Carla R. Cannon-Lawrence

I get EXACTLY what she’s saying and it sounds accurate to me. What do YOU think?🤔

I know I’m in the minority, but I genuinely love Mondays. Not because every week is amazing, or because life suddenly gets easier when the calendar changes. But I love Mondays because they remind me that I get another opportunity.

Another opportunity to adjust my attitude.
Another opportunity to make a different decision.
Another opportunity to show up for myself in ways I may not have last week.

Most people spend so much time focusing on where they aren’t that they forget to acknowledge how far they’ve already come. They convince themselves they’re behind. But behind who and according to whose standard and timeline?

Life isn’t a race. It’s a journey, and healthy growth requires a healthy pace.That’s why I often encourage my clients to stop asking, “How fast can I get there?” and start asking, “How can I remain consistent without abandoning myself?”

This week, I want you to give yourself permission to begin again. Not because you failed last week, but because you’re human.

Now…
Take a deep breath.
Reposition yourself.
Refocus your energy.
Believe in yourself again.

And if your faith is anything like mine, remember this: God is already in the week you’re worried about.🌻

‼️(In my Tevin Campbell voice)…
CAN WE TALK FOR A MINUTE⁉️

THIS MAY SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE IF YOU REALLY GET WHAT I’M SAYING:

There’s a level of peace that comes from NOT feeling the need to track your spouse’s every move, check their phone/location, or spend your relationship operating from suspicion and fear. Marriage is so much bigger than romance, attraction, or even s*x.

The person you choose becomes your life partner. They become the person you build a life with, share dreams with, face challenges with, and trust with the parts of yourself that few people ever get to see. A HEALTHY marriage requires intentional love, patience, commitment, communication, accountability, grace, forgiveness, and a willingness to grow. It’s NOT always easy, but neither is anything worth building.💪🏾

One thing I’ve learned is that when we lead with love instead of blame, criticism, or the need to be right, EVERYTHING begins to shift. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But it shifts in small increments. So many people are quick to walk away when things get difficult. WHY? Because healing a relationship requires focus, commitment, consistency, and intentional effort. Sure, it’s much easier to walk away. If we’re honest, that’s a level of work many people simply aren’t willing to do.

Weddings are beautiful.
Have the dress.
Have the flowers.
Have the music.
Have all the things.
Celebrate it.
Enjoy it.
Take the pictures.
Make the memories.

BUT when the guests go home, the gifts are opened, and the photos are posted, it’s just the TWO OF YOU. And that’s when the REAL work begins.

A marital covenant is sacred. There will be seasons of temptation, frustration, disappointment, growth, and moments where choosing your vows feels harder than you expected. Think about that. Honoring your vows often has as much to do with YOUR character, integrity, and commitment as it does with your spouse’s behavior.

Love usually isn’t the problem. Communication is.
Most people genuinely love each other. They just don’t know how to navigate hurt, disappointment, unmet expectations, and conflict in healthy ways.

That’s one of the reasons I wrote, How to Talk So Your Partner Will Listen, because healthy relationships aren’t built on mind-reading. They’re built on communication, understanding, emotional safety, and intentional effort. ♥️🏳️‍🌈

Living a life without secrets feels so liberating. Having to change your passcode every few days or take your phone with you everywhere you go can be exhausting. Thank God we outgrew that many moons ago. We made a promise to eachother early on that we would tell one another EVERYTHING so no outside person can EVER feel as if they have one up on the other.💍♥️🌹

Thank God I never settled. This view is so much better.🏝️