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Life is tough, and people get hurt very badly. So if you want to win, you have to be tough as flint and be willing to work with your elbows and fists.

© Donald Trump

The best movie theater in the world is the brain, and you get that when you read a good book.

Ridley Scott

If you want to be a happy person, don't rummage through your memory.

Osho

There will come a time when you think it's over. That will be the beginning.

Luis Lamoureux

5 types of lies used by all women

1. I'm not mad at you.
But this is very dangerous! Don't think it will be that easy for you to resolve the situation. This is one of the most common types of female lies in relationships. It's a phrase that provides emotional protection to a woman if she's (not) intentionally offended. If you forget her birthday, you hurt her. Although you wouldn't understand it, it's very important and it's not easy to get over. To be fair, if you look closely, little things will give her away. She's lying because she doesn't want to think about it.

2. I don't mind you going to the strip bar with your friends.
You've been given permission to have a real bachelor party that includes a visit to a strip bar, so you can show off your super girlfriend to all your friends. But wait, think again ... If something sounds too good to be true, it's probably not true. Any woman is unhappy when her man goes to look at other naked women.
This type of lie is similar to the previous one. The woman wants to give the appearance that she doesn't care and is not jealous. The truth is the opposite: women are extremely belligerent when it comes to their men, especially against very sexy rivals. In addition, women prefer to be the center of attention themselves and the fact that you chose your male friends over them doesn't just make them happy.

3. I'm not ready for a further relationship right now.
This statement is, in most cases, a lie. It may be said in good faith, but it continues to be a lie. In addition to her usual excuses, such as: "I just got out of a failed relationship" or "I'm focused on my career." But the truth is quite simple-if an available woman is interested in you, she will find time to meet you. This lie is in addition to the many excuses used to get out of unpleasant situations.

Another example: "I don't want to hurt you."
Hidden in the shadow of this lie is the fact: I am not interested. 4. I don't mind paying the bill today. If you ask a woman out on a date, you should at least offer to pay the bill. If she yells and grudgingly refuses, let her pay. If you let her pay, she will immediately think you are a cheapskate.

If you ask a woman out on a date, you should at least offer to pay the bill.
If she yells and grudgingly refuses, let her pay. But if her protest is mild and rather formal, be sure to pay yourself, or she will quickly walk away from you. 5. it was unbelievable! This lie belongs in the sexual category.

He slid, he climbed, he fell, he rose, he found his way and persevered - that's all. That is the secret of all victory.

Victor Hugo

Never say the following nine phrases

We often use phrases that provoke conflict, not out of malice - scientists call them conflictogens. To keep peace in the family and at work, psychologists recommend replacing them with more neutral ones.
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1. "It's not part of my duties," "I don't get paid for it." The most common excuses from work. In 99% of cases, they cause irritation with the manager and show him your indifference. So it is much better to answer: "I have a lot of tasks today. Which one should I do first?".

2. "I don't have time to talk to you", "I'm busy". Such answers are a sign of bad parenting. It would be ethical to say, "I apologize, but we are in the middle of an urgent meeting, and I have to go. Let's call and discuss your problem next time," or "Let's discuss it in an hour: I'm just finishing up a case.

3. "This may sound silly, but..." This kind of "introduction" inherently calls into question the validity of whatever you're about to say. Forbid yourself from uttering that phrase.

4. "No offense, but ..." This sounds like a warning that something unpleasant will follow. So you give yourself a setup that your partner perceived your speech exactly as offensive. So as soon as you feel that this phrase is about to explode from your lips - change the subject.

5. "Oh, how you've gained weight!" or even "Oh, how you've lost weight!" Weight is a touchy subject for many people. People don't easily accept the changes that happen to their bodies, so comments like that can really ruin their mood. Instead, it's better to say, "You look amazing!"

6. "You look good at your age." This phrase sounds like a reminder of age, and can be interpreted as, "Compared to other old people, you look more or less tolerable." Say simply, "You look great."

7. "You're in your repertoire." Try not to put labels on it. Instead of conflicting phrases, you can say, "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do to make sure it doesn't happen again?" By using the pronoun "I," you emphasize how you feel, not that your partner is bad. This will be an incentive for him to fix the problem bothering you.

8. "If you really loved me, you would...". By saying this phrase, you're not just manipulating your partner, but you're letting him know that his attitude toward you is not okay with you. It is unlikely to contribute to a strong bond between you. A better way to put it is, "I would feel better if we could...". The best way to keep the relationship productive is to simply explain why you are upset and then offer a solution.

9. "You were too good for him," "I'm glad you got rid of her." Even if you are trying to comfort someone after breaking up with their partner, they may take the phrase as an insult to their taste and evidence of an inability to understand people.

Never give up!

One day a farmer's donkey fell down a well. He screamed in fear, calling for help. The farmer came running in and spluttered, "How do you get him out?"

Then the donkey's owner reasoned, "My donkey is old. He ain't got long to go. I was going to get a new young donkey anyway. And the well is almost dry anyway. I've been meaning to bury it and dig a new well somewhere else for a long time. So why not do it now? I'll bury the donkey, too, so you can't smell the decay.

He invited all his neighbors to help him bury the well. Everyone grabbed a shovel and started to throw earth into the well. The donkey immediately understood what was going on and started making a screeching noise. And suddenly, to everyone's surprise, he fell silent. After a few tosses of the earth, the farmer decided to see what was down there.

He was amazed at what he saw there. Every piece of earth that fell on his back, the donkey shook it off and kicked it. Very soon, to everyone's amazement, the donkey appeared at the top - and jumped out of the well!
..You will encounter a lot of dirt in life, and every time life will send you more and more of it. Whenever a lump of dirt falls, shake it off and climb up and that is the only way you can get out of the well.

Each problem that arises is like a rock to cross on a creek. If you don't stop and give up, you can get out of any deepest well.

I love crazy people, the kind who madly want to live, madly want to talk, madly want to save themselves, who want to have it all at once, who never yawn and never say platitudes, but always burn, burn, burn!

Jack Kerouac

A world of 100 people

If only 100 people lived on the entire earth, 57 of them would be from Asia, 21 from Europe, 14 from the entire American continent, and 8 from Africa. 52 would be women, 48 would be men, 30 would be white, and 70 would belong to other races. There would be 30 Christians, 23 Muslims, and 47 of other religions. There would be 89 heterosexuals and 11 homosexuals. 6 people would own 59% of all its wealth, all of whom would be North Americans. 80 would live in extreme poverty. 70 could not read, 50 were regularly malnourished. 1 person would die every day, 1 would be born. 1 person would have a college education and only 1 would have a computer.

If you wake up tomorrow morning healthy rather than sick, you are very lucky compared to the million people who won't make it through the week.

If you've never fought in a battle, never suffered the pains of starvation, torture, loneliness and imprisonment, you're lucky compared to the 500 million people who have experienced it all.

If you can practice your religion without the risk of persecution, arrest, torture, and death, your 3 billion contemporaries in the world can't boast the same.

If you have food in your refrigerator, clothes, and a roof over your head, you are richer than 75% of the world's people. And if you have a bank account, or at least some cash in your wallet, you are one of the 8% of the world's chosen prosperous people.

If your parents are still alive and, moreover, still divorced, you are a rare fortunate person, the likes of which are rare even in Canada and the United States.

If you have read this information on your own, it sets you apart from the 2 billion people of today who can't read.

A great parable about the price of our desires, recommended reading.
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There is a store in the back of the universe. The signboard on the store is long gone, it was once blown away by a cosmic hurricane, and the owner didn't bother to nail a new one, because every local resident already knew that the store sells wishes. The assortment of the store was huge: one could buy practically everything here.

Huge yachts, apartments, marriage, the post of vice president of a corporation, money, children, a favorite job, big breasts, winning a contest, big cars, soccer clubs, power, success, diamond rings, and much, much more. Only life and death were not for sale (that was handled by the head office, which was in another galaxy).

Everyone who came to the store (and there are those who never went into the store, but stayed on their asses and wished) first of all learned the price of their wish. The prices were different.

For example, the job I loved was worth giving up stability and predictability, a willingness to plan and structure my life on my own, faith in my own strength and permission to work where I liked and not where I had to.

Power cost a little more: you had to give up some of your beliefs, be able to find a rational explanation for everything, be able to refuse others, know your own worth (and it had to be high enough), allow yourself to say "I", assert yourself, despite the approval or disapproval of others.

Some prices seemed strange. Marriage could be obtained practically for nothing, but a happy life was expensive - personal responsibility for one's own happiness, the ability to enjoy life, knowledge of one's desires, refusal of the desire to conform to others, a little guilt, the ability to appreciate what is, allowing yourself to be happy, an awareness of your own value and importance, the rejection of "victim" bonuses, the risk of losing some friends and acquaintances.

Not everyone who came to the store was willing to buy a wish right away. Some, upon seeing the price, immediately turned around and left. Others stood in thoughtfulness for a long time, counting the cash and wondering where they could get more money. Some began to complain that the prices were too high, and asked the owner for a discount, or asked when there would be a sale.

And there were those who took their life savings out of their pockets and received a coveted wish wrapped in beautiful, rustling paper. Other customers looked enviously at the lucky ones, whispering among themselves that perhaps the shopkeeper was a friend of theirs and the wish had come to them for nothing, without any effort.

The shopkeeper was often offered lower prices to increase the number of customers. But he always refused, saying that the quality of the wish would suffer.

When the owner was asked if he was not afraid of going bankrupt, he shook his head and replied that at all times there would be brave people who were willing to take risks and change their lives, to refuse the usual and predictable life, able to believe in themselves and their desires, having the strength and means to pay for the fulfillment of their desires.

P.S. There is a notice on the store door that reads, "If your wish isn't coming true, it means it hasn't been paid for yet.

Life barriers and obstacles, what are they for?

Each person is given a daily portion of energy. It is the first condition of life, and every morning gives us a chance to start all over again, to fulfill what life was gifted to us for. All we have to do is identify our specific goal and start moving toward it. And this is where people often make the mistake of equating life's purpose with life's meaning.

The goal marks the finish line, the end of the road.

And by virtue of this alone cannot have an independent value.

The meaning of life is in movement.

This does not mean that the choice of goal is a secondary task, but it is still not the goal that is dominant in life formula, but the way to this goal with obligatory overcoming of obstacles.

The child is growing, learning the basics of life. The first time to chicken out and step back is a sad experience, but so is the first step forward that a child makes, overcoming his or her own indecision, giving back, coming to someone's rescue, forgiving a guilty friend.

The path of life is never smooth. Life puts external barriers in front of us.

Our inner barriers are the exact repetition of our outer barriers.

Accordingly, when we overcome the external barrier, we also overcome the internal obstacle. At the same time, the more serious the barrier, the higher the grade we receive for overcoming it. In this case, it is not so important who exactly gives the grade - parents, teachers, or peers. Regardless of the circumstances, the main assessment you always give yourself. In this case, both victories and defeats can equally bring dividends. Every failure to pass a barrier causes a repetition of the situation, that is, it requires a kind of re-examination.

Defeats are as necessary to us as victories, because they train the spirit, teach us to mobilize forces, contribute to the development of self-analysis, do not allow us to ascend and relax. Very often our victory lies in the correct understanding of the lessons of defeat.

Say, you have suffered a loss, but realized the reason for their mistakes, comprehended the error and made the appropriate conclusions. In the end, it can no longer be called a defeat, because you emerged from the situation more armed. And on the contrary, an easy, beautiful victory can turn heads and be a precursor to serious errors in the future. Consequently, the result of such a victory is very relative. Therefore, any movement equally involves defeats and victories. It is only necessary to maintain a competent balance, without which self-analysis simply will not provide an objective picture. And if a series of protracted defeats can lead to low self-esteem, then a streak of successes leads to an overestimated self-esteem, which is just as fraught and dangerous. Typically, people experiencing this kind of imbalance ask the following questions:

"Why should I do anything when I'm doing great as it is?"

Or:

"Why do something when nothing is working out anyway?"

If you have either of these questions, hurry up and tell yourself, "Stop!" Both questions are meaningless and harmful, for they are inconsistent with the central tenet of life

Life without movement is impossible, and even when you, tired of struggling, put a cross on yourself, it's only self-deception.

The cross is made by your consciousness, but not by the majesty of Life. It is still feeding you, giving you energy and strength, pulling your hair when it is necessary, tugging and making you "wake up".

Even refusing to move, you are still moving.

A floating person is free to choose his main vector, but even if he stops floating and goes to the bottom, the movement still continues - even if not in the most favorable direction.

Many of us go down in our lifetime, believing that we have cheated fate and avoided multiple obstacles. But they have not!

Fate pursues them even during their "sinking", trying to bring them to their senses by illness, misfortunes and cruel slaps in the face, forcing them to surface and start fighting with the waves of the sea of life. Therein lies the significance of defeats and falls.

We can emerge from the hardest corkscrew with the wisdom of victory, and the most resplendent victory can make our heads spin, bringing us to the ground.

In other words, movement is the stabilizing factor of life.

Without movement there are no victories, but as you strive for them, don't be afraid of defeat. Trying to conquer the height, the jumper knocks down the bar dozens and hundreds of times, but does not stop trying. The weightlifter also approaches the desired weight not at once, gradually increasing the load, undergoing one failure after another. This can be frustrating, but that's the trick - any failure is almost always a test of our strength.

Without setbacks and multiple attempts, there will be no strength or stamina, and if proper stamina is shown, the barrier will sooner or later be taken. It is equally important that, going to the goal, we train the will, steel the spirit, develop tactical abilities. And it is great if, achieving the desired, we are able to pause, reflecting on what has been achieved, marking themselves the next steps.