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Relationships are tough and at the same time good.
I advice people to court each other atleast for 6 months before even thinking of getting married. The reason being after 6 months the persons real character starts to show up for no one can pretend that long.

We always allow s*x to cloud our judgment and that makes us blind from seeing the red flags God is revealing to us as signs to leave. We think that marriage changes people but It doesn't. It simply enhances who you are, same thing as money.

Some of you are in a relationship with the wrong persons. True love cares about your finances, true love won't judge you based on what people say or what they hear from others, true love will fight for you not condemn you nor tarnage your image, true love will be patient, true love will help you cook and clean and do more even if you refuse.

Men have financial clock while women have biological clock. Our finances preoccupy our minds because we need to provide. A man needs to be loved and taken care of too bad people think we need to be the only ones doing the caring and loving.

Men need women who can help them Save more money not spend carelessly. Men need women who can help them cut down or even stop alcohol.

Women also need men who can provide and protect them. So while we seek to have the best from others let's try to be the best others seek.

Nomatter what happends please always give room for communication if the other person is interested but if they are not interested then you know what to do.

Ngubi Valery aka IL CIPH3R
Happy new year 2024

Men are not perfect that's why God had to create a Helpmate for the man because He God knew that man will need guidance in some things.

It's a womans place to make her man be the kind of man she wants him to be. (positively). Men at times let thier ego get in the way thus hindering them to live beyond their potential.

It's his woman's job to see how she can push him in becoming the best version of himself. Don't be afraid to help correct your man if he is wrong.

On the other hand if you try to guide or correct your guy towards the right path and he keeps on refusing or he keeps on living the way he is which is non productive, then my sister that's a red flag for you to leave him.

If you truly love someone you will do all your best to help him be that great guy or woman.

Help your man to start saving his money, help him cut down on careless expenses like alcohol or buying of liabilities instead of assets. Hear is plan, mission or visions and see where you the woman you fall.

Both of you need to grow together so that you can both make it together. Men are stubborn but every woman knows the right frequency to get to her man.

Ngubi Valery aka IL CIPH3R

Generous in love God
Huge in mercy
Loving father
Before you now we come
We’ve been out of step for so long
In the wrong since we were born
Wipe away our records

Start afresh with us
Lord we need your Mercy.
Let your mercy flow like a river.
Pour out your mercy.
Our Fathers need your mercy.
Our children need your mercy.
Our leaders need your mercy
Our mothers need your mercy.

Bring down your mercy.
Send us your mercy.
Wash us in your red flow.
Have mercy on us Lord.
We cry for your mercy.
Havw mercy on Cameroon.
The whole world needs your mercy.

Have mercy Lord Jesus
If you judge us no one will stand. 😭😭😭😭

𝕄𝔸𝕀N𝕋𝔸𝕀N 𝔸 𝕂𝕀N𝔾𝔻𝕆𝕄 ℙ𝔼ℝ𝕊ℙ𝔼ℂ𝕋𝕀𝕍𝔼

The way that we operate on a daily basis, the way that we live life, all stems from our paradigms—the way we process information and our pattern of thinking. The keys to living a successful and victorious life are found in the underpinnings of our foundational paradigms.

What we believe about God, what we believe about ourselves, and what we believe about the world and other people are all very much intertwined. For instance, when we have a tainted view of God, we see ourselves and the world around us through a lens that falsely misrepresents everything that we see.

Maintaining a perspective that is heaven bound instead of earth bound helps to clear our lens of the things that tend to otherwise cloud our vision.

ACTIVATION EXERCISES
Ask the Holy Spirit to show you where your perspective needs to be readjusted. Write out the specific paradigms that you would like to work on. Find scripture verses to meditate on that will help you reverse negative ways of thinking.

Ngubi Valery aka IL CIPH3R

𝔻𝔼𝕃𝕀𝔹𝔼ℝ𝔸𝕋𝔼𝕃𝕐 𝔽𝕆ℝ𝕄 𝕐𝕆𝕌ℝ 𝔹𝔼𝕃𝕀𝔼𝔽 𝕊𝕐𝕊𝕋𝔼𝕄

On Day Seven we discussed being cautious about where you get your spiritual teaching. Today we’ll talk more about how your belief system is formed. Perhaps you find a teacher you are confident is reading the Word, has a close relationship with Jesus, is walking in purity and holiness, and has evidence of the fruit of the Spirit in their life; but no matter who they are, they are still growing (hopefully).

The best teachers and leaders are continuously growing in their beliefs and how they apply the Word, just as much as you or me. Therefore, you shouldn’t place 100 percent of your confidence in one person’s teaching alone. Your confidence should ultimately be in the Bible and in discerning God’s voice for yourself. After all, it is the truth that you know and are intimately acquainted with that sets you free (see John 8:32).

ACTIVATION EXERCISES
Ask the Holy Spirit if there are any beliefs about God you hold that are not true. If you hear “yes,” ask Him what they are.
Now ask Him to reveal to you what the truth is—and then check to make sure it lines up with scripture.

Ngubi Valery aka IL CIPH3R

𝔹𝔼 𝕄𝕀N𝔻𝔽𝕌𝕃 𝕆𝔽 𝕐𝕆𝕌ℝ 𝔸𝕊𝕊𝕆ℂ𝕀𝔸𝕋𝕀𝕆N𝕊

Different levels of relationships are based on varying ranges—or circles—of trust. Our innermost circles, for example, might include our heavenly Father, our parents, spouse, siblings, or closest friends.

And although we do certainly want to share the love of Christ with everyone we meet and treat all people with kindness no matter what their behaviors or beliefs are, we should be mindful of who we let into our inner circles of trust, because those are the people who will influence us the most.

Basically, trust is not an emotion, but a relational honor bestowed upon someone who consistently demonstrates his or her trustworthiness. A circle of trust is built on mutually fulfilling and beneficial relationships undergirded by authenticity and the core values of love, care, honesty, integrity, authenticity, credibility, truthfulness, trustworthiness, and respect.

There shouldn’t be anyone in your inner circle with whom you don’t have unquestionable confidence, assurance, and conviction concerning their character, values, and integrity.
This also pertains to organizations we affiliate ourselves with. In order to live life to the fullest, we must choose to allow our closest alliances to be kingdom-minded people and organizations—because we will ultimately resemble those with whom we assemble.

ACTIVATION EXERCISES
Ask the Holy Spirit to show you who you’ve let into your inner circle of trust that should be moved out. Ask Him what your relationship and interaction should look like.
Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any organizations that you have affiliated yourself with that you should not be part of in this season. Ask Him for an exit strategy, record it, and implement it immediately.

Ngubi Valery aka IL CIPH3R

ℙ𝕌ℝ𝕊𝕌𝔼 𝕎ℍ𝕆𝕃𝔼𝕊𝕆𝕄𝔼 𝔸ℂ𝕋𝕀𝕍𝕀𝕋𝕀𝔼𝕊

Engaging in unholy activities, whether they are done in reality, viewed on television, the Internet, a magazine, DVD, hologram, a phone, or in our mind, brings corruption to our souls.

These activities can be engaged in alone or with other people. When other people are involved, ungodly soul ties attach with both the activity and the people and will result in unhealthy relationships and habits.

The good news is that the power of sin and corruption upon our souls can be reversed through the blood of Jesus! It may feel like the allure of sin is stronger than holiness, but that can change in an instant (see Matt, 10:8; 2 Cor. 12:9).

ACTIVATION EXERCISE
Think of someone who is trustworthy and godly (either your spouse or someone of the same gender) and designate a time when you can share your decision to stop engaging in any unwholesome activity. Do it now. Ask them to hold you accountable. Schedule a weekly time when you commit to connecting with that person for accountability purposes. There is power in numbers!

Ngubi Valery (IL~CIPH3R)

*Satan's Interest In The Home*

God's plan for the Family is revealed in Genesis 2:18:

He established marriage for the purpose of making life good for man. And after He instituted marriage, God confirmed that it was very good. However, it was not long after that the enemy arrived on the scene. As a matter of fact, it was soon after God performed the wedding ceremony, and declared, "Behold Mr. and Mrs. Adam", that Satan showed up.

Satan is the enemy of everything good. Having lost access to goodness immediately he fell from heaven, he cannot stand anyone else enjoying good. He is envious of any good thing, so he goes about reversing the order of things. This is what makes him wicked.

People attribute the crisis in homes to incompatibility or disagreements, but it is actually Satan who is behind the woes in families. He has determined to cause havoc in homes. He would do anything or pay any price to shatter a home. Quite a number, even in the Church, are victims of this satanic onslaught against families.

Some wish they were never married, yet God says, "I created it for your good." I can imagine Adam wishing he was never created when he was driven out of Eden into the wilderness. I picture him running away from the wild animals which had been his pets before Satan entered the garden and sent man out.

I perceive that Satan was envious of the fact that the couple were standing on their feet, while he was crawling on the ground. So he came with a mission to have them grounded.

But the good news is that although Satan bruised the heel of mankind, to floor him, man can bruise his head and wound him fatally. This was what Jesus came to do on earth. As the seed of the woman, His mission on earth was to bruise Satan's head and empower us to do same.

N.𝕌.𝕀 ℙℝ𝔼𝕊𝔼N𝕋𝕊
*𝕋𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕔𝕒𝕟*

We often limit ourselves because we don't think we can achieve something. Today it may be hard for you to imagine that you can live without dessert or that you can live below your means. It doesn't mean it's impossible, though; it's only your subjective opinion, not a fact of life.

Moreover, thinking that you're unlikely to win means that you'll put in less effort than you could. Why would you work your fingers to the bone if you were uncertain of success?

Mountain climbing has made it particularly clear to me. When you approach the route thinking that it's beyond your abilities, you won't do your best. After all, why try your best if you know that you aren't going to climb it anyway?

You'll most likely give up when you encounter the first obstacle, while a
person thinking they can climb it will fight as hard as they can to keep climbing. In the end, the person that doesn't believe in their abilities will give up along the way while the person that is certain of their abilities will reach the top.

Periodically try things that you think are outside of your ability with a positive attitude and the belief that you can succeed. Chances are you'll get a positive surprise and achieve something you thought was beyond your reach.

Ngubi Valery
IL~CIPH3R

𝔹𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕄𝕚𝕤𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕥𝕦𝕟𝕖𝕤 N𝕠𝕓𝕝𝕪

Hardships are a part of life and while nobody (with the exception of masochists) enjoys pain, they can be valuable because they present an opportunity for personal growth.

I like to say that you discover how deep your self-discipline goes when you struggle, and not when everything goes well. You aren't self-disciplined because you worked hard when you were fired up to work. You're self-disciplined when you continue to work hard when the last thing you want to do is work

You aren't self-disciplined because you can't afford candy, so you don't
eat it. You exhibit self-control when you deny the treats that are offered freely to you, for example when you're at a party with a buffet selection of high-calorie snacks.

You aren't self-disciplined when you wake up early in the morning to work on your new business. You're self-disciplined when you still wake up early in the morning when it seems that your business is going nowhere.

Misfortunes aren't fun to deal with, but bearing them nobly strengthens your ability to handle even worse circumstances in the future. In a sense, trials and tribulations are like training. You may not enjoy it, but you know that eventually it will pay off and more than recoup for any suffering you're going through at the moment.

NGUBI VALERY
IL-CIPH3R
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