Common Grounds

I love when the it hit the fan.

News reports and higher education experts suggest that the Trump administration’s actions against Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) programs may have the ironic effect of negatively impacting white college men. This outcome is predicted because some selective colleges previously used gender considerations in admissions to maintain an even gender balance on campus, a practice that often benefited male applicants. Key Details Gender Balancing Practices: Many private, selective colleges historically admitted a higher percentage of male applicants than female applicants to prevent their campuses from becoming predominantly female, as women generally apply to college at higher rates and often have higher high school GPAs and test scores. The Irony: While the Trump administration’s scrutiny of college admissions focused heavily on ending race-based considerations, its push to eliminate all “race or sex” based preferences meant that the legal loophole allowing for gender-based admissions (under Title IX) also came under threat. Potential Impact: By forcing colleges to stop considering gender in admissions to avoid federal scrutiny or loss of funding, institutions would have to rely on “neutral” admissions criteria that would likely favor female applicants, who are, on average, more academically qualified by standard measures (grades and test scores). Experts predicted that if gender preferences were eliminated, the undergraduate population at some schools could skew significantly female overnight. Evidence from Data: Research by Princeton economist Zachary Bleemer noted that top private colleges that likely consider gender in admissions have a higher percentage of male students compared to public universities that do not, suggesting a “thumb on the scale” for male applicants. For example, data showed some institutions accepted a higher percentage of men than women applicants in recent years. Broader Harm: Beyond admissions, the dismantling of general DEI infrastructure—such as support systems and mentorship programs—has been found by researchers to harm not just students of color but all students by making the college system less accessible and supportive

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✨ Thoughtful check-ins
✨ Listening with love
✨ Keeping spontaneity alive
✨ Ending each day with connection

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2025 is the year of the liars🔥

Intentional lying that causes so much harm. Liars are human too but they can’t see the harm because they are focused on protecting themselves in the moment.

Liars hide behind more lies. No different than what we are seeing in the news, purposeful lies to sway the people. Whether it’s on the news, social media, in the home, or on the job lies are meant to manipulate.

“Habitual Liars” don’t give up. They will lose everything behind the lie, self-sabotage.

Facts:

1. They don’t like to revisit the conversations because they cannot keep up with what they said 10min ago.

2. Lying is a “Bad Habit” like addiction, very hard to break but never impossible when you desire change.

3. Some times we must leave others behind as we move into the contemplative stage of change.

4. If it’s worth it, don’t cut-off. Create boundaries. Forgive. It’s for you not them so don’t get stuck in the shame.

5. If you grew up in it, it most likely became second nature, a lifestyle.

6. How do you change. There is more than one way to learn.

- God/Spiritual Guidance
-Therapy
-meet with leaders who
-join a process group so you can meet peers who are learning new habits.

7. Asking for proof instead you get rage.

Children who don’t grow out of lying typically seeks attention and validation from many different people with the intention to manipulate. Fear of ??? Mad because ???
To lie is to be manipulative.

Why I don’t believe in cut-off? It’s unhealthy and does not resolve issues. Will you cut off your child? Mom? Dad? “Boundaries” are better because you are in charge of your Boundaries because they are there to protect you.

How can you stop yourself from arguing with a liar? Remain consistent and focused on the FACTS or knowing the FACTS without blame. Their horns will grow out of their heads right before your eyes. Like a child, they will become weary. If they don’t they aren’t ready for change and you will continue to be the blame.

The liar believes the lie because they fear with truth comes change.

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This is Warrick Dunn. His mother worked as a police officer in Baton Rouge, but when Warrick was still in high school, she was shot while on duty and passed away. Losing her at such a young age was devastating, yet instead of giving up, Warrick stepped into her role at home.

He became the one responsible for raising his five younger siblings, all while balancing school and later college. Against all odds, he pushed forward and eventually made it to the NFL. But his story didn’t stop with football success.

Warrick chose to use his earnings to give back, pouring millions of dollars into building and paying for more than 145 homes for single mothers. His goal was simple but powerful... help families like his own find stability, comfort, and a better life.