Marriage Sanctified

Welcome to Marriage Sanctified! Marriage is a covenant you and your spouse have with God. We believe

12/28/2022

For those of you who are interested in joining us for in person classes, we will start classes January 13th. Below is the schedule. Our podcast will also resume in January.

January 13 & 27
February 10 & 24
March 3 & 10

12/25/2022
12/25/2022
12/23/2022

Mark 10:9

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

12/23/2022
12/22/2022

Your spouse is the one person who gets to see you at your best and at your worst, which allows for plenty of practice with humility & forgiveness within the marriage. Choosing to love your spouse over holding contempt for them is key.

12/21/2022

Imagine how the Christmas story would have turned out had Joseph and Mary not had the capacity to adjust to things beyond their control. The first of which was Mary being pregnant and due to the circumstances Joseph could have let her be stoned or exiled. After some angelic counseling he chose to marry her instead and to call this child his own. They were then forced to make a grueling journey and with Mary being close to delivering a baby I can only imagine how difficult that must have been. Upon arrival to Bethlehem there was no Hilton, Hyatt, or Motel 6 for them to check into nor a hospital where they could go and have the baby. Instead, they ended up in an animal stall and it was there Mary gave birth to the son of God.

The point to all of this there is no record or hint of complaint, anger, self-pity, or even annoyance on the part of Joseph and Mary for what they had to go through. By adjusting to the things that were beyond their control they not only changed their perspective, they also changed the world.

This is the marriage lesson of Joseph and Mary.

- Danny Delgado

12/20/2022
12/17/2022

When you complain about your spouse your heart becomes harder. But when you pray for your spouse your heart becomes softer.

Don’t stop praying. Your prayers connect you to God & invite Him in.

1 Thessalonians 5:17

12/13/2022
12/13/2022

Leaving the Past in the Past

Whether you are newly married or have been married for years, at some point in your relationship you will face two things- brokenness and the need for forgiveness.

We have all experienced personal brokenness in our lives prior to getting married. We will also experience brokenness within our marriage. Why? Because we often carry the burdens of our past hurts and mistakes with us and bring them into our marriage. Our pain and discomfort bring us to a place of familiarity and, oddly, this familiarity gets disguised as comfort to us.

Yet, we continue to mess up in our brokenness. We get hurt and we become hurtful. We react instead of responding. We want to be different, but we don’t always know how to be different. Our desire is to move beyond the things that cripple our godly thinking, but sometimes we just get stuck.

Our brokenness, whether from our past or current circumstances, can often trigger us to respond with our usual, unhealthy coping methods. For example, our instinctive response may be to blame our childhood trauma or our upbringing for our own current bad behavior toward our spouse. We claim, excuse, and justify it through a victim’s lens. We give our brokenness a permanent dwelling spot in our heart, closing our minds off to the possibility of authentic change and authentic forgiveness towards our spouse and ourselves. We choose to remain wounded and live with injustice stamped over our heart.

But there is a much better way…

2 Corinthians 10:5 says we are to destroy every proud obstacle that keeps us from knowing God. That we must capture every rebellious thought captive and submit those thoughts to obey Christ. Wow! What a powerful scripture to help us with our need for physical, emotional, and spiritual healing!
And Proverbs 23:12 says to commit ourselves to instruction and to listen carefully to wisdom.

So, when we feel wounded by something our spouse has done to hurt us or we feel like we can’t be forgiven for something we have done to hurt our spouse, we must capture those thoughts and submit them to Christ and His character. His forgiveness towards us gives us the strength to extend forgiveness to our spouse and even to ourselves. His redemptive power is what allows us to pick up our feet and take the next step forward toward positive change.

Isaiah 43:18 says, “Do not remember the past events; pay no attention of things of old.”

We must work through each trying circumstance that comes our way today and let the past stay in the past. Walk in His forgiveness and extend forgiveness consistently and continually to your spouse and to yourself. Acknowledge the areas in which you are weak and identify your triggers and submit them into His mighty healing hands.

12/11/2022

Trust God with your marriage. Surrender it to Him & leave it in His sovereign hands.

This morning, I was drawn to Psalm 61.

This particular Psalm reflects David's decision to trust in nothing or no one else. God alone is his rock, his strength, and his refuge. David had opportunity to trust in other things, including his men who were loyal to him. But he refused and kept his expectation in God alone.

Let us all put our trust in God alone for no one else can stand beside Him. He is the Alpha and Omega, the First and the Last, and the Beginning to the End.

Here is Psalm 61:1-4..meditate on it and let it minister to you today.

“Hear my cry, O God;
Attend to my prayer.
2 From the end of the earth I will cry to You, When my heart is overwhelmed;
Lead me to the rock that is higher than I.
3 For You have been a shelter for me,
A strong tower from the enemy.
4 I will abide in Your [b]tabernacle forever; I will trust in the shelter of Your wings. Selah”

12/11/2022
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11/24/2022

In marriage you need to be each other's greatest cheerleader, not only a critic. Praise and applaud your spouse's right choices; don’t just tell them what they did wrong. The world is already full of people who will point out their failures and shortcomings. Always keep in mind that next to God, no other voice has as much power, influence, or value to your spouse as yours.

If my wife calls me a failure, it does not matter if the world celebrates me. If my wife tells me I'm a champion, it does not matter if the world tells me I’m not.

It is God who tells me who I am. It is my wife who helps me see that in myself.

And perhaps most sobering of all is to realize if you are not your spouse's greatest cheerleader then you are allowing someone else to be.

- Danny Delgado

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

11/24/2022

Thankful!

11/18/2022
11/16/2022

Yes!

11/15/2022

Don’t quit- CELEBRATE!

When we go through hardships in marriage, we may be tempted to give up and quit. The last thing we may want to do is celebrate. Yet, scripture reminds us that we all go through seasons in our lives.

Ecclesiastes 3:4 says there “is a time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.”

Reflecting upon our two decades of marriage, we can see this truth weaved throughout our own marital hardships.

Plenty of times we have cried and grieved. And plenty of times we have laughed and danced from the triumph of overcoming those same hardships.

How is it that we can look back and celebrate our hardships? Because we see the goodness of God in each of them. Because through each hardship, we are strengthened, and God is glorified by the power of our testimony.

Through our hardships we have learned the freeing power of confession and forgiveness. We have learned the humbling power of submission to God and obedience. We have been a witness to God’s faithfulness to grow us to be more like Him. We have felt His sovereignty over our temporal circumstances.

If your marriage feels like it is in a pit of sinking sand, take time to reflect upon the goodness of God in your prior marriage struggles. Look for the ways in which the hardships grew you closer to Him and to your spouse. Celebrate them!

Write them in a journal or on post-it notes as a reminder. And encourage, support & celebrate the marriages of others. God’s goodness is also displayed when we celebrate others, despite our own circumstances.

Our marriages are a way we get to share the Gospel with others in the world. Let His glory be on display!

11/10/2022

Marriage is a gift.

11/04/2022

Finding Joy in the suffering, test, and trial, is not always an easy goal.

What could’ve been, what we wanted, and how we thought it would turn out….all of these things can cause us to miss out on having the Joy that only God can give.

It’s okay to feel.
It’s okay to cry.
It’s okay to feel frustrated.
But at the same time find the Joy that only God can give, let Him give you peace of mind, and let Him carry you through the disappointments in life.

James 1:2-4
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

11/04/2022

When I think of teamwork, my mind instantly reflects back on my former career. I’m reminded of all of the things that I wouldn’t have accomplished without the help of others.

But then I start to think about my marriage and family & question how it’s possible that my wife & I accomplished raising three sons to maturity.

Let me tell you… it wasn’t because of us. See, we are two imperfect individuals who undeniably love one another and our Creator. Yet, sometimes we forget we are on the same team. A team created by The Almighty for His glory, not ours. God often reminds us of this & resets our thinking, thankfully!

We have sought & fought for our marriage & we have personally experienced what it means to lay down selfish desires for the greater good of the family and for the peace & joy that comes from obtaining oneness of marriage.

Join us this coming week as we talk about Teamwork in Marriage & how important it is to include God on your marital team.

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11/04/2022
10/22/2022

The devil wants you to believe your situation is too complicated; your problems are too big; your mistakes are too many and your marriage is too messed up. He wants you to believe your present circumstances are too hopeless and your future is too dark. Nothing could be further from the truth.

There is no situation too complicated and no problem too big for God! Do we not serve the same God who created the heavens and the earth, the vast oceans and the towering mountains? Is He not the God who hung the stars in the sky and gave the lion it's roar? Cannot the same God who raises the dead and heals the sick do the same for your marriage? Is the same God who took a lump of clay and breathed life into it, powerless when it comes to your marriage?

We allow the devil to rule in our lives while we keep God on the sidelines. It is remarkable to me how we loudly protest the removal of God from our schools and government buildings yet He is nowhere to be found in our marriages. We get offended when someone wants to remove "In God We Trust" from our currency when too often there is little evidence of that very thing when we struggle in our marriages. Do we truly trust Him?

The problem is not God, or even our spouses. It is us. We carry hurts, pain, defiance, pride, and unforgiveness almost as if they were badges of honor. We put limits on our faith, limits on our forgiveness, limits on what we are willing to do, limits on our humility, and limits on our God. There is no mistake which cannot be forgiven. There is no marriage beyond repair or too dysfunctional to even try. The question is not if our marriages can be saved, restored, healed, and made new. The question is, are we willing to do our part and trust in God to do His?

- Danny Delgado

Matthew 18:18 Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.

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10/16/2022
10/14/2022

Beauty in Marriage

Our marriages are designed by God to be as colorful as the vibrant changes of Fall.

Click below to read more.

https://marriagesanctified.com/2022/10/14/beauty-in-marriage/

Just Love Her 10/12/2022

Just Love Her

“Just Love Her”

While sleeping one night, God spoke to me and all He said was “Just Love Her.”
Eph 5:25 NLT- For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her.

That’s all I heard from Him. As I woke up in bed after this, I was confused and perplexed. What did “just love her” actually mean and why would God tell me this? Let’s see, I love my wife every day and do pretty much all I can to help her with whatever she needs, so why would God tell me this so clearly? As if He was speaking to little old me in neon lighting?

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Just Love Her “Just Love Her” Yes, those 3 words can be hard! While sleeping one night, God spoke to me and all He said was “Just Love Her.” (Eph 5:25 NLT- For husbands, this means love your wives, j…

10/10/2022
10/09/2022
10/09/2022

Psalm 35:27 ESV

Let those who delight in my righteousness shout for joy and be glad and say evermore, "Great is the LORD, who delights in the welfare of his servant!"

10/08/2022

A wedding prayer:

May they not expect perfection that belongs alone to you, God. May they minimize each other’s weaknesses. May they be swift to praise and magnify each other’s strengths. May they see each other through kind and patient eyes. At the end of their days, may they be found hand in hand, thanking God for each other, serving you happily and faithfully until one shall lay the other into your arms. Amen.

10/08/2022

Sometimes, it’s just wonderful looking back!

10/08/2022

He is Jehovah Rapha! Our healer & comforter for all things.

10/06/2022

Husbands, love your wife!
God‘s word says that we are to love our wives, as our own bodies. What a high calling He gives us husbands! Read along to learn more.. 

https://marriagesanctified.com/2022/10/06/husbands-love-your-wife/

10/06/2022

Remember, there are brighter days ahead!

Marriage Sanctified 10/06/2022

Marriage Sanctified

Today is Thankful Thursday! Today, I thank my spouse for loving me, through the good times and the bad.
Specifically, I’m thankful that we both love the Lord. ❤️🙏

What are you thankful for? Tell your spouse today!

Marriage Sanctified Marriage God's Way!

10/04/2022

Husbands, this post is for you! I find myself stuck in my own stubbornness at times, can you relate? Do you ever let pride keep you from truly hearing from others, especially your spouse? What about from God? If so, please read here, https://marriagesanctified.com/2022/10/04/are-pride-defensiveness-hurting-your-marriage/ , as I openly discuss how this has been a stumbling block for me personally and in my marriage.

10/01/2022

Living as one in marriage starts with well ordered priorities. Many understand what good priorities are (God first, then spouse, then kids, then everything else), but we can live contrary to that understanding. How we live reflects true priorities. This quote is as relevant today as the day it was written; let's walk through it.

1) "Prefer the person before money." How is your work/family balance? If you or your spouse is working so much that it takes away from family time, adjustment is needed. Take a look at your lifestyle, your expenses, and your buying habits. Are the extra hours necessary? Is the money worth it? Only you can answer these questions honestly and use wisdom to live in a way that keeps your marriage as a priority.

2) "Virtue before beauty." We live in a very externally focused culture. Character is often sacrificed for external appearances, and sometimes we can let those appearances affect how we love our spouses. Beauty is good and should be appreciated! But real beauty is far deeper than what you see with your eyes. Beauty starts with your identity in Christ: who God says you are and who your spouse is. Let that "virtue" – your spouse's identity in Christ – be the focus of your affections for one another.

3) "Mind before body." Your spouse's mind – their personality, ideas, and ways of expressing them – will only grow better with time. Your deepest affections for each other will go far beyond your bodies (though we hope you grow in your physical attractions too!). Your deepest connections happen between your hearts and minds - your beliefs, intellect, and intuition. Prefer your spouse's mind; prefer their soul. When you do, you prefer the deepest parts of them.
We pray that you and your spouse grow deeper together as you learn to live as one. Most of all, we pray that you see each other as God sees you: lovely, cherished, and full of value in Christ.

Love fiercely,
Ryan & Selena

10/01/2022

There are moments in our marriages when we’re crying out for grace, not recognizing we are getting it. We spend time on our knees asking God to intervene in our situation, to alter our circumstances, and often to change our spouse. And then we wonder why God doesn't seem to move in any of those areas. It is not because God doesn't care. Rather it is because He knows more than we do what is needed. The grace we’re getting is the uncomfortable grace of personal growth. God is not as concerned with the condition of our circumstances as He is with the condition of our hearts.

From personal experience I can attest that yes, change in our marriage was often necessary but usually it wasn't my wife who needed it. The change that was needed was in me. And recognizing and embracing this fact gives hope it will indeed occur because the only person I have the responsibility, and ability to change is me. I cannot hope, wish, or pray for someone else to change if I am not willing to change myself first.

- Danny Delgado

Philippians 1:9 I pray that your love will overflow more and more, and that you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding.

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