These Reveries

Is anyone else now obsessed with volleyball? 😎🖤👌🏼

Remember…

You do not have to share your story.
You do not have to report.
You do not have to heal.
You do not have to forgive.

For us survivors, this month can feel really complicated.

Maybe we feel validated.
Maybe we feel activated.
Maybe we feel exhausted.
Maybe we feel empowered.

Maybe we feel everything everywhere all at once.

This is our lived experience and we can do with it what we want.

And, contrary to popular belief, sexual violence is not always violent in the way it’s depicted in the media.

It’s not always committed by a stranger, it’s not always reported, it’s not always named right away.

Sometimes sexual violence is slow, gradual and ongoing.
Sometimes it’s hidden because someone is charming, trustworthy or “such a nice person!”

Sometimes it doesn’t look like what you’d expect, but
it’s always fu**ed up.

This is a survivor’s space. You are safe here. You are believed here. As you are right now.

And let us all work to make ourselves and our spaces safe. Period.

Love A 🖤

It’s not all men. But it’s enough men. It’s too many men.

Enough that all women calculate each one as a potential risk.

We know it’s not all, but we don’t know which ones. Which means we’re always on guard.

We’re naming patterns. Recognizing common denominators.

We’re believing women.

We’re holding men accountable.

We’re doing whatever we can to make women feel safe. And “not all men” isn’t it.

.lovenotes 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

It’s Autism Acceptance Month 🙌🏼

What have you learned to accept about yourself?

What is something you absolutely love about being autistic?

Having being blamed our entire lives for how our brain works is fu**ed up and I wanna hear what aspects of Autism do you appreciate about yourself?

This is a long journey and maybe you’re not there yet. And that’s ok! Maybe the comments will give you some warm feels 🖤

I looooove that I can recognize patterns across disciplines and industries and people.

This helped me leave abusive relationships and environments, like past jobs, the Mormon cult I was raised in, and my romantic relationships.

Leave a comment below, I’d love to hear 👇🏼

Make it make sense.

How you talk to them…

If you coerce them, manipulate them, threaten them.

How to talk about them behind their back.

If you humiliate them, shame them, guilt them.

They are the *most* marginalized and vulnerable of all the worlds’ demographics.

How we treat them shows exactly how much or little we value the most vulnerable of all of us.

This then translates to how we treat disabled folks, immigrants, refugees, trans people, and every other marginalized community.

That tells me all I need to know.

Not how many degrees you have, how fun you are, how well disciplined, how educated…

…it’s what you do in your position of power toward the least empowered.

Do you amplify their voice or squash it?
Do you balance the power or wield it?
Do you empower or control them?

That’s it. That’s all.

If we centered children, the world would be a much better place. Our priorities would be clear.

“The true character of a society is revealed in how it treats its children”.
Nelson Mandela

This 👏🏼isn’t 👏🏼difficult 👏🏼

Give kids credit, they understand far more than we do about so many things and often have the ability to accept realities we struggle with.

Be a safe space. For all kids. All youth.

Make sure they know you will protect them 🖤

Because you have all used a universal bathroom, you have all shared professional spaces with trans people, you all know trans people… whether or not they felt safe enough to open up to you.

Please understand that bathrooms and sports and healthcare are all sensationalized in the media by people in power to control votes.

And if this is all weird to you…learn about it. We often fear most what we don’t know and understand.

So get curious, listen, read…and most importantly, care about all humans…

But especially the ones getting hurt the most 🖤

Honoured to be participating in this years Unschooling Summit 🙌🏼

It’s FREE 😎👏🏼

People can join all weekend through to Tuesday as all of the talks are live for 48hrs each!!

https://www.theunschoolingsummit.org/

March 20th-22nd, 2026 Happening now through the weekend!

Join now 🖤🖤🖤

Politics take your values and turn them in to other people’s reality.

There’s no excuse anymore. Truth is being exposed and suffering is all around us happening in real time on our screens and in our neighborhoods.

We can’t say we didn’t know. And we certainly can’t say we had nothing to do with it.

Being apolitical *isn’t a thing*.

Yes, politics are divisive.

So is believing that some humans shouldn’t have the right to exist.
Shouldn’t have the same access to healthcare as you do.
Shouldn’t have the same right to marriage as you do.
Shouldn’t enjoy the same freedoms that you do.

Guess what? Those are values and basic morals.

But they show up in politics…in how things are run, what programs get funding, which folks are safe to exist, who gets protected from violence.

It’s all politics, so buckle up and get on board ✌🏼

It’s hard because people are more shocked by the accusation than the abuse itself.

As someone who survived their childhood, their relationships and their marriage, I find myself worrying more about the consequences for my abusers then the consequences I’ve endured myself.

What will this mean for them? How will they react? How will this affect their life if I say something.

And then you spend the time thinking about how naming it will affect you.

Will you be believed? Will you be ostracized? Will you have to endure more?

The constant state of fear, feeling of helplessness, and depression sets in.

And then there’s the processing once you’ve accepted that that’s what was going on.

Why does this keep happening to me?
I must be wrong about this.
Am I the common denominator here?
Am I crazy?

It’s not that bad. We had so many good times though.

Can love and abuse exist in the same relationship?

It’s all such a mindf**k.

My episode with drops tomorrow and I couldn’t help but write out all these thoughts as I was editing the show.

This one is dedicated to all of us out there who questioned our reality, who felt uncomfortable naming what was happening.