Beth Bailey Coaching

Nobody talks about the face. 😂

You know the one.

The “I am concentrating SO HARD right now” face.

The confused face.

The “please don't let me fall” face.

The face you make when your body is trying to remember 17 things at once.

And honestly?

I think we need to celebrate it.

Because that face means you’re trying something that isn't automatic yet.

You’re learning.

You’re stretching outside your comfort zone.

You’re willing to look a little ridiculous while you figure it out.

And THAT is something worth celebrating.

So today’s Celebrate the Blooper challenge:

Show me your best pole face.

No posing.
No perfect angles.
No pretending you had it all together.

Just the face. 😂

Because being a beginner isn't supposed to look polished.

It’s supposed to look like you’re learning.

Nobody sees attempt 37 when they’re watching the final version.

They see the pretty spin.

The controlled movement.

The confidence.

They don’t see all the attempts that came before it.

The wobbles.
The weird faces.
The death grip. 😂
The moments where you thought, “I have no idea what I’m doing.”

But those attempts mattered.

Because every time you tried, you were building something bigger than a pole skill.

You were building self-trust.

You were learning that you can be uncomfortable, not be perfect, and still keep going.

And that lesson?

It follows you off the pole, too.

So if you’re waiting until you know you’ll be good at something before you start…

Consider this your permission to have an ugly attempt.

It still counts.

What’s something you’re willing to be a beginner at?

What if you stopped asking, “Why can’t I do this?”

And started asking:

“What is this trying to teach me?”

You miss the move.
You slip.
You can’t get your body to do what you want.

Your first thought might be:

“I’m just not good at this.”

But what if that attempt isn’t proof that you can’t?

What if it’s information?

Maybe you need more practice.
Maybe you need to change your grip.
Maybe your body needs more time.

Or maybe you just need to stop expecting yourself to be good at something you’re still learning.

You’re not failing. You’re collecting information.

And honestly? That applies to way more than pole.

Next time something doesn’t go the way you hoped, try asking:

“What can I learn from this?”

That question can change everything.

Yesterday, showing up looked very different than I expected.

I've been getting over a cold and don't feel super great.

I've also not been able to get to pole consistently lately.

Yesterday, I went to my virtual pole class with a very different goal than usual.

I wasn't there to nail every move.

I wasn't even there to do the whole class.

My goal was simply:

Show up.

I knew my body wasn't going to give me 100%.

And I was okay with that.

I did what I could.

I rested when I needed to.

And I let that be enough.

Because there's something I've been thinking about with this month's theme of perfectionism and fear of falling:

Sometimes we think “showing up” means pushing ourselves harder.

But sometimes showing up means listening to yourself.

Sometimes it means resting.

Sometimes it means trying for 20 minutes instead of an hour.

Sometimes it means modifying something.

And sometimes it means admitting:

“Today, my body needs something different.”

That's not failure.

That's feedback.

My body was giving me information, and I chose to listen.

But I also didn't want fear, frustration, or the fact that I haven't been consistent lately to become a reason to completely disconnect from something I love.

So I showed up for future me.

Not because I needed to prove anything.

Not because I needed to make up for the classes I've missed.

But because I want to be the kind of person who keeps coming back.

And I think there's a lesson here that goes way beyond pole:

You don't have to give 100% to keep moving forward.

You can honor where you are today AND still care about where you're going.

Those things can exist at the same time.

So if you've been beating yourself up because you haven't been as consistent as you'd like…

Maybe don't ask:

“Why can't I get my act together?”

Try asking:

“What does showing up look like for me today?”

Maybe it's 10 minutes.

Maybe it's resting without guilt.

Maybe it's taking one tiny step toward something you've been avoiding.

You don't have to punish yourself into becoming the person you want to be.

You can take care of yourself AND keep showing up for future you.

The woman who keeps trying is already becoming someone new.

Not because she suddenly stopped being afraid.

Not because she became the strongest person in the room.

Not because every attempt started looking graceful.

Because she decided that one imperfect attempt wasn't going to decide what she was capable of.

Think about beginner pole.

The first time you try something, your body might not cooperate.

You wobble.

You slip.

You forget what your legs are supposed to be doing.

You laugh.

You try again.

And maybe the next attempt is only 2% better.

But something else is happening that you can't always see.

You're teaching yourself:

“I can be uncomfortable and keep going.”

“I can be bad at something and not quit.”

“I can make a mistake without making it mean something terrible about me.”

“I can trust myself to figure things out.”

And THAT is bigger than learning a pole move.

Because eventually, you start taking that version of yourself off the pole.

You speak up when you'd normally stay quiet.

You apply for the thing you don't feel 100% qualified for.

You have the conversation you've been avoiding.

You try something you've always wanted to try.

You stop waiting for permission to be perfect.

You become the woman who says:

**“I don't know how this is going to turn out.

But I trust myself enough to try.”**

That's confidence I can get behind.

Not “I'm guaranteed to succeed.”

But:

“Whatever happens, I'll learn something and I'll figure out my next step.”

So don't underestimate your awkward attempts.

They're doing more than teaching your body.

They're teaching you who you can become.

What is something you're willing to keep trying, even though you're not good at it yet?

Tell me below.

Let's talk about the things beginner pole dancers secretly think…

Because I'm willing to bet you've had at least ONE of these thoughts:

“Everyone is going to be watching me.”

Meanwhile, everyone else is trying to remember which leg goes where. 😂

“I'm not flexible enough.”

You don't need to be able to fold yourself into a pretzel to start learning pole.

“I'm going to look ridiculous.”

You might.

I probably have.

And you know what?

You survive.

“What if I'm the worst person in the class?”

You might be.

For approximately… one class.

And then you learn something.

“I'm too old to start.”

There is no expiration date on trying something new.

“I'm not strong enough.”

That's one of the reasons you practice.

“What if I can't do what everyone else can?”

Then you can't.

Yet.

And this is the part I really want you to hear:

These thoughts aren't proof that you shouldn't try.

They're often just the thoughts that show up when you're doing something unfamiliar.

Your brain is trying to protect you from embarrassment, disappointment, and uncertainty.

But you don't have to believe every thought just because you had it.

You can hear:

“What if I look stupid?”

…and answer:

“Maybe. And I'm still going.”

You can hear:

“What if I can't do it?”

…and answer:

“Then I'll learn what I need to learn.”

You can hear:

“Everyone will notice me.”

…and answer:

“They're probably too busy worrying about themselves.” 😂

You don't have to silence the fear before you begin.

You can bring the fear with you.

That's courage.

And maybe the first step isn't becoming confident enough to try pole.

Maybe it's simply becoming curious enough to find out what happens when you do.

Which one of these thoughts has crossed your mind?

Tell me in the comments. I promise you're not the only one.

Houston, we’re OPEN! 💕

I’m all set up and ready to welcome you at tonight’s Rotisserie Chicken Confidence Tour – Houston!

I’m bringing all the good stuff to the table — encouragement, mindset tools, affirmation goodies, and products designed to remind you:

✨ You are enough.
✨ You deserve joy.
✨ Your growth matters.

Come dance, connect, laugh, shop, and pour a little love back into YOU.

📍 The Pole Experience — Houston, TX
🕠 Tonight | 5:30–7:00 PM

And of course… come find my table and say HI! I’d love to meet you, hear what you’re working toward, and send you home with something that speaks to where you are right now. 💗

Houston, I’m ready for you!

Your brain wants proof before it lets you try.

And that's part of why starting something new can feel SO uncomfortable.

Think about being pole-curious.

You might think:

“What if I'm not strong enough?”

“What if I can't do it?”

“What if I hate it?”

“What if I embarrass myself?”

Your brain wants an answer before you take the first step.

It wants certainty.

But here's the problem:

You can't get evidence for something you've never tried.

You don't know if you can do it…

because you haven't given yourself the opportunity to find out yet.

And this is where perfectionism and fear can team up.

Perfectionism says:

“Don't start until you know you'll be good at it.”

Fear says:

“Don't start because you might fail.”

And together?

They can keep you standing on the sidelines for a VERY long time.

But what if you stopped asking:

“Can I do this?”

And started asking:

“What's the smallest thing I can do to find out?”

Maybe that's watching a beginner pole class.

Maybe it's messaging a studio and asking a question.

Maybe it's signing up for an intro class.

Maybe it's simply walking into the studio and letting yourself be curious.

You don't have to make a giant decision today.

You just need to collect one tiny piece of evidence.

Because confidence isn't always:

“I know I can do this.”

Sometimes confidence starts as:

“I don't know yet. But I'm willing to find out.”

And that applies to WAY more than pole.

Your next career move.

A difficult conversation.

A creative idea.

Something you've wanted to try for years.

You don't need certainty before taking action.

Sometimes action is how you create certainty.

So here's your micro-challenge:

Think of one thing you've been saying “I don't know if I can…” about.

Then ask:

“What's one tiny experiment I could do to find out?”

Don't solve your whole life.

Just collect one piece of evidence.

You are allowed to be a beginner.

Not a good beginner.

Not a naturally talented beginner.

Not a beginner who somehow looks like she's been doing pole for three years after her first class.

Just…

a beginner.

You don't have to walk into your first pole class knowing what you're doing.

You don't have to be flexible.

You don't have to be strong.

You don't have to understand all the terminology.

You don't have to look confident.

And you definitely don't have to be good at it immediately.

You get to show up and say:

“I have no idea what I'm doing yet.”

That's not embarrassing.

That's honest.

And honestly? Every person who is good at something has been terrible at it first.

There was a version of them who couldn't do the thing.

Who fell.

Who forgot the steps.

Who watched someone else do it and thought,

“How the heck are they doing that?!”

The difference is…

they kept being a beginner long enough to stop being one.

And I think we forget that in the rest of our lives, too.

We want to be confident before we speak up.

Successful before we start.

Certain before we make a decision.

Experienced before we put ourselves out there.

But you don't become those things by waiting.

You become them by doing.

So if you've been telling yourself:

“I'm not a pole dancer.”

Maybe try:

“I'm learning pole.”

That's a much more spacious place to stand.

You don't have to decide today whether you'll be amazing at it.

You just have to give yourself permission to begin.

💛

What's one thing you'd try if you knew you were allowed to be a complete beginner?

Tell me below.

🚨 IT'S TIME TO CELEBRATE THE BLOOPER 🚨

Let's normalize something around here:

Being bad at something you're brand new at.

The weird faces.

The shaky legs.

The death grip.

The move that looked SO much better in your head.

The graceful dismount that was supposed to happen…

…but instead you basically just slid down the pole like a confused human noodle. 😂

Yep.

I want to see it.

Today I'm starting the Celebrate the Blooper Challenge.

Here's how it works:

🎥 Find a video of a pole attempt that didn't go according to plan.

It doesn't have to be dramatic.

It doesn't have to be an actual fall.

It can simply be a moment where you thought:

“Well… that wasn't it.”

Post it.

Celebrate it.

And tell us what you learned from it.

Because that blooper isn't proof that you aren't good at pole.

It's proof that you're learning pole.

And I want us to get better at celebrating the process instead of only celebrating the polished final result.

Because here's the bigger question:

Where else in your life are you hiding the messy attempts?

The job application that didn't work out.

The business idea that flopped.

The conversation that didn't go perfectly.

The first attempt at something you've always wanted to do.

What if those aren't embarrassing evidence of failure?

What if they're evidence that you're actually living, trying, learning, and growing?

So let's make imperfect progress a little less scary.

Your challenge:

Post your blooper.

Tag me so I can celebrate it with you.

And tell me:

What did this attempt teach you?

Let's see how many imperfect attempts we can celebrate this week. 💛