Cari Li

Smooth seas don’t make skillful sailors. The real test comes when the waves get rough 🌊 Video from Vituity, February 2024, in conversation with Imamu Tomlinson

I used to think I had zero discipline, but really I have a different kind...

To me, discipline isn’t following a structure that is externally set.

The only discipline that matters is
The discipline to be your own authority.

How does this look?

With our body, it would look like understanding & respecting what does / doesn’t work well for your body.

Lactose intolerant? Watch the dairy.

Need 8 hours to function optimally? Prioritize your sleep.

With relationships, it could be having boundaries so we’re not enabling anything unhealthy.

With mental clarity, it could be calming impulsivity because it doesn’t work for you.

With emotions, it could be not blaming & projecting onto others.

With our spirit, it could be the discipline of awareness & trusting ourself.

Many of us get distracted with X amount of calories,
Y workouts a week with a perfect attendance to ____ &
We believe that is discipline.

While that works for a minority, it is not the true discipline that brings the best out of all of us.

1. Life is not static and therefore lifestyle has to be adaptable.
2. It doesn’t allow space for learning to trust & listen to our body, mind or spirit.
3. It’s what many burnt out High Performers rely on because a minority utilize this method successfully (sometimes it’s a lie).

This is why so many start and fail over & over again,
Working hard to convince themselves they’ll be more disciplined.

“If I do everything he/ she does, I’ll have the same success.”

False.

This is someone being disciplined about being another instead of taking the time & effort to be disciplined in the unique way they need to have true success.

Alignment looks, feels & provides different than High Performance.
It requires you to have intelligence about yourself, your unique system.

That takes courage, takes time, takes trust.

That is where all our discipline should be focused.

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Here's to having a Present day 🤎

proud coach moment 🥹 ⛷️: Ryoyu Kobayashi

How could I be scared of your darkness if
I can see your light 🕯️🤎

I’m here to walk with you
Hold a flame for you
But I cannot gather courage for you
I cannot hold conviction for you

Those are things only you can wield
For yourself to
Embrace the darkness
Not diminish it

So many work actively to diminish
What cannot be diminished
Is that you?
Are you tired yet?

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Trust 🤎

I believe there are some who miss their true leadership calling because they are too insistent on the position of "power" they want.

Pushing hard to get where they hope society respects and admires them, which society and profitable organization "rewards" well.

After years of working with high performers who reach a point of burnout, we find that there is usually a shaky and empty base performance holding all the pieces of high achievement together.

Reaching this point of realization can be quite a hit after all the effort pushing and the sacrifices given. For some it can be such a hard realization that they choose to continue to ignore it, swamping themselves further into the empty depths till life consequence forces them to see.

When a passionate person hits this wall, its loud and confusing because so much of what we were fighting for... is not there.

And so we take a pause and reflect on how we got to this situation, seeing the lies we believed and the delusions we convinced ourselves of.

Why didn't we take the leadership where we were recognized and called?
Did it not meet how we wanted society to perceive us?

Why did we have to insist on fighting to lead in a particular direction?
Did we think without it we were not enough?

Why do we find ourselves in a world of Force and Resistance when we can live in a world of Being and Receiving?
Did we not come out of the womb already perfect?

The collective is shifting how they want to be led and it's not through force anymore.

Whether you desire to lead or are chosen to lead, it's time to pay attention to where, who and how you are being chosen to lead.

All that starts with the ability to lead yourself.

The individuals I surround myself with
have a fire to them, a chaos that
not everyone sees the beauty in.

Because so many have feared the power these
individuals have, they close up, shrink, constrict,
for fear they get misunderstood or outcast.

It’s sometimes sad and frustrating to observe
someone who spends so much precious energy
holding back their greatness.

It’s a warriors internal battle,
especially a warrior of the light.

My message and support is consistent
to the warriors I am blessed to work with…

You can’t outrun yourself so
You might as well acknowledge yourself
Take on the responsibility of
how to move as yourself

Walk the path you’re here to walk
Your time in this world has a clock

🤎sending you all the courage

p.s. I live in this coat now 😂

📸 by Katrina Winter Photography

He literally has all the coaching mannerisms. 😂 @coachchristopherbess

What if everything we’ve rejected
Is the power that others were afraid of

What if every we’ve rejected
Is the magic that we’ve been looking for

What if everything we’ve rejected
Is the wealth we’ve starved for

What if everything we’ve rejected
Is the love we’ve abandoned

We sit so well in a pit of inadequacy
And cry, pray and say “why?”

It is in sitting in this darkness
With another that I wonder
when they lost themselves
As I once have
When they lost their love
As I once have

So to anyone who is ever
in a pit of darkness
A whirlwind of chaos

I believe you can find
A piece within you to love
A peace within you to harness

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