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Mistakes Singles Make To Get Married.
1. My best friend got married
When one of your girlfriends is saying I do, you may feel doubtful about yourself. However, don’t let this push you into saying ‘yes’ if you are not emotionally ready for it. Marriage is a big decision, and it’s important to analyze the advantages and disadvantages. before you jump into it.
2. We have been dating for years:
The fact that you and your boyfriend have been in a relationship for many years does not automatically make you the next couple at the altar. He my have asked you to marry him and you want, more than anything, to day yes. Have a discussion with him and let him know that you need more time to prepare Talk to him and explain that you need more time to prepare yourself to be a wife and both of you have to agree on several issues that will come up after the wedding.
3. My parents are pressurizing me
Most of our parents want to see us get married, they crave for grandchildren and even though they desired you to finish school and be a successful woman, when all that is done, they silently say, it is time you introduced someone. Don’t let them make you settle for just anyone.Do it when you are ready and at your own time.
4. Your biological clock is ticking
It may have come from your friends, family or relatives. The pushing and insinuating that time is running out. Your young sisters may be married already but that should not make you feel ashamed and desperate. Look into your finances and job security before you decide on anything.
5. Marriage will solve my problems
It is almost laughable to think that anyone will think like this. If your life is going downhill for some reason, maybe you are not enjoying what you do career wise,you are at odds with your friends or you are just not happy, marriage will not make anything fall into place. No one and nothing like marriage will better your life in that way. You will bring your frustrations into a blessed marriage and to an innocent man, that will turn into a huge mess in no time. Sort out your issues instead of transferring them. Because you are going to destroy not only you but everything in your wake. Once your mind is at peace, you can plan your marriage.
God has a Plan for you.

In your life, you may at times feel you have worked so hard, and you have done every single thing you could in your power to earn your way and be a good person. You have given and given and given — trying never to keep a score or be a burden to others. You tried so hard to be selfless and tried to believe that good people are rewarded in the end. You turned your doubts into faith and your anger into love after endless failures and betrayals. You pressed forward with positivity. But, maybe things have not turned out the way you had hoped yet, and you have found yourself in a low place. You looked around and said, "I have helped people, who will help me? I have been so good." In these moments, it is tempting to ask, "where is my break; what about karma or God — does anyone care? Is everything in life for nothing? Is any of it worth it?" It is so easy to want to give up in times of failure and disappointment in what seems like an endless struggle. We can become depressed and dis-couraged, which means we have lost our courage.

"The word 'courage' comes from the Latin word 'cor' which means heart. So, discouragement is taking the heart out of something, encouragement is to provide heart, raise the spirits, to hearten."
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In painful moments of dire discouragement, please know that your soul has a resiliency and a capacity to endure suffering that is beyond anything you can imagine. Even the softest and sweetest heart was made by design for extreme battle. Make no mistake about it, no matter how kind, meek, humble and soft your giving heart is — you are a warrior! Your strength is beyond your own imagination. The further you are challenged and threatened, the more your warrior heart will emerge. When you are backed into a corner, or someone you love is suffering, or you are hanging by your fingernails over the edge of ruin with the cold, hungry abyss peering into your soul — the super-human occurs. Billions of years of dormant survival intelligence will erupt from every pore. You don't have to be strong, because the strength is in you; it's in your DNA, in your soul and your essence. You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you are in desperate need. So, do not despair. Have faith. It is going to work out, and you will be delivered. You have the heart of a warrior, and you were designed to survive!

"Don't give up on yourself. We all have the power to outshine and overcome our sorrows. Let this be the day you take a stand and believe you are indestructible.

The beauty of our relationship is that although we don’t agree on many things we still crave to be together. Despite all our fights on silly things we are so crazy about each other. We have different tastes for everything but we are so utterly passionate about each other. We are two different personalities but so in love with each others soul.

Don’t let rude people ruin you. No matter how much negativity is thrown at you by others, there is absolutely no need for you to stay put and partake in the decay they choose for their own lives. YOU decide how your soul grows.
Because the truth is that what people say and do to you is much more about them, than you. People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences. Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them. I’m not suggesting we should be narcissists and ignore all feedback. I am saying that so much hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives comes from our taking things personally. In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinion of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.

So stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own. Instead, imagine what would happen if you spent this entire day, and every day hereafter, with all your energy directed toward your most positive possibilities. Rather than being annoyed, be amused. Instead of getting angry, get away. Life is too short to argue, fight or be negative in any way. Count your blessings and move on from the drama with your head held high.

We have all been there. No one is immune from a broken heart.

At some time in our lives someone hurts us, or we hurt them, and we feel like rolling into a little ball on the floor in a heap of tears.

God never promised that life would be easy, or that life would be free from pain, but He has promised that He will always be there when you need Him. He longs to cradle your brow…He wants you to tell Him just how you feel. It does not matter how bad you might have been, or for how long you might have ignored Him. Right now, speak to your heavenly Father, tell Him how much it hurts, unburden your sad heart to Him, and you will surely feel His love filling the aching void that has been left in your life.

You are the forward edge of life's advancement; in this moment in time you are the finest expression of life's brilliance. All of history has pointed its refining focus to your life this moment. You are the culmination of all that ever was. You are the highest point of the vast pyramid of history and of your own life. Eons of suffering, brutality and struggle have paved the way through the corridors of time to create this moment, where you exist as an exalted expression of life. Life is ever reaching for strength, vitality, survival and the fulfillment of perpetuating its inherent message of continuance. You are that reach! Nature has placed you on the throne of royalty as the heir of all life that preceded you. Did you not inherit the Earth and all of life? You are the grand estate and administrator of — now. Do not squander your endowment. Dare not surrender to weakness you divine creation! Stand-up! You are the apex, the zenith, and the capstone. Your power and brilliance is the most awesome force life could muster. Do not forget or take for granted the splendor of your majesty. Your mind, your motion and your expression is an animation to marvel and to praise. All of life and history is holding you on its shoulders so you can stretch one atom further. Seize this moment and feel the glory of life's gift coursing in your deepest sinews. Relish in this moment. Be astounded. You are nothing less than a miracle!

"A soul who can be amazed is most likely a soul who amazes others. It is because you are astounded that you are astounding. It's called gratitude.

With Ayuba Magaji Betimaniu Gayawan – I'm on a streak! I've been a top fan for 5 months in a row. 🎉

Everyone has dreams and aspirations, and yet most of us in life will never see them through. Perhaps it’s due to being afraid of failure, unprecedented circumstances, or even death. And the ones who do achieve their dreams? Most are often left unfulfilled, wandering aimlessly and confused — why?

Because dreams are meant to be dreams, they’re supposed to be unattainable. That’s why they’re dreams, right?

Wrong.

Here are 5 terrible excuses for letting your dreams go.

1. You think you’re not good enough.

Yes, everyone has that little voice in their head screaming that they’re pathetic, a failure, and worthless. Sometimes, you believe you’ve created the best thing that’s ever been on earth, and the next day you are wondering how in the world you managed to create such a piece of dirt.

Well, there are many things that science has told us about that little voice. For one, it was originally used as a means of comfort and security. Yes, I know, that voice that calls you ugly and worthless was intended to be helpful, not harmful. And it’s not like you can tie it up, put some tape on its mouth, and throw it in the corner. But let’s face it, that voice is one of the best things we can have. It will tell us over and over when something isn’t good enough, and that’s us.

We know our limits, and so do our minds. So, the next time you hear that little old brain of yours telling you that your piece of art/literature/acting/athletics is terrible, think of it as a way of your brain saying this: I can do better, I know I can. I can succeed in my dreams.

2. You say you “don’t have enough time.”

I’m going to say this once: dreams are meant to be taken and worked on. And if you don’t have enough time for something you’re passionate about, then you truly never were that passionate about it.

Successful people make time, and if you’re one of those people who are constantly on Facebook, Instagram, or Tumblr, grab a stopwatch and start counting the minutes. When you decide that you’re going to sit down and watch TV, start counting the minutes. A recent study from The Telegraph shows us that the average person spends an hour and forty minutes on social media each day — and you still say you have no time?

If you truly have no time, no time in the world to do what you love, drop what you don’t like and start doing what you love. Yes, you might make a little less money, you might not be able to go to the gym, you might not be able to do certain things you like, but you will be able to do the thing you love and pursue your dream. You have one life, so what do you have to lose to go after a dream? Nothing.

3. Your peers think otherwise.

“Hey, Jenny, heard you want to be a writer. Good luck with that — you can’t write, and becoming a successful author is, like, super hard, so come party instead.”

Everyone has that one person who will stop at nothing to put down their dreams, their aspirations. These people believe that in life, you have to be a realist. Being an artist doesn’t pay bills, neither does being a writer. What pays bills is working a 9-to-5 job that you might hate, and for what? A nice car, a nice house, a nice job, some status? But what about that dream? What about that dream to be a writer, to publish work?

You know, I can tell you something, something that’s a fact. If you worked a 9-to-5 job and died tomorrow, what would happen? Someone would come and take your place, people would mourn, and that would be it. Your life as a blip in the earth’s existence. Forgotten. However, if you go out there in that big world and attempt to make something of your dream, you will be more successful than any other millenial who worked all day in a job they despised. Whether it’s being a dancer, being an athlete, being a writer — you have the chance of never being forgotten. The chance of your name to be written on a great piece of work, in a record book, in an amazing play. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. So go for it.

To quote Alan watts: What would you do, if money was no object?

Do it.

4. You say, “I’m not quite ready yet.”

It takes a lot of courage to chase a dream. That becomes more evident when you sacrifice family time, your lifestyle, your hobbies, your finances, and even risk losing everything. Now, I’m not saying go out and quit your job, burn your bridges, destroy your foundations. What I am saying is to rediscover that passion, that eternal flame that is within all of us to chase our dreams, because you only have one life.

With every day that passes, you are the oldest you’ve ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be again. Time will run from you, and I hear a lot of, “I’m not quite ready yet” or “I’m too young, I don’t have enough experience.” That is bologna. I will say this time and time again: you don’t wait for opportunity, you create your opportunity. You build your bridges, and I’ll be damned if there is a path that leads to success that is covered in debris, fallen down and broken — you’d better get ready to clear it. Because you are ready. You will make yourself ready.

5. You lie to yourself.

Being honest to yourself is one of the hardest things to do in life. People do not like disappointments, and when you are striving to be successful, you always hear the words, “I’m doing my best,” “I work my butt off,” and “I’m always busy.”

People like to proclaim self-greatness. But it’s always good to understand you aren’t the best — yet. I’ll give you an example. My dream is to become a writer, and when I was younger, I used to claim that I didn’t read books because I thought all the stories were pointless and I didn’t like the way other writers wrote. Well, I was lying to myself, and had convinced myself of this lie. The reality was that I believed I wrote the best and had the talent to be the greatest — I still do, but in a much humbler way. I stepped back and told myself that I am nothing but dirt right now. That in order for me to grow, I must learn from the best. I picked up many novels by Stephen King. I don’t like his novels greatly — some I love, most I like. But he is argueably the most popular and well-known writer there is. I stopped seeing myself as someone who can contribute to the world of literature, and starting seeing myself in my true form: as an apprentice, learning on his own through self-education.

So, stop with the excuses and go out there and change the world.

DON'T LET OTHERS HOLD YOU BACK!
Joseph's brothers resented his dream,so they sold him into slavery. David's family didn't consider him worthy of being king. The people who knew Jesus during His first 30 years said: '...."Where did this Man get this wisdom and these mighty works? Is this not the carpenter's son?"... So they were offended at Him...' (matt 13:54-57). You must realise that some of the people who knew you 'way back when' don't know you now,because they've 'pigeonholed you'. What should you do?
Do what Jesus did-He moved on. What else could He do? He refused to allow others to keep Him stuck at a stage in His life that was past and gone,and you have got to do the same. If you allow others to keep taking you down memory lane you'll eventually set up house,stay longer than you should and miss your God-given destiny. It's wonderful to have people in your life who know where you've been and can relate to where you're going. However,if you have to choose between then and now,sacrifice then,for it can't be rewritten,only replayed over and over. Stop rehearsing your beginnings and write the rest of the story. The future is yours- seize it while you can. There's a story of a hacker on a golf course who kept swinging at the ball and missing,repeatedly hitting an ant hill. Finally one ant took charge and said, "Follow me." Another ant yelled, "But where are we going?" He pointed to the ball sitting in front of them. "There. If we don't get on the ball we're going to die!"