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Do you owe your ex for student loan payments?

Most people know that relationship property is usually divided 50/50 after separation.

But student loans are different.

Unlike mortgages, credit cards, or car loans, student loans are usually considered personal debt, not shared relationship debt. That means the person who took out the loan normally remains responsible for it.

However, things can get complicated.

If a student loan existed before the relationship but was repaid during the relationship using shared income, the other partner may be able to ask for compensation.

And in some situations, student loans taken out during the relationship may partly benefit the relationship or family.

It is one of those surprisingly tricky issues that can cause tension during separation.

Want to understand how student loans are treated under New Zealand relationship property law (and what the courts have said about it)?

Read the full blog here:
https://www.cleanbreak.co.nz/2024/11/04/do-you-owe-your-ex-for-student-loan-payments

If you’ve felt foggy, reactive, forgetful, or completely unlike yourself lately, that’s not a personal failure. It’s biology.

When a relationship ends, your brain treats it like a threat. Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline surge. Helpful if you are escaping danger. Not so helpful when you are reading legal emails. The logical part of your brain goes quieter and your alarm system gets louder.

That’s why you might:
• Overreact to messages
• Feel stuck making decisions
• Assume the worst
• Struggle to concentrate

Add grief, even if you chose the separation, and it’s a lot.

You’re not broken. Your nervous system is doing its job.

The key is supporting it. Take breaks, move your body, breathe slowly, write things down, and try not to make big decisions in peak emotion.

Separation isn’t just legal. It’s neurological. And understanding that can change everything.

Did you know the warning signs of a potentially abusive relationship, look a lot like a Hollywood love story at the start?

Welcome to love bombing.

Some signs to look out for:
• Intense declarations of love very early on
• Pressure to commit quickly
• Constant texts, gifts or attention that feels overwhelming
• Feeling guilty for wanting space
• Affection that suddenly turns into criticism or distance

If this sounds familiar in your own relationship, or in the relationship of someone you care about, know that support is available.

💜 Call Shine's free, confidential 24/7 helpline on 0508 744 633.

You deserve a relationship where love feels safe, steady, and respectful.

Read the full blog here → https://www.cleanbreak.co.nz/2026/02/09/love-bombing/

Let's be honest...meeting with a lawyer can feel scary.

You might be worried about being judged. You might not know what questions to ask. You might be wondering how much it's going to cost, or whether you're making the right decision.

We get it. That's why we've built Clean Break to feel different.

💛 Talk to us for free first if you're not sure we're the right fit.
📚 Access free resources so you know what to expect before you even walk through the door.
🤝 No pressure to continue after your first appointment if all you needed was some guidance.
💲 Transparent pricing with fixed-fee options wherever possible.
✅ A 30-day money-back guarantee because choosing a lawyer shouldn't feel like a gamble.

Our goal isn't just to help you through your separation. It's to help you feel supported from the very first conversation.

Find out more at cleanbreak.co.nz

When you're going through a separation, you need more than legal advice. You need someone who listens, explains things clearly, and helps you feel steady again.

At Clean Break, we make space for the hard conversations, the big emotions, and the practical steps forward.

Because you deserve support that sees the whole picture. 💛

❤️ We never expect love to end.

But after helping hundreds of people through separation, there's one thing Sarah Moon wishes more people knew:

Having a plan doesn't mean you're expecting the relationship to fail. It means you're protecting yourself, your partner, and your peace of mind.

In this blog, Sarah explores why asking the "what if?" questions can actually help you love more freely.

Read the full blog here: https://www.cleanbreak.co.nz/2026/05/20/plan-like-it-might-end-love-like-it-wont/

Plan Like It Might End. Love Like It Won’t Love is beautiful. So is a safety net. Why emotional and financial clarity matters in strong relationships too.

You can be separated without moving out.

The law doesn't require separate houses. It requires a relationship that has ended.

Some signs that a couple has separated under one roof include:

• Sleeping in separate bedrooms
• No longer living as a couple socially
• Managing day-to-day life separately
• A change in household responsibilities
• Communicating that the relationship is over
• Beginning to untangle finances

Why does this matter?

Because your separation date can affect:

🏠 Relationship property
💰 Post-separation claims
📅 When you can apply for divorce

If you're separating under one roof, getting clear on the date early can save a lot of stress later.