The #ActuallyAutistic Coach

nothing is more exhausting than allistic people lecturing autistic people about how hard we make their lives.
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A lot of people think growth as an autistic adult means no meltdowns - no shutdowns - no overwhelm - no dysregulation

But I think growth looks more like recognising them earlier, recovering smoother, and not hating yourself after

That’s real growth and I think more sustainable and realistic

If your only way to be accepted is to be understood than you will always be performing.

Real connection is when you’re not fully understood and still treated with respect and receive love.

what have been the experiences of my autistic comrades with psychotherapy?

Short term satisfaction and dopamine hits feel good right now.

But the aftermath often looks different.

How can we balance that need with the need for long term stability?

What’s something you were told was a “social skill” that actually made your life worse as an autistic adult?

I have a long list.

do my fellow autistic comrades feel unheard?

unseen?

both?

A lot of autistic adults say that they don’t have meltdowns

What they mean is that they learned how to hide them.

And not even know.

Years of…

“Don’t overreact.”

“Calm down.”

“Stop being difficult.”

It conditions us to mask them.

And not realise what’s even happening.
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I host a monthly space on zoom for autistic folx to meet and discuss the hard things that so many of us don’t have anyone to talk about with.

This month we will be delving into autistic masking.

Free Autism Discussion & Affirmation Circles | Autistic Support Group Online | Free Support Group for Autistic Adults — The Autistic Coach The Autistic Coach hosts free online discussion circles for autistic and AuDHD adults worldwide. Led by an autistic coach, these virtual spaces provide connection, reflection, and open conversation on masking, burnout, needs, and boundaries. Inclusive, neuro-affirming, and community-focused, the cir

A lot of autistics say they “just shut down”

What we mean is that our system hits capacity.

It doesn’t look like an external meltdown.

It looks like going quiet, staring at nothing - all with racing thoughts.

Trying to stay present while everything pulls away.

An internalised meltdown.

come join my free discussion and support group on autistic masking & unmasking on april 15

Free Autism Discussion & Affirmation Circles | Autistic Support Group Online | Free Support Group for Autistic Adults — The Autistic Coach The Autistic Coach hosts free online discussion circles for autistic and AuDHD adults worldwide. Led by an autistic coach, these virtual spaces provide connection, reflection, and open conversation on masking, burnout, needs, and boundaries. Inclusive, neuro-affirming, and community-focused, the cir