Sam and Gen Got Divorced
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Helping marriages stay together, by sharing what tore us apart. Podcast out now on all platforms
The feeling of being blindsided in marriage often comes from one simple truth:
Marriage didn’t show up the way you expected it to.
The challenge is that many of those expectations were never spoken, examined, or sometimes even consciously recognized.
We carry ideas about love, communication, intimacy, partnership, conflict, and happiness… and then reality arrives.
The greater the gap between expectation and reality, the greater the feeling of being blindsided.
What’s one expectation about relationships that reality challenged for you?
Tell us below.
Hot Take!!!!
Looks got you in the door. Your mouth got you escorted out.
There are different kinds of attraction. Men are visual. Women are auditory.
But let’s be clear… if you look good and sound stupid, all bets are OFF.
Tag someone who needs to hear this.
Does physical attraction really matter?
Some endings don’t happen because love disappeared.
They happen because clarity finally showed up.
And clarity changes everything.
What’s harder: accepting the truth… or letting go of the fantasy?
Some red flags don’t look toxic at first…
They look NORMAL.
And that’s the problem.
Sometimes you don’t recognize them until MUCH later.
What’s a relationship red flag people ignore too often?
You can tell a lot about a person by what they consider “a big deal.”
This conversation can get REAL, fast.
What’s something that instantly matters to you?
What’s a BIG deal to you?
Not him being divorced for TWO YEARS and just now clocking it. 😂
Let this be a lesson to you, ignoring a thing does not stop its progress.
Is this the wildest “How I found out I was divorced” story? We would love to her yours.
Which perspective on spirituality do you resonate with more - Sam or Gen?
Working through disagreements as a divorced couple
16/02/2025
On this weekend of love, we want to remember those who are
alone or
going through a loss.
For those who are
> going through a breakup
> going through a divorce
> going through a separation
> struggling in your marriage
> and you want to get through this in the best way possible...
Whether or not it looks that way,
There is love that you can access for yourself,
and love available to you to experience in the future as well.
Having felt your pain ourselves, we would urge you to...
AVOID COMMON GRIEF-PROLONGERS
> relational replacement (dating before breakup/divorce closure)
> substance abuse (alcohol, drugs etc.)
> mindlessness (TV, scrolling, gaming)
> behavior transfer (over work, exercise, travel)
> addiction (sex/pornography, overspending, overeating)
If you are a married person struggling,
or you are going through a breakup or divorce and want to minimize experiencing further pain...
Consider leaning into your community or signing up for therapy.
We love you, and want you to be well.
2025 - year of the WELL
27/01/2025
Thinking about saying “I do”? Well, before you book the venue and taste a million cakes, let’s have some real talk. There are a few things we wish we knew before jumping into matrimony.
1. Have the Tough Talks Early:
Chat about finances, future goals, and even the awkward topics. ESPECIALLY the awkward topics. Leave no stone unturned!
2. Embrace Each Other’s Quirks: You think you know your partner, but wait until you’re living together and realize they have a thing for collecting old mp3 players, or mugs from around the world (a true story!) Can you learn to respect their uniqueness, or will your disdain create a rift in your marriage?
3. Invest in Quality Counselling: There are free premarital quizzes you can do online. We did these, and we’d recommend getting in front of counsellors and therapists who are so exhaustive it makes you uncomfortable. Do the rough work now with qualified professionals in order to make your marriage as smooth as possible.
Marriage is a journey, not a destination. How are you preparing for it?