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BEST OF YOU

I want to smile again, without feeling guilty.
I want to miss you, without coming undone.
I want to celebrate your life,
without my heart breaking.

If there’s a good side of grief, I’ve yet to reach it. It’s not getting any easier. Time isn’t helping. Some days I feel as if the pain deepens.
The roads ahead seem longer without you walking them beside me.
It’s like I’m resistant to joy.
Pushing back against my own happiness.
I’m afraid that healing means forgetting,
and I’m not ready to leave.
Let me sit here for a little while longer.
There are things I needed to tell you
that I never got the chance to.
Things you deserved to hear....
I’m sorry.
I’m sorry for not doing more.
If it was possible to bear your pain,
I would have.
Even when distant, my world was better because you were in it.
I was always proud of you.
My love for you is constant,
unconditional, eternal.
There are pieces of you I’m discovering in me. Little gifts you unknowingly left behind.
Even your absence is filled with moments worth revisiting.
Maybe instead of learning how to live without you, I’ll just bring the best of you with me.
Maybe we're not meant to move on,
we're meant to move with.

WHEN I AM GONE
When I leave, I don't want you to be too sad. Stay silent, save the words, and remember the happy moments that warm the soul. When I fall asleep, let me rest. I'm gone for a reason. If you miss me, don't say anything. In silence, look for my presence in my house, my books, my letters, and my photos, as well as in those papers that I wrote in a hurry.
Wear my shirts, my sweater, and my jacket. Walk in my shoes. My room is yours, as are my pillow and my bed. If it's cold, wrap yourself in my scarves. Enjoy the chocolate and wine I left. Listen to that song I loved so much, use my perfume, and take care of my plants.
If they bury my body, don't be afraid. Run free and let your tears flow. Let the wind caress your face. Feel the poetry, music, and singing. Kiss the earth, drink the water, and learn the language of the birds. If you miss me deeply, try to hide it and look for me in the children, the coffee, the radio, and those places where I used to hide. Never say the word 'death.' Sometimes being forgotten is sadder than dying many times and still being remembered.
When I fall asleep, bring flowers to my grave and shout with all your might that life goes on. The flame of life does not go out just because I am not there. Those who "live" never die completely; they only fall asleep momentarily. Eternal sleep is just an excuse.
When I leave, extend your hand, and you will feel my touch. You will know that I will always be by your side. And one day, with a smile, you will feel that I have returned to stay with you forever..

A woman can sense when a man's energy is going towards other women.

So, dear man,

If she stays with you out of insecurity, trauma, or fear of losing you, understand this: women are wise. She may not always speak it, but her soul feels the shift. Her intuition, her deepest connection to herself, is her gift, and it’s sharper than you might think. You may believe your distractions are unnoticed, but her silence is often louder than your words.

When you share your energy with someone else, even subtly, you fracture the trust she has placed in you. It’s not just the physical act that wounds her; it’s the lack of focus on her, the emotional absence, the unspoken withdrawal that speaks volumes. Women thrive in relationships where they feel seen, valued, and prioritized. The moment she senses otherwise, her heart begins to question, even if her words don’t.

It’s not her insecurities that make her notice these things—it’s her wisdom. Women are deeply intuitive beings, often sacrificing their own well-being for love, holding on even when they know something is wrong. If she stays despite sensing your divided energy, she’s likely holding on to the hope that the man she fell for will return, that you will refocus on her, that your partnership can heal.

But be mindful, dear man, because every time you allow your energy to stray, you chip away at the foundation of the relationship. Trust, once broken, is hard to rebuild. A woman may forgive, but forgetting is another story. She remembers the times she felt abandoned, even when you were physically present but emotionally distant.

Understand this: a woman’s love is vast and enduring, but it is not endless. There is a point where she will choose herself over the pain. When she does, it’s not because she didn’t love you; it’s because she finally realized she deserved more. Women who heal from trauma and insecurity eventually find their strength, and that strength teaches them how to walk away from half-hearted love.

If you truly care for her, let your actions show it. Don’t let her feel like she’s competing for your attention—not with another woman, not with your work, not with your distractions. A woman in love wants to feel like the center of your world, just as you are for her. Show her that she is irreplaceable, not because you say it but because you live it.

When a woman senses your full presence, it changes everything. Her heart softens, her trust deepens, and her love for you flourishes. Women are nurturers by nature, but they can only nurture a relationship that feels safe, secure, and whole.

Think of the times she chose you over her fears, over her doubts, over her pain. She didn’t have to stay, but she did. Honor her choice by showing up fully. Let her know that your energy belongs to her and her alone. A woman who feels cherished and prioritized will give you a love that no one else can match.

But if you allow your energy to drift, don’t be surprised if one day she decides to reclaim her own. A woman who truly loves you will fight for you, but she will not fight against your lack of focus or respect forever. She will eventually choose peace over the chaos of your divided energy.

Dear man, if you value the woman in your life, align your words, actions, and energy with her. Let her feel your devotion, not your distractions. She deserves nothing less. And if you are not ready to commit fully, be honest with her, because she will eventually sense the truth anyway.

Women are not just wise—they are resilient. They can rebuild their lives without you. But if you hold her heart, make sure you honor it. It’s a privilege, not a given, to be loved by a woman.

Cherish her, protect her, and most importantly, choose her. Every day, in every way. Let your energy reflect the love you promised her. That is the foundation of a love that lasts.

The greatest gift you will ever offer someone is far more precious than anything wrapped in ribbon or bought with wealth. It’s the silent permission you give them to feel safe in their own skin, to breathe without fear, and to embrace their true essence without the need to shrink or apologize. It’s the quiet, unspoken acknowledgment that they are worthy, not because of what they do, but because of who they are, in all their imperfect, raw humanity.
To gift someone the feeling of being enough is to hold up a mirror not to what they lack but to the brilliance they already possess. It is to strip away the layers of doubt and insecurity that the world has cast upon them, allowing them to see themselves clearly for the first time, radiant and whole. They no longer need to strive or perform in your presence, for you have created a space where their soul can rest, where they are loved for simply being.
This gift is not loud or grand; it doesn’t announce itself with fanfare. It is a whisper in the quiet moments, a gentle reassurance when their confidence wavers, a steady hand when they feel unsteady. You give them permission to stand tall in their own truth, knowing that they are not too much or too little. They are, and profoundly, enough.
When you offer this gift, you become the light in their darkest corners, the warmth in their coldest doubts. You become the one who sees them, truly sees them, beyond the masks they wear for the world. And in your seeing, they begin to believe in themselves again, trust in their own worthiness, and know that they don’t have to earn love—they already deserve it.
This is the gift that changes everything. It is the gift of belonging, of being seen and held without judgment, of being allowed to take up space in the world as they are. In giving this gift, you are telling them, with every action and word, that they are whole, worthy, and enough. And that is a gift that no one can take away.

TWO THINGS CAN HAPPEN WHEN YOU BREAK UP:

FIRST:
They'll find a way to make it work. They'll reach out, show effort, and prove that they don’t want to lose you. They’ll do everything to fix the relationship because they love you and can’t imagine letting go.

SECOND:
They’ll quietly disappear. The truth is, they’ve just been waiting for you to let go first. Maybe they already have other plans or someone else in mind, which is why they’re not making any effort to fight for you.

So what should you do?
Let them go. Give them space to figure out what they really want. Don’t force yourself on someone who’s no longer choosing your love.

And if they manage to live without you in their life, then you already have your answer: they don’t love you. They stayed before because they needed you, but now, you’ve become an option they no longer care for.

Don’t waste your time on someone who can’t fight for your worth.

14 WAYS TO DEAL WITH SILENT TREATMENT

The silent treatment is a refusal to verbally communicate with your spouse, often as a means of punishment, emotional manipulation, or control.

The silent treatment is a manipulation tactic that can leave important issues in a relationship/Marriage unresolved. It also can leave the spouse on the receiving end feeling worthless, unloved, hurt, confused, frustrated, angry, and unimportant.

Silent treatment is one of the greatest killers of communication in marriage, it solves nothing and only pushes you two apart

Shutting your spouse out and refusing to engage in talks to demonstrate how mad you are only works against your marriage.

You will have your silent way but your issues don't get resolved and can lead to almost permanent damage

Irrespective of your fights, communication shouldn't be on hold.

No matter the gravity of your misunderstanding, communication should resume without lingered hurts.

Emotional connection is one of the best way to bond with your spouse.

When you spouse disconnects from you emotionally, it will affect every area of your marriage, especially your sexual life.

WHAT TO DO!

1. Don’t assume you know the reason for the silent treatment.

The first step to handling the silent treatment is to figure out why your partner is being silent. Is it because they are feeling hurt and don’t know how to express their feelings? Or are they using silence as a form of punishment or retribution?

Look for the reasons behind the silent treatment.

Once you’ve identified the reason behind their silence, you can start to work towards finding a solution.

People who give the silent treatment aren’t always doing it out of malice.

They may have trouble expressing themselves, especially when it comes to negative emotions like anger and grief. They may also be afraid of how you might react knowing how they really feel or think.

2. Explain to your Silent Spouse your need and desire to communicate.
The most important thing you can do when dealing with the silent treatment is to have a conversations with your spouse.

3. Be ready to listen, not just talk.

Getting the silent treatment might trigger anger in you too and you may lose control over your tone. This will defeat the purpose of your conversation.

Try to stay calm and avoid becoming defensive. Focus on listening to your partner's concerns and working together to find a solution.

Do not interrupt. They are likely going to clam up if they sense that you are just looking to fight and take the floor. We often fail to realize where we stopped listening.

4. Try to show empathy instead of winning sympathy from your Silent Spouse.

Acknowledge your spouse's emotions even if you are not the recipient of the silent treatment. Try to validate their experience. It lays the foundation for comfort, openness, and trust signaling towards the fact that you genuinely care about their feelings.

5. Do Not Try To Win the Silent Treatment:

You need to realize that there is no winning or losing when dealing with the silent treatment. It should not be a blame game. Your goal should be to resolve the issue once and for all.

However, both parties should realize their mistakes and make it a point that they do not repeat them.

6. Share your feelings with them.
As you invite them to talk directly with you, let them know the impact their withdrawal has on you. You might say something like this: “I’ve noticed that something seems to be bothering you. You seem to have withdrawn. I want to invite you to talk directly to me about whatever is troubling you. I also want to let you know that I find your prolonged silence to be very hurtful.”

7. Be willing to let go of your grudge.

Grudges can be devastating. Irrespective of which end of the silent treatment you are on, always be ready to ask and offer forgiveness.

If you are someone who has never apologized to your spouse, try it. You will feel so much lighter when your part of the job is done.

8. Make time.
Getting a silent spouse talking takes time. And you might need to schedule time where you can just be alone. If you’re not in the habit already, this might be a good reason to start making date nights to have some time away from kids and work and everyday stuff to focus on communicating.

9. Be ready to ask for forgiveness.
Sometimes the silence comes from an unspoken hurt you’re unaware of causing. If it surfaces, don’t be defensive, but be willing to evaluate it and own it. Asking for forgiveness in a meaningful way can be a powerful help to a marriage

10. Be ready to offer forgiveness.
Sometimes silence comes from your spouse’s guilt or shame. If this surfaces, having a forgiving heart may be just what’s needed to open up the gates of meaningful conversation again with your spouse. Forgiveness is a decision. When you really forgive someone, you are making a decision to release, embrace, pardon, and grow.

11. Don’t give up.
Complacency is so destructive in marriage. If you are feeling worn down by the loneliness and the silence, find Christian friends who will encourage you and hold you up.

12. Have a meeting with a Therapist
If you're struggling to resolve the situation on your own, it may be helpful to seek outside help from a therapist or relationship counselor.

13. Above all, Pray for your spouse. Tell God about this issue of concern and He will step into your marriage

14. In summary, silence is a particularly painful weapon and has no place in a healthy relationship. Taking a time out, agreed upon by both people, can be an effective way to get space to reflect, pray and consider a healthy response. You should allow for ‘time outs’ and must agree that ‘the silent treatment’ will never be tolerated.

“Forgive me for leaving without saying goodbye, but maybe this way is easier.

I don’t want you to see what is happening to me. I want you to only remember the times when we were together.

I hoped I could stay longer. There were so many things we could have done together. I will never forget how you opened my heart. I felt so alive with you, more than I ever dreamed I could.

I am not afraid. You see, fate brought us together. One day, we will be together again. I hope this with all my heart.

Until then, I want you to live your dreams. Listen to your heart and live with love. And when you leave this shadow world, come and find me.

I will be waiting for you. 🥀🌷

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“I can’t give you rainbows without my storms. There’s no sunshine without my hurricanes. My love, there will be days when I am the hardest person to choose, when I can be the most distant human being but trust me when I say that those are also the days I will be needing all your love. Staying with me isn’t always a paradise. Most days are just ugly and unbearable.
I wish you’d choose me still.
I hope to overcome these struggles with you because, after all, I’d do the same for you.”

I want to work this out with you. I don't want to find you in another universe. I don't want to meet you in a parallel galaxy, in the afterlife, or at another time. I don't want you to be my what-if, my greatest love that got away, or my right-person-wrong time. I don't want to spend my days searching for a love like yours. I do not want to give my heart to anyone else. I do not want to begin again, get to know a soul again, and pour out my all again.

I want to work this out with you. I want my poetries to be about your entirety. I want my future to be filled with ours. I want my years to be yours.I want to argue, make up, and be close to you. I want to share silence, buy groceries, and build a home with you. I want to trace stars, reach dreams, and share victories with you.Heaven and parallel universes are not promised. I only have this one chance.

And my love, I want us to end up in this lifetime."

HOPE SAY YOUR MAMA DON CHOP OO🙏