Codependent Millennial Coaching

My brain thinks that I should have it ALLLLL figured out & that I’m a literal piece of garbaaaagio for not being an omniscient being.

Do you have those thoughts, too?

They just drive us to hide and shame ourselves and give up. Hilarious.

I see so much perfectionism displayed online, especially by coaches, and I just want you to know how NOT ALONE you are in the process of figuring out how to be a human who is alive on earth.

If you struggle with perfectionism, self doubt, shame about being a mortal human who has to actually experience FAILURE in order to learn and grow, just calm the heck down for a second with me, okay?

Take a biiiiig deep breath, and let yourself know what you know deep down:

You know—be honest—that you should not be shaming yourself for learning.

You know that you should not be hating on yourself for not knowing something.

You know that you should not belittle yourself because you made a decision that you now understand was misguided, foolish, or not good for you.

You know that you are a tender little growing being who has a soft heart and feelings that can get hurt by really cruel thoughts.

You know that you can choose a new way of speaking to yourself even if your inner critic has been shouting the loudest for years or decades.

You know that you are not less of a champion human for experiencing lots of failure, lots of “growth opportunities”, lots of learning.

You know that any worthy pursuit or big goal will likely require a huge amount of effort AND failure from you. You need to be willing to experience that and keep going.

You know that encountering a challenge is not a sign to turn back and go home.

You know that you are capable, even if someone told you emphatically that you’re not.

You know that you are capable, even if someone told you that you’re not so many times and in so many ways that you started to believe that thought as if it was simple truth.

Take another big, deep breath.

Now remind yourself of some more things that you know to be true.

Remind yourself of all the things that you need to remember when you’re feeling the most lost/hopeless/afraid/ashamed/doubtful of yourself.

Then go play outside.

🖤Sophie

Codependents…we’re literally all the fu***ng same🦋

***If you feel weird taking up space or having needs & wants, read this:

On our group calls, people share things that they need other loving people to hear.

People ask really hard questions, questions that they’ve been afraid to ask in the privacy of their own minds. They always realize that they had the answer within.

People validate each others’ experiences, and realize that they’re not alone in any of this.

People heal in this community the wounds that have kept them suffering in isolation and shame for way too effing long. I know this sounds intense—words like wounds, suffering, shame, but this is real. If you’re doing the hard work of healing your codependency, you know this already.

You can find community absolutely anywhere, but as recovering codependents we experience some challenges when it comes to actually getting that support that we all need.

Do any of these challenges below sound familiar?…

-struggling to feel WORTHY of TAKING UP SPACE in a community or in a relationship
-really believing that you don’t know what you want
-getting swept up too quickly in what someone else wants/prefers/likes, without any regard for your interests
-not believing that the friendship/community/partnership you want is too good to be true so you settle for whatever is simply *there*?
-feeling very afraid that we will be abandoned, even when things are going well

We hold ourselves back from the simplest thing that we need as human beans…community.

What do you think is holding you back from finding the support and the community that will help you learn to love yourself, treat yourself well, have high standards for people you engage with, etc…? What is keeping you from taking care of yourself in that way if you think it’s something you need?

I have a workshop coming up in June & I think you should come. It’s $36.

The workshop is a springtime reset workshop where we will be recommitting to building and living the life you want, not the one you’ve been living by accident, or because you were just too damn codependent to live boldly up until now.

Link in bio.

Tag someone who needs this I’m not kidding.