The Both/And Way
Retreats to bring you closer to loving, accepting and knowing yourself. Wellness coach specializing in families, addiction, parenting, and retreats. Join me.
The Both/And Way offers coaching, classes, and retreats for people who are seeking freedom from old patterns of thinking and behaving. The Both/And Way offers a new, more accepting way of viewing ourselves, others, and the world around us.
04/24/2026
Beltane is almost here 🔥✨
This ancient celebration — traditionally marked around May 1st — honors the fullness of spring: aliveness, creativity, and the kind of connection that reminds you what it feels like to be fully here.
Our May 9th Women’s One-Day Retreat is rooted in that same energy.
Because Beltane isn’t just a date on the calendar. It’s an invitation. To stop waiting for permission. To let what’s been quietly growing in you finally take up some space.
Through Parts Work (IFS) and SoulCollage, we’ll explore:
🌱 the parts that long to be expressed
🛡️ the protectors that keep things contained
✨ and the Self energy that can hold both
This is your Beltane ritual, if you want it — a day of gentle fire, creativity, and coming home to yourself.
Bel Air, MD | May 9th | 10 women only
đź”— Link in bio for all the details.
04/20/2026
What an amazing experience to watch a group gather as strangers, and through courage, conversation, and compassion, they become friends in a few short days. More than friends, really. A different kind of friendship, a different kind of community. Laughter and tears. And everyone blooms just a little, right before our eyes.
04/19/2026
What if you didn’t have to push for growth…but could let yourself bloom? 🌸
Women’s One-Day Retreat is happening Saturday, May 9th at a private home in Bel Air, MD — and it’s going to be a really good day.
We’ll be using Parts Work (IFS) and SoulCollage to get curious about the parts of us that learned to stay small. The one who waits. The one who dims. The one who says, “not yet.”
Not to fix them. Not to rush them.
Just to listen.
✨ 9:30am – 4:00pm ET
🏡 Private residence, Bel Air, MD
🍽️ Light breakfast + lunch included
đź‘Ż Only 10 spots available!
This is a space for soft openings, not performances. Come as you are.
đź”— Link in bio to reserve your spot.
04/17/2026
Watching flowers and women bloom right before my eyes. Grateful for this work, this earth, and the women courageous enough to gather and bloom!
03/20/2026
Have alter: will travel.
So happy to be spending this blessed spring equinox on the shores of Delaware to gather women together in circles of healing and laughing and crying and resting.
I hope whatever seeds you’re planting Ostara bring you whatever you’re hoping for!
“When I don’t know who I am, I serve you. When I know who I am, I am you!”
this blew my mind the first time I heard it. It’s on the Ram Dass documentary on Netflix called Going Home!
we truly are spiritual beings caught in this human body. It’s so hard to realize it. But if you ever had that moment, when you knew that everything in you was loved and everything and everyone else was loved and all is well. Even with all that that’s happening, it’s still perfect. How do we know it’s perfect? How do we know it’s just as it should be, because it is this way. You can’t argue the fact that what is happening is happening. If there’s something you can do to bring more love to it, do it. But if not, stop struggling. Or at least know there is a way to try to stop struggling.
I still struggle. Even though I know the answer to not struggle. Because, I am still in this human form.
Sending you so much love and peace.
It cracks me up when I look at my body from a couple of years ago, where I was thinner and I think how great I looked back then.
And then I remember how I never was happy with my body ever! Not ever!
And certainly that has to do with my own internal system of comparing and self hatred I brought from childhood trauma
But I think it’s a bigger systemic problem as well.
I don’t think we’re called to be healthy, I think we’re called to be thin!
And bodies are all different. Being thin does not always mean you’re healthy.
And I’ve been able to keep a decent weight and eat pretty much how I wanted my whole life. Some of that is shifting now that I’m in my 60s, but I also don’t wanna live the last third of my life, restricting and dieting and trying to shape myself into something that’s just not natural for my own body.
i’d love to hear your thoughts. And I’m not an expert on talking about this so if I’ve offended you, I would love to hear your thoughts so I can learn and grow from it.
# Healthatanysize
03/13/2026
Check out my essay companion to my video from yesterday. I'd love to here your thoughts. The substack link is in the comments!
I know you’re used to me talking about meditation and peace. But between the crazy men destroying the world and the men we have to contend with every day, I got a little enraged.
I also found it so interesting that the minute an older woman gave this dude a side eye, he totally stopped talking to her.
He knew. They know.
it’s not enough to not be creepy, you have got to have boundaries. **kthepatriarchy
03/10/2026
Do you ever wonder what actually happens on Retreat?
It’s not a spa weekend. It’s not a lecture series
It’s this: flowers on the table, women sitting in a healing circle together, sound bowls, collage, laughter, tears, and the kind of illness you can’t find in your regular life.
We use IFS, Mindfulness, and Nature, to go inward gently, together. And somehow, in just a few days, something shifts.
The April Retreat has three spots left, sign up deadline is right around the corner.
Oh, did I mention, we have gentle yoga, yoga, Nidra, and sound healing?
If you’ve been curious, swipe through and let yourself imagine being here.
Link in bio to learn more. DM’s open if you have questions.
03/10/2026
Ever wonder when actually happens on a retreat?👇
It’s not a spot weekend. It’s not a lecture series.
It’s this, flowers on the table, women sitting on the floor together, sand, bowls, collage, laughter, tears, and the kind of illness you can’t find in your regular life.
We use IFS and mindfulness to go inward, gently together and somehow in just a few days something shifts.
The April Retreat has three spots left. Sign up deadline is almost here.
If you’ve been curious, swipe through and let yourself imagine being here.
Link in bio to learn more.DMs open for questions.
Oh, and they’re also is a spa day included. Indoor pool, cold plunge, sauna, steam room. Did I mention gentle, yoga, and yoga, Nidra and sound healing? What are you waiting for?
03/09/2026
Monday Musings! I'd love to hear your thoughts!
xoxoxo
Standing in the Doorway On liminal seasons, guilty joy, and the time change nobody asked for
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