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How a Parent’s Affection Shapes a Child’s Happiness for Life

Babies with very affectionate and attentive parents grow up to be happier, more resilient, and less anxious adults. There have been a number of recent studies that highlight the relationship between parental affection and children’s happiness and success.

Marriage is a Dance

It is a dance of meeting and parting and finding each other again. This type of balanced relationship is what we were striving for on the dance floor, and what we seek out on a daily basis in our relationship.

The after school routine for busy families that will make you smile

"We all stared at the ceiling, and I heard a few deep breaths and sighs as the stresses of the day slipped farther and farther away." This simple trick is the best way to start your after school routine with kids. Bonus: After 5 minutes, you'll be happier and feel more connected as a family.

Adventure into love during The Art and Science of Love presented by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
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Here’s Why Lack of Compatibility Won’t Be the Reason Your Marriage Fails

“Unity doesn’t mean you’re the same. It means you’re together.” This matters more than having everything in common.

Unstructured play is VITAL for kids (so stop entertaining them!)

Research has found that the best predictor of academic performance in the eighth grade was a child’s social skills in the third grade. Just let them play.

Boost your bond—how to stay connected to your spouse after you have kids

What you do every day matters more than the things you do once in awhile. Date nights and saying thank you are a necessity.

Four Reasons Why You Shouldn't Ignore or Punish Toddler Tantrums

"When they tantrum they are not being naughty or manipulative, they’re just being toddlers struggling with big feelings, poor communication skills, and even poorer emotion regulation skills." Popular parenting wisdom advises dealing with toddler tantrums in one of two ways. Ignore the 'attention seeking behaviour' and reward the toddler when t...

‘What do new mothers do all day?’

Close your eyes and measure your day not as tasks, but as feelings, as sounds, as colors. Our culture doesn’t have a good way to measure the amazing things you are accomplishing.

In Grief, Try Personal Rituals

After people did a ritual or wrote about doing one, they were more likely to report thinking that "things were in check" and less likely to feel "powerless." The psychology of rituals in overcoming loss, restoring broken order

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