MidLife Mix

🚨 An 80-year-old woman walked into Dr. Sheila’s clinic with a 50-year-old boyfriend…

No, that’s not the shocking part.

When Dr. Sheila asked what estrogen cream or treatment she was using to keep her va**nal tissue so healthy, her answer was simple:

“I just have a lot of s*x.”

Here’s why that matters: s*xual activity (including self-play) increases blood flow to the va**na and v***a, helping maintain healthy tissue. Or***ms can also strengthen the pelvic floor, which may even support bladder control.

The takeaway isn’t that everyone needs to be having more s*x. It’s that our bodies are designed to benefit from stimulation—and those benefits don’t disappear with age.

Because healthy s*x at 80? That’s not something to whisper about. It’s something we should normalize.

💬 Were you surprised to learn that regular stimulation can actually support va**nal and pelvic health as we age?

Financial abuse doesn’t always start with someone emptying your bank account.

Sometimes it starts with never getting a paycheck.
Being told you don’t need your own money.
Being made to believe you can’t work because no one will help with the kids.

In this clip, Alex shares his mother’s story—a powerful reminder that control over someone’s ability to earn an income is a form of abuse.

Every woman deserves financial independence. Not because you expect your relationship to fail, but because everyone deserves the freedom to choose their future.

Have you ever recognized financial abuse in a relationship? 💬

Unpopular opinion: Ghosting says more about the ghoster than the person being ghosted.

You don’t have to keep dating someone. You don’t even owe them a long explanation. But you do owe them basic human decency.

One text.
Ten seconds.
Done.

Instead, people disappear and leave someone staring at a “Delivered” message, wondering what happened.

💬 Is ghosting ever acceptable? Convince me.

What if we’ve been asking women the wrong question?

Instead of asking, “Should I wait until I’m married to buy a home?” maybe we should be asking:

“What kind of life gives me the most freedom?”

In this clip, Alex challenges the idea that marriage should come before building wealth. Because love is important… but so is having choices.

Owning an asset isn’t about expecting your relationship to fail. It’s about making sure you’re never trapped if life doesn’t go the way you planned.

💬 Do you think women should prioritize financial independence before marriage, or build everything together as a couple?

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You don’t need to be rich.
You don’t need to be retired.
And you definitely don’t need to spend thousands on a lawyer.

One of the biggest myths about wills is that they’re only for “older people with money.” They’re not.

A will answers some of life’s biggest questions:
✔️ Who will carry out your wishes?
✔️ Who will care for your children or even your pets?
✔️ Who inherits what you’ve worked for?

The surprising part? It can take as little as 20 minutes to put one in place.

As Erin from Willful says, the practical barriers are mostly gone. The psychological ones? Those are what’s keeping so many of us from checking this off our list.

Your future family will never wish you had waited.

💬 Be honest… what’s the real reason you haven’t made a will yet?

Straight people: “Someone always catches feelings.” 😩
Q***r people: “Want to grab brunch?” 😂

Apparently it’s not unusual for q***r men to hook up, realize there’s no romantic spark, and become genuine friends.

For a lot of straight people? That sounds almost impossible.

Who’s got it right?

👇 Can ex-hookups actually become just friends?

Women are told to do it all…

💍 Get married.
🏡 Buy a house.
👶 Have kids.

But in what order?

With the average detached home in Toronto still over $1 million, is it even realistic to wait until you’re married before buying your first home?

And then there’s the pressure women face with fertility. If the average age of marriage is 34, many women feel like they’re racing against two clocks at once—the housing market and their biological one.

So… what gives?

This week on Midlife Mix, I asked Alex E. Edwards, author of Mortgage Before Marriage, the question so many women are quietly asking:

Can women really afford to wait for marriage before buying a home?

👇 If you had to choose ONE first, what would it be?
❤️ Marriage
🏡 Home ownership
👶 Children

No judgment. Just curious where everyone lands.

Tears on set… for all the right reasons. 🥹🎬

Imagine creating a character on the page… then standing on a film set watching 150 people bring that world to life.

That’s the moment Marissa Stapley experienced while visiting the set of LUCKY—and it’s impossible not to get emotional hearing her tell the story.

🎉 Huge congratulations to Marissa on the launch of LUCKY on Apple TV+!

If you’ve ever wondered what it feels like to see a lifelong dream become reality, you need to hear this conversation.

🎧 Watch or listen to the full episode of Midlife Mix with Marissa Stapley on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

💬 What dream are you still holding onto? ❤️

🚨 HOT TAKE: Love won’t pay your mortgage.

We’ve spent decades telling women to find a husband.

Maybe we should’ve been telling them to buy a house first.

This week on Midlife Mix, author Alex E. Edwards says the biggest power move a woman can make isn’t getting engaged… it’s owning property before she says “I do.”

We talk prenups, second marriages, financial abuse, and why too many women stay in relationships they can’t afford to leave.

His biggest claim?

💥 “Love is overrated unless you love yourself first.”

🎧 Watch the full episode now. Link in bio.

👇 Would you rather marry for love… or build financial security first?

Women carry the mental load… and if there’s no estate plan, we often end up carrying the legal load too.

We remember the birthdays, book the appointments, find the missing soccer cleats… and according to Erin from Willful, we’re also the ones most likely to be named executor or making healthcare decisions if something happens.

Translation? If your partner or parents don’t have a plan, there’s a good chance you’re the one left sorting through the paperwork, navigating the legal process, and making impossible decisions while trying to grieve.

Having these conversations now isn’t morbid—it’s one of the greatest gifts you can give the people you love.

💬 Women: if something happened to your partner tomorrow, would you actually know where everything is?