To Rise Above Your Fear

“Whether you believe in an afterlife or a god, ultimately we are judged by the human spirit we carried through life.”

“When I can speak my truth and someone listens, I can wash it from my memory to make room for others.”

Another life's lesson. It's the story of the snake that wanted to cross the river and asked the tortoise could you carry me across? The tortoise was hesitant, but agreed, when they got across the river, the tortoise asked why didn't you bite me with your poison and eat me, the snake replied, if I did that I would have drowned and we both would have gained nothing.

My memoir is titled: To Rise Above Your Fear: One Season at a Time

The memoir is a remarkable journey through hardship, resilience, and the quiet beauty of human connection. Told with humility and emotional clarity, it traces a life shaped by abandonment, war, wilderness, and wonder. Written with a natural storyteller’s instinct, vivid, honest, and deeply human. The voice is unpolished in the best possible way: authentic, reflective, and free of pretence.

What emerges is not a tale of glory, but of endurance, kindness, and the small lanterns of light that guide us through the darkest seasons.

This memoir lingers long after the final page, a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the quiet courage of a man who chose to rise above fear.

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To Rise Above Your Fear: One Season at a Time James never set out to be an author until family asked where he had been for the last fifty odd years. To family, James was a ghost in the family. So, the memoir was born. From the Australian outback to the African bush, this memoir follows a life shaped by hardship, humour, and the quiet resili...

From my memoir

Winter was not a season of happiness for me, but of betrayals. Yet even in the silence of an empty verandah and the cruelty of institutions, I found small sparks, a piano key, a teacher’s kindness, the breath of a horse or cow, a bird song, warmth in the paddock. They were fragile, but they reminded me that fear could be faced, and that even a forgotten child could carry dignity forward.

From my memoir

My spirit has never left Africa, it still lives inside of me like the embers of a fire that was once brightly lit, I keep those embers smouldering. Much like a gardener tends to his garden, he waters it, pulls the weeds out, letting the sun nurture the flowers planted.

Reflection's from my memoir:

There are people who enter our lives not to change our path, but to steady our steps. Christine was one of those rare souls. When she extended a hand of friendship, of grace, of acceptance, she offered me something I had never known, a place to rest, a place to breathe, a place to be seen without judgement.

In the years that followed, I made a promise to myself: the best way to honour her kindness was simply to survive, and to carry her lantern forward. If any part of my story lights the way for someone else, then I have lived that promise.

Belonging is not something that can be taken; it is something carried quietly, like embers kept alive in the heart. I have tended those embers all my life.

I carry people and places in my heart, so others can see what I see and live on with me.

Grief is a measure of how much someone or something meant to us, it is a gift not a burden.

“African Politics exiled me, not the land. Politics will change, but belonging will not change, Africa lives on in me.”

The Gifts We Shared

There are mornings when I sit quietly, not to escape the world, but to listen for the echoes of those who once walked beside me.

Friends whose laughter still lingers in the corners of my memory, whose kindness shaped the man I became. They are gone now, at least in body.

But in memory, they remain vivid, like sunlight on water, flickering but never lost.

I do not grieve what might have been. I do not ache for unfinished conversations or paths we never walked.

What I feel is something quieter, more sacred: gratitude. For the gifts we shared. For the moments that asked nothing of us but presence.

For the kind of memory that doesn’t belong to one person, but to the space between two souls.

A shared memory is of more value than an individual one. It is a living thing, held by both, shaped by both, and carried forward even when one hand lets go.

In those memories, I find not sadness, but affirmation. That we mattered to each other. That our time together was not wasted. That kindness, once given, does not die.

Grief is a measure of how much someone meant to us, not a burden to be carried.

As a child I planted seeds in cracked soil. As an adolescent I tended that garden. For some, those seeds grow weeds. For me, they grew flowering plants.

“Life is like a pebble rolling down a stream, sometimes slowing in deeper water but always moving, never gathering moss. My life has been that pebble.”

As I look back on the seasons of my life, winter’s betrayals, spring’s restless horizons, summer’s resilience, and autumn’s gratitude, I see not just my own journey, but the encounters that shaped it.

Each person, each moment, each shared memory has left its mark.

We all leave our encounters in a sacred place in people’s hearts when we give them with kindness and honesty.

That, I believe, is the true gift of a life lived: not the victories or the possessions, but the memories we share, the laughter we spark, and the dignity we carry forward.

"I carry you in my heart, so you can see what I see and live on with me."