Tomorrow Mourning

I would like a say in my funeral…because I don’t trust y’all 😂

This is your reminder that a memorial doesn’t have to be stiff, silent, or emotionally confusing. It can actually feel like you - your humor, your taste, your chaos, your rules. Because YOU are the dearly departed, after all!

And the people who love you most will honestly be grateful-they’ll have a collective sigh of relief knowing exactly what to do, and they’ll actually get to be present, laugh a little, and just enjoy remembering you instead of stressing about getting it “right.”

Make it yours. No boring finales allowed.

Legacy isn’t just what we leave behind, it’s the stories we tell, the values we carry, and the little pieces of ourselves we pass on to the people we love.

I’m excited to be leading a workshop at in Wheeling on June 11, where we’ll explore simple, creative ways to reflect on your life story and start shaping your legacy in a way that feels meaningful (and not overwhelming).

We’ll play with narrative writing, voice recording, and mindful planning, just easy, approachable ways to capture what matters most.

If you’ve ever thought about “I should really do that someday,” this is your gentle nudge. I’d love for you to join us! Head to my story or DM me for a direct link to register!

We don’t really talk about death…and for most of us, that feels pretty normal. 🤍

But avoiding it doesn’t always make it easier. In fact, research suggests that when we can talk about death more openly, it may actually help ease some of the anxiety around it and bring more clarity to what matters most.

As a death doula, I can help facilitate these seemingly “tough” conversations. I can support people through end-of-life planning, legacy work, obituary writing, memorial planning, and actually talking about what often feels too big or too overwhelming to start alone - all in a way that feels grounded, human, and unhurried.

If you’ve been tiptoeing around these conversations or don’t know where to begin, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Reach out, and let’s get the conversation started ♥️

BIG NEWS… I’m opening my very first office space in downtown Batavia. 🔑💙

The wait is almost over, and I still can’t believe I get to say that out loud.

For years, I’ve met with clients wherever I could make it work - coffee shops, borrowed spaces, at events, over the phone - while dreaming about having a space of my own. A space where conversations can happen freely, community can be built, and people can feel comfortable walking through hard and meaningful moments together.

No more waiting for invitations to host events… now I get to create my own.
No more awkward coffee shop glances during conversations about end-of-life playlists… now we can talk at full volume.
No more trying to write between constant interruptions (sorry kiddos - mom’s got an office now 😉).

I’m also so excited to be sharing this space with April of for future collaborations, workshops, and community events - so stay tuned, because we have some really meaningful things planned. ✨

So much to look forward to…

But first up: learning how to hang wallpaper. 😅

Memorial Day is often seen as the unofficial start of summer, but at its heart, it is a day of remembrance. 🇺🇸

Today honors the lives lost in service and acknowledges the families and loved ones who continue living alongside that loss long after the ceremonies, gatherings, and holidays end.

Grief and remembrance do not follow a calendar, and days like today can bring up emotions in both quiet and unexpected ways.

Holding gentle thoughts today for all who are remembering someone they love ♥️

Talking about death does not cause death. I promise.

You are not going to accidentally summon the universe because you asked your parent about their end-of-life wishes over coffee.

In fact, these conversations can be incredibly grounding, meaningful, and even comforting. Talking openly about things like care wishes, funeral preferences, fears, values, or what brings someone peace can help families feel more connected and less overwhelmed later on.

A death doula can help guide these conversations in a way that feels gentle, human, and a lot less intimidating than people imagine.

Death is already part of life. Talking about it just gives us a chance to meet it with a little more clarity, compassion, and care.

If you’d like support starting these conversations with your loved ones, I’d be honored to help.

Sometimes you want something deep and meaningful. Sometimes you want something comforting and familiar. And sometimes you just need a show or movie that “gets it” while you’re feeling a little griefy 🎬

Here are a few TV shows, movies, and documentaries that I’d recommend for those kinds of days - some hopeful, some heartbreaking, some surprisingly funny, and some just comforting to sit with.

What would you add to the list? Share your own griefy TV/movie recommendations in the comments for others to discover! 🍿