏼

Seeing Hazrath Fatima’s dress with my own eyes only made me think about the true power of a woman who was the daughter of a prophet, wife of a khalifa, and mother of martyrs.
The woman who believed in her father, who stood with her husband, and the mother who sacrificed every bit of herself for the love of God.
How many of us women would support our men the way she did?
The true power of a woman is seen in the strength of the men she holds.
I wish I could wear this dress at least once to feel her soul, strength, and heart.
How can I make my wish come true?

for everything

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Sometimes laughter is love. Then other times, teasing, sarcasm, and playful banter become the language of survival after years together. Disrespectful yes, but nonetheless, survival.

Look at Everybody Loves Raymond, show we all have watched at some point. Marie and Frank spent decades poking fun at each other, arguing, rolling their eyes, throwing sarcasm across the room like a love language. Yet somehow, underneath all the chaos, there was loyalty, familiarity, and comfort.

But the truth is, when a woman comes to her husband seeking comfort, she is rarely asking for solutions.
She’s asking:
“Can you sit in this moment with me without turning it into a joke?”

No matter the background, most men cannot sit in silence with a woman, hold her genuinely, and repeat the words, “it will all be okay,” offering her reassurance. Or the words I believe every married woman wants to hear before “I love you” which are, “I got you.”

Marriage is complicated, and men who are afraid of silence and hide behind humor can have a long-term marriage, but the one that remains surface level, with daily tasks, kids, s*x, and depth is not present.

Marie and Frank were that kind; they made the marriage work behind the humor, with no real substance or depth. Why do you suppose Marie was shown so attached to her boys, especially Raymond, who was her youngest son, and an emotional husband, that Frank was not?

Reflect on your marriage today.

I can’t begin to tell you how much influence plays a part in a couple's life. Family and friends' opinions and judgments about the partners make the couple's situation even worse. When both partners are looking for guidance from people they trust, but are given toxicity and judgment in return, then these partners bring that burden home. An already aching heart believes maybe there is some truth in someone’s opinion, but believe me, there isn’t.

The only time someone should ask you to leave a marriage is when abuse is present, in any form, and your partner is a toxic person who is just not willing to change, and would rather sacrifice you instead of their ego. Period!

If the fights are over time and attention, feel blessed, your partner wants you. This deficit can be fixed and recovered beautifully. I often ask my clients, "What about your partner asking for your time and attention offends you? What bothers you when they are asking you to stop and listen to them?”
Most of the time, their reasons are “busy with job,” “no time for self,” and many other reasons that the partner comes in the way of self-fulfillment, but these reasons fail to acknowledge the union and other partners' needs.

When your partner wants your understanding, time, and connection, then yes, your resistance is harming the relationship; of course, things will fall apart, but repair is possible.

Do not let outside influences add oil to your burning flames and set your relationship on fire; get proper guidance. Do not seek marriage advice from friends and family who have only “survived “ marriages, not built marriages.

I am here to answer all your questions and help you build the relationship you truly deserve. Insha’Allah. DM or comment “reset” and I will message you how we can make that happen.