DisaSTAR

Trauma bonds are wild like that. How does she crave the same person who shattered her? One moment, she’s ready to expose him, block him, disappear completely—draw a line so firm it can never be crossed again. She swears this is the end, that she’s finally choosing herself. Then the silence hits. The memories creep in, soft and deceptive. And suddenly, all she wants is his arms around her, pretending none of it ever happened—like love didn’t come wrapped in pain.

updating your partner is the most important thing in a relationship. being busy is not a reason not to update your partner that took hours waiting for your response or updates. entering a relationship is a big responsibility and if you can't handle the bare minimum he or she asks for, then don't enter a relationship. a real man or woman, no matter how busy he or she is, he or she will grab the opportunity to update you, because that's how relationship works.

gusto ko din maranasan yung feeling na hinahanap yung presence ko kapag hindi ako nag cha-chat yung tipong kinukulit ako kung bat ang tagal ko magreply o di kaya tatadtarin ng messages pag offline, never ko pa kasing naranasan yun kasi kadalasan ako ang gumagawa.

yung trauma ng babae hindi agad nag hi heal yan, trauma doesn’t have a deadline. hindi yan porket nag sorry ka eh okay na. hindi yan “ang tagal na, move on ka na.” healing isn’t about time. it’s about what still lingers. may mga araw na okay ka, then one memory hits and suddenly you’re back there again. hindi porket hindi mo naranasan or hindi mabigat para sa’yo, magiging madali na rin para sa iba. we all heal differently. some of us look strong, but still get triggered in silence. so be gentle because not everything you don’t understand is easy for someone else.

i pray for a man who will peel oranges for me, not because i asked, but because he simply loves me. someone who notices the little things, who carries my bag when my shoulders are tired, who puts my shoes on, combs my hair, and takes the weight off me. ive been peeling my own oranges for so long, carrying pain & heavy burdens i never asked for. so i pray that even when life gets hard, i fnd a man who makes it feel lighter, not heavier. someone who doesnt add to my struggles, but becomes my peace.

I’m not even gonna lie… I like a little clingy.😏 I like the good morning texts when I wake up and the goodnight texts before I go to sleep. I like the random “I miss you” messages that come out of nowhere. I like calls just because. Double texts don’t bother me. I like feeling like someone actually wants to talk to me… not like I’m bothering them. It’s not about being needy. It’s about feeling noticed. Feeling wanted. Feeling like someone genuinely cares enough to show it.

CHOOSE A PARTNER WHO CAN FACE PROBLEMS, NOT RUN FROM THEM.
Real maturity looks like sitting at the table and saying. Okay, this is what's wrong, and this is how we fix it together.* Not disappearing. Not shutting down. Not leaving you alone with your thoughts while you're up late hurting in silence. Love isn't someone pulling away every time things get uncomfortable it's someone leaning in when it's hard. If you're crying yourself to sleep while they create distance, that's not peace, that's emotional abandonment. The right partner won't make you feel alone in the relationship. They'll fight the problem with you, not make you fight it by yourself.

You deserve someone who says,
“I’m here. I’m not leaving.”
and means it.

Forget about sleeping together. The real question is, can you still love her when she's overthinking, sending you 10 messages in a row because she needs reassurance? Can you support her when she's anxiously making sure she's still wanted, and that you won't leave her? CAN YOU?